11/03/2023
SelfEsteem is many things but it's one thing more than anything and it is respecting yourself.
Now, here is a very common issue people have with understanding it, respecting yourself is very subjective, in other words, one person's behavior (to himself) may very well be considered "not an issue" for him,
While another person watching it from the side, may think it's despicable to do it to yourself.
What do I mean by that I mean that each of us have certain standards that we are accustomed to, and feeling very well being around it... everything is relative.
Well, you are used to eat at home with paper plates, and think nothing of it because it was a normal thing in your parents house, another person that is watching this, who only ate using paper plates on picnics, might think it is not respectful to yourself to do so at home... as if you're not treating yourself well, and by that may suggest that you are hurting your self-esteem by doing that to yourself, is that the truth? 
Are you really disrespecting yourself by doing that?
The answer is that it depends on your standards . If your standards do not suggest it has anything wrong with it, then it does not disrespect you, and it will not lower your self-esteem. You see, self-esteem is a very personal view of yourself.
Self-esteem is a lot about self respect, AND will always be  attached to what you consider self-respect .
MentorSharoney
(The Mind Education Dec 2022 volume)