Therapy Reflections | Thony
Leaning into vulnerability really got me through some of my lowest times in 2023. In this clip, I talk about my struggles at work, which were deeply connected to the emotions of losing my dad.
I remember this day vividly; I was falling behind on a few things to prepare for my facility inspection. I was unprepared, and my supervisor had to come help me and my team. The entire drive to the facility, I couldnât shake the feeling of wanting to go home and quit. Aloud, I called for my dadânot to save the day, but to show me that everything would be alright and that Iâd get through this. As I got there, we all got to work, got inspected, and passed.
It was at this moment where I felt my first real breakthrough where a ton of weight lifted off my shoulders, chest - literally my whole body! I was able to breathe again and feel like I can grieve and be supported after these conversations. It was also a time for me to start practicing how to start leaning on others.
- Thony
Link to episode: https://anchor.fm/unlearningpatterns/episodes/Therapy-Reflections-leaning-into-vulnerability--asking-for-help--taking-care-of-ourselves-e2e4qtu
Episode 26: learning how to accept support from others
In episode 26, Thony talks about how he struggles with leaning on other men for help and support. He touches on why he struggles with that and what he is doing to reframe his mindset to allow himself to receive support from those around him.
Link to episode: https://anchor.fm/unlearningpatterns/episodes/EP-26-Lets-Chat-e20bmvc
Meet the owners of @guerrillapastures in episode 25! Pheng and Barbara came back to share how theyâre creating space for their evolving selves as parents, business owners, and partners. They also shared their latest launch of lip balms and paw balms for your furry friends! We love their products and know you will too đ¤
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Have you listened to our latest episode? This episode struck our hearts and has made us more intentional about how we can support our family and friends.
We appreciated hearing Stephanieâs stories and the empathy/understanding she gained for her mother as sheâs on her own journey of motherhood and postpartum depression. Thereâs so many layers to us and weâre always discovering new things about ourselves and others as we peel the layers back.
Hear more of this episode on Anchor, Apple Podcast & Spotify đ§â¨
We need to do more research and learn about mental health and share that knowledge with our communities. We want to call all people, and especially men, to find community with one another and share your challenges and wins. Listen with empathy and compassion.
Vulnerability is strength and it helps build stronger connections. Itâs ok to not know it all and to ask for help. Itâs important for us to continue growing, learning & evolving so we can be better partners and supporters to those we love.
Hear more from Stephanie on episode 24! đ§â¨
Stephanie shares advice for mothers who are going through postpartum depression & anxiety. Listen to episode 24 to hear more of Stephanieâs story!
This is your reminder to take time for yourself. If 5-10 minutes is all you can get, claim it! Take a deep breath and exhale all the guilt that comes with putting ourselves first. We often go weeks without even realizing that we havenât shown up for ourselves. But every day we wake up and commit time for our jobs, family & friends. Make sure to fill your cup so youâre not pouring from an empty one!
Stephanie shares advice for mothers who are going through postpartum depression & anxiety. Listen to episode 24 to hear more of Stephanieâs story!
This is your reminder to take time for yourself. If 5-10 minutes is all you can get, claim it! Take a deep breath and exhale all the guilt that comes with putting ourselves first. We often go weeks without even realizing that we havenât shown up for ourselves. But every day we wake up and commit time for our jobs, family & friends. Make sure to fill your cup so youâre not pouring from an empty one!
âImpostor syndrome is an internal experience of believing that you are not as competent as others perceive you to be, as if you are a fraud.â
Weâve all probably experienced imposter syndrome in some capacity. Know that you are capable, worthy & enough just as you are. đ¤
Listen to episode 22 to hear how Sandy is unlearning imposter syndrome.
We often forget that our parents have their own hopes and dreams that they never got to achieve. Thony shared a story about his dadâs old friend from the refugee camps in Laos who has become a college professor. Hear more of Thonyâs insights in episode 20!
Itâs not easy sitting in the uncomfortable feelings/moments of our patterns. A lot of us avoid this because weâre afraid of what weâll find out about ourselves. We want to remind you that youâre still growing. Who you are in this moment does not define who you will become.
Look within, love those parts that feel unloveable, grow & heal from the narratives that no longer serve you. You get to choose where this pattern continues and ends.
In episode 19, Ila talks about living a shame free life & what it looks like for her. â¨
Living in shame of who we are is lonely & heartbreaking. We hope one day we all can take pride in who we are and in the challenges weâve faced with a community of people that accept us. What does a shame free life look like for you?
Sometimes we minimize the need to set boundaries to make those around us feel more comfortable. But the more we try to avoid it, the more the situation will come up until we decide to make some changes. Hear more of a Thonyâs reflections in episode 18!
What do boundaries mean to you? How do you practice setting them? Weâd love to hear from you!
Listen to episode 18 on Anchor, Spotify, and Apply podcast!
Growth in healing can be frustrating but yet rewarding. Just like how when you start any tasks/projects or trying to achieve certain goals, starting at what you would call âthe beginningâ can make the task very daunting or overwhelming, especially when you think about âhow farâ you still have to go.
I was not only feeling like that but I was also scared at times because I didnât know what would come out of the every steps I take on this journey. Questioning myself âam I really growing?â Because sometimes it felt like I took steps back.
Iâve learned so many helpful tips and tricks along the way that helps me deal with my anxiety and depression. But not only that, the most important thing Iâm learning and still continuing to learn is to be okay with who I am. Accept my flaws and not be ashamed of them. To be more mindful of myself which then allows me to be more mindful of others.
Through it all Iâm glad I stuck through it because now looking back I can see my growth and be very proud of how far Iâve come. I still got a ways to go, but that reflection gives me the energy and power to continue on this journey.
I used to think accountability was only one way. The biggest lesson Iâve learned is to not wait for someone to take accountability for permission to start my healing.
Even when we feel that someone has done us wrong, we should also try to reflect on how we contributed. What boundaries werenât set, what communication was missed, what red flags did we miss, what expectations did we have?
Accountability is a big and scary word but it doesnât have to be that way. We can reframe it for ourselves. I think when we admit our faults, itâs the first step to becoming a more aware and empathetic version of ourselves. Take accountability for your healing. You deserve to heal and to feel good about your life. â¤ď¸
