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22/01/2025

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22/01/2025

Did Baby Boomers create the perfect storm for Gen X anxiety? Or did they unknowingly raise the most resilient (and hilariously unbothered) generation ever? 🤔 In this episode, we discuss the chaos of growing up Gen X—where every game, playground, and news report felt like the apocalypse was pending.

In this episode:

-- The nerve-wracking games like Operation and the Pop-Up Tic Tac Toe game 🎲 that made kids sweat!

-- Playground warfare: dodgeball, Red Rover, and other borderline-dangerous games that ruptured spleens and dislocated shoulders.

-- The rise of 24/7 news 📺 and its anxiety-inducing effect on young minds.

-- How the Baby Boomer “every man for himself” mentality shaped Gen X’s anxious yet feral and unbothered vibe.

💬 Join the convo: What games made YOU the most nervous as a kid? And do you think Baby Boomers are to blame for the feral resilience of Gen X? Tell us in the comments!

19/01/2025

How did you do on the grandparent's quiz on Q&A Sunday in IG and FB stories? See our full answers in this bonus episode! Love this video? Share it! Send it to parents, grandparents, and parents-to-be for a fun challenge and a few laughs.

13/01/2025

I (46F) went into a successful interior design business with my mom (67F), who funded it with her inheritance. She keeps giving friends steep discounts or doing free work, even though we don’t need exposure and it takes time away from paying clients. I think her guilt over her success is driving these decisions, but it’s hurting the business. I told her she shouldn’t accept clients without my approval, and now she and her friends think I’m being controlling. AITA?

12/01/2025

AITA for telling my mom she can’t accept clients without my approval even though she funded our business?

I (46F) went into business with my mom (67F) about two years ago. My mom and I have always been super close—she’s my best friend—and we share a passion for interior design. When her uncle passed away, she received a large inheritance and suggested we start a design business together. I thought it was a great idea since we both love creating beautiful spaces, and it seemed like an amazing opportunity for us to bond while doing what we love.

Mom fully funded the business, and while I contribute a lot to the day-to-day operations, she’s been a wonderful business partner. We’ve been really successful so far and are earning good money.

Here’s where the issue comes in: my mom keeps accepting jobs for her friends at steep discounts—or even for free. She insists it’s good exposure, but we don’t need exposure. Our client list is full, and the business is thriving. The problem is, these friends almost never share our work on social media or leave reviews. They rarely refer us to paying clients, and when they do, it’s often to their friends who also want discounts or free work…

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04/01/2025

This week on Chat and Bother, we took a quiz about Gen Z music and slang, courtesy of our Gen Z daughter! She put together some of her generation's biggest hits and trendiest phrases to see if we can keep up—or if we’re hopelessly stuck in our Gen X ways.

Join us as we try (and often fail) to decode today’s pop culture. We guarantee plenty of laughs along the way!

👉 Be part of the fun! Follow us on Instagram and Facebook to catch Q&A Sunday in our Stories. You can answer fun questions and see how many of your fellow Chat and Bother listeners agree with you.

🎙️ Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share this video with your fellow Gen Xers and millennials and your favorite Gen Zers!

01/01/2025

29/12/2024

New episode about a heated AITA post that’s sparking plenty of opinions. A mother is thinking about taking her ex-husband to court to help pay for their child’s private school tuition after discovering he’s planning to pay tuition at the same school for his other child with his current wife. The twist? The ex might not be able to afford both, and tensions are running high as questions of fairness, finances, and parental responsibility come into play.

Is the mom justified in her actions or is she stirring up unnecessary drama?

27/12/2024

AITA for taking my ex-husband to court to amend our child support order so he has to help pay for private school for our child?

I (44F) am the mother of two children: an 18-year-old who is heading to college soon and a 13-year-old who just got accepted into a prestigious private school. My ex-husband (45M) and I divorced about 10 years ago, and he has since remarried a 34-year-old woman. Together, they have a 13-year-old child who was born during our marriage.

Recently, I found out through my ex-sister-in-law (not my ex-husband or his wife) that their 13-year-old also got accepted into the same prestigious private school. My ex-husband and his wife have decided to send their child there, and they were planning to pay the full tuition. However, when our 13-year-old also got accepted, my ex refused to pay anything toward their tuition.

Full story 👇🏾👇🏾👇🏾

26/12/2024

Anybody watching this reached “gimme dat baby” years old??? Help us, Lawd. Pray for Gen X. Colonoscopies, bad knees, and (somebody else’s) baby fever are all upon us.

26/12/2024

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This year, my sister (38F) asked if she could bring her emotional support cat. She’s had him for about six months, and I know he means a lot to her. However, her cat has a habit of jumping on counters, which I find really gross (especially in a kitchen setting), and she’s mentioned before that he doesn’t get along well with other animals.

AITA for Ruining My Sister’s Christmas by Saying No to Her Cat?

15/12/2024

My daughter’s stepmother showers her with expensive gifts and quality time, but my daughter always complains about her to me. Would I be the as***le for telling her stepmother that her efforts haven’t “bought” my daughter’s love?

04/12/2024

Parents of adult kids - are you still giving gifts for Christmas? New AITA here 👉🏾 https://chatandbother.com/w/im-retired-and-done-playing-santa-does-that-make-me-the-bad-guy/

04/12/2024

The coolest thing about being home with our kids was showing them what we could do and watching them be amazed. Did we grow up to use all of our talents? Not exactly. Did you? Check out this episode and chime in! https://chatandbother.com/w/what-did-you-want-to-be-when-you-grew-up/

04/12/2024

AITA for telling my adult kids we’re going on vacation instead of buying as many Christmas gifts as usual?

I (62F) recently retired, and my husband (65M) and I are finally starting to enjoy this new phase of life. After decades of hard work, my husband suggested we treat ourselves to a bucket-list vacation. It’s pricey, but we can afford it, and honestly, I’m excited to spend time focusing on us after years of putting our kids first.

Here’s the thing: Christmas has always been my thing. When I was working, I loved going all-out for the holidays, buying multiple gifts for each of my nine grandkids and still giving meaningful presents to my four adult children (ages 28 to 37). But this year, with me retired, it feels like time to scale back.

The issue? My kids don’t seem to feel the same. They’ve already sent over their Christmas wish lists, including their kids’ lists, just in time for the Black Friday and Cyber Monday sales. Normally, I’d jump into action, but my husband pointed out that it’s not our responsibility to play Santa anymore. He thinks we should give one thoughtfully chosen, reasonably priced gift per grandchild and let the parents handle the rest. He also doesn’t think we should buy gifts for our adult kids this year, given that they’re grown and capable of providing for themselves.

I see his point, but one of my kids is going through a messy divorce and struggling financially and emotionally. Another was recently laid off and… 👉🏾swipe for full story

04/12/2024

How long can YOU hold a grudge? https://chatandbother.com/w/how-long-can-you-hold-a-grudge/