InfinitePolyam

15/01/2025

Are you polysatisfied? What is it? This is a term I don’t see used and we’re making fetch happen!

I’m not fully positive who came up with this term but the only thing I can find through a search is from Page Turner with Poly.Land in 2018, who likely is the one who coined this term.

My amazing friend Tamara told me of this term a while back as we talked about being happy where we’re at.

Many polyamorists are familiar with the term polysaturated although some may not be

Polysaturated - Not open to new partners and at a limit on partnership and this can be due to one of a number of factors

Polysatisfied - content and satisfied with how things are at the given moment

Polysaturated has its place and is an important term. However, it feels as though we’re expected as polyamorous people to date up to a point of saturation. I’ve even known some new to polyamory think they must take someone up on their offer of a date if they aren’t saturated when they may otherwise not really be interested.

Is polysaturation what we should be striving for or should we really strive for a point of being polysatisfied?

I also realize not everyone is necessarily seeking either of these things and it’s also ok to not be polysatisfied and want more partners. I’ll introduce you now to the term my partner’s (monogamous) bff came up with for my partner….polydehydrated - when you’re super thirsty for another partner like please just somebody please??!!!

Like most things, none of this is an absolute, may not apply to everyone in the same ways, and people can use the terms they like to use.

I brought this term up in a local polyamory group and no one, even other long time polyamorists had heard the term. I think this needs to be one added into the polyamory terminology!

Share your thoughts!

12/01/2025

I love my partners and would love to see them at every moment of the day but I also need alone time too so it’s a perfect balance for me. There’s only so much time in a week to divide up between time with friends, time with partners, time with my child, time to myself, time for responsibilities (work, housework), time to recover, etc and I don’t want to be with just one partner as often as I would if I was monogamous. Of course these situations vary for everyone.

01/01/2025

Happy New Year! Starting the year off to remind everyone your own version of polyamory can look how you want it. It may even look vastly different this year than last. Maybe you have a very extended polycule or maybe it’s a small network. Maybe you have 3 partners or maybe you have zero. Maybe you have blurry lines on who is a friend vs partner or maybe you give a clearly defined line between friend vs partner. Maybe you have some casual relationships or maybe you don’t want any casual dynamics.

30/12/2024

Text: You may encounter other polyamorous people who “do polyamory” differently from you. One amazing thing about polyamory is there is no one specific way someone must live their life or how they are involved in relationships of all kinds. It may feel overwhelming or possibly bad practice when you encounter someone doing things in a way that differs from your own. Do what works best for you while others should do what’s best for themselves and their relationships. Celebrate our diversity.

24/12/2024

Trying to resist the urge to yell “Nerds!!!” At my wife and her boyfriend while they play DnD with their group 😅

I make sure to take every opportunity to tell my partners they are nerds.



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05/12/2024

I’m polysaturated because I don’t have the energy to tell even more people I don’t know what I want for dinner



Talk dirty to me! What are you having for dinner or what did you have?

28/11/2024

No matter who you are spending your day with or your dynamics, I see you!

Today, I am cooking for my husband and 10yo daughter and spending the day with them. Tomorrow, I have to work, but my partner will come over that evening and we will have a mix of more cooking and leftovers.

How are you spending your day?

24/11/2024

It’s sort of ok to do I guess but not when you have kids omg. I could never!

23/11/2024

They all end in disaster!

07/08/2024

I get asked a LOT of questions and I love answering them! I love answering questions that are asked in good faith and for understanding. I do have to consider the privacy of my partners, exes, metas, etc so I don’t answer some. I don’t typically respond to questions that are not asked in good faith unless I’m choosing to have fun with the answer.

Polyamorous people are often asked questions as if we’ve never even remotely considered scenarios or how we’d handle them. Do you really think we don’t have conversations with partners?

“But what if you...” - We’d talk about it

“Have you considered what would happen if...” -yep we’ve already talked about it

“What would you do in the case of…” -uh huh talked about that one too

“Ok but…” - that one’s not even a concern wtf

I find most of those types of questions I’m asked are preloaded with assumptions that don’t even apply to me. And for the ones that do apply, they’re also phrased in a way of assuming that I’m too immature to have thought about those things.

This varies for everyone, but I get asked most about kids or prevention, finances, and breakups. I can easily tell if a question is asked in good faith for understanding or if it’s asked as judgement.

Then they wonder why I don’t answer their nonsense.

05/08/2024

Credit to .to.luna_ on Threads

personally a large part of understanding polyamory was recognizing that relationships don’t have to be romantic or sexual to be just as significant

04/08/2024

Why are we standing in front of these abandoned and falling apart buildings? My husband, Brandon and I are visiting family in our hometown and we went back to the places we met- a pawn shop and a bike shop. Ironically, the businesses on the sign at the time had nothing to do with how we met. Both places regularly had local bands play shows. Brandon says they were like a mullet - business in the front, party in the back.

We first met at the pawn shop, but didn’t really know one another. I mostly just knew who he was and that he was the drummer for the band, Deprivation. The bike shop (that I don’t believe ever sold a bike) had maybe 5 bicycles inside, but was essentially a party house ran by a classmate, my friend Steve. I was 17 when I started going to these shows, telling my mom I was spending the night with my best friend Nancy. My mom wouldn’t have approved of me being there.

Anyways, Brandon and I started talking at the bike shop and here we are 23 years later still talking one another’s heads off. Missing is a picture in front of the now closed down Applebees where we had our first date. So these ugly buildings are part of our “love story” and one that’s cheesy and weird.

Photo credit to our 10yo who just wanted to hurry and get back in the car 🤣

27/07/2024

Happy 16th wedding anniversary to Brandon and I! Our wedding anniversary is a smaller thing, with our dating anniversary as our true anniversary. But I guess society says we’re supposed to celebrate so tell us happy anniversary lol!

We’re on a yearly small vacation we take to the beach with long time friends and their kids, plus our child. Our beach vacation and planned day at the water park got changed up due to lots of storms so yay for indoor plans!

21/07/2024

Most of the polycule got together for a night out to an interactive art display. Double yay for all of our efforts in what I always say takes a ton of logistical planning and for our night out happening during the week of visibility for non-monogamy as that part wasn’t planned. We had a lot of fun!

10/07/2024

I’m seeing a slow change in the definition of polyamory. I would support this IF it was coming from polyamorous people, but the definition change seems to be coming from those who aren’t polyamorous and causing confusion to those newer to polyamory as well.

Polyamory is NOT the umbrella term for all non monogamy. Non monogamy is the umbrella term.

Polyamory is NOT a new term for swinging. They don’t mean the same thing. They are 2 different forms of non monogamy with some community overlap.

Language does change over time, but when this change is coming from news articles full of inaccuracies and social media posts from people who “knew some poly people,” why should we change our language to fit this? I’ve been told so many times I’m not polyamorous because everyone isn’t dating everyone. This is false. I’m not changing my label based on others’ understanding of polyamory.

05/07/2024

It’s a common belief that many men want to be polyamorous. Based on my observations as a polyamorous woman who’s not at all new to this or to creating content, what more men actually want is control,it’s not about monogamy or polyamory. 95% of the time I get a comment slu- shaming me or going off in some capacity of my lack of respect, it’s from someone appearing to be a man. Men don’t like that I’m not being controlled by a male partner. It threatens them even when they aren’t the one dating me.

Don’t be fooled by “poly” men either. They will use this label as an element of control disguised as polyamory. Many have assumptions of what polyamory is based on them. There are many amazing polyamorous men and when we step back and listen, there’s a huge difference in the ways in which the two groups speak/their actions and control is a major dividing line. Polyamory in cishet men isn’t as common as some think, and some get big mad when a woman is polyamorous because patriarchy 🤷‍♀️

25/06/2024

Myself and several other awesome people are mentioned in this article. As a polyamory content creator, I get approached by a lot of journalists and I am cautious in who I respond to. This journalist did a great job!

https://www.allure.com/story/what-is-a-polycule?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAab47SZC6BCETth5LN1HuN6VI6rYvtjEE0VXqJVs1fXSk69KZchULOZla_I_aem_7dyIdgpdeYKEfjoCk66Obg

Everything you need to know about this particularly buzzy form of polyamory.

24/06/2024

Polyamory, but because you like finding surprise fresh leftovers in the fridge.

Credit to on threads