My Gay Dating Experiences

28/02/2024

24/02/2024

Dirty minds spot things when shopping.

21/02/2024

Not a bad idea.

16/02/2024

I would too.

12/02/2024

I call many of my gay friends babe and hun.

29/01/2024

I saw this delightful card advertised on Facebook this morning.

24/01/2024

On Friday I got around to telling FWB Dan that I now have a BF. After which, he went quiet/disappeared but then started messaging me yesterday, asking me questions and stuff. Plus, as expected, jokingly flirting/trying to lure me, but I think he knows my intentions of being exclusive so I could tell he was joking. Sort of. I referred to him as FWB Dan, even though he's no longer my FWB, but I'll probably always refer to him as that in my head. He's good for banter now, but no sh****ng.

Also, Ray from Lewisham popped up again today, sniffing around. Asking how things are going with me and my BF plus dropping hints he wants a deep kn****ng. Rather curiously, whenever he dropped a hint about wanting to meet up, he immediately sent another staying 'hahahaha'. Interesting tactic there.

13/01/2024

BBC News have a 'LGBT & Identity Reporter' named Josh Parry. One can tell he's an eager power bottom.

10/01/2024

And men.

08/01/2024

After spending the weekend with my boyfriend Gonçalo at his house, I am even more confident that I have made the right choice with him. I was previously a bit wobbly with my thoughts and internal challenges but the more time I spend with him, the more I realise what a catch he is.

08/01/2024

A couple of guys from the past reappeared on Friday. First there was Stefan, who now lives in Bristol having moved there from Gloucester last summer. I hadn't heard from him since May last year. Since then, he's found himself a boyfriend, but he's promiscuous and they're in an open relationship. I pointed out that I was now in a monogamous relationship with my boyfriend Gonçalo and he then said he'd like to meet us to 'play' with us both. I declined his kind offer but said I'm ok to remain as friends.

Then during Friday evening, while I was at my boyfriend's house, Ray from Lewisham WhatsApp'd me. As with Stefan, I also hadn't heard from Ray since May last year. He wanted to meet up but I declined because I'm now taken. His futile efforts resumed today but obviously didn't work.

02/01/2024

As Cayden was being flirty I decided I should tell him about my new status. I explained that following the date I had with him back in December 2022, I decided I liked him and wanted more dates, however he always seemed to be busy. He said I should have tried to reschedule to another time but then he also said he thought he told me that he wasn't looking for a relationship back then. That wasn't made clear to me at all back then so I guess it was a misunderstanding between us.

Lee, the closeted married FWB from Reigate, messaged me this morning. I promptly had to tell him that I was now off the market as I have a boyfriend. He was happy for me and agreed to stay in contact but with no naughtiness.

Also, Fernando the Brazilian guy I saw a few times last year messaged me this afternoon and I also promptly told him that I was now taken.

01/01/2024

I leave 2023 off of the dating scene. Gonçalo & I are now officially dating and that is monogamously, so no more wh***ng for me. Whilst dealing with emotions regarding the ex / husband and the recently developed feelings for FWB Adam, I realised that Gonçalo is right for me. We're on the same wavelength and get on well so I'm happy to see where this goes. He came to my home during the evening of Christmas day and stayed with me for four nights and it was a lovely time, making me wish I could spend longer with him. I feel very comfortable with him around and he makes me feel wanted and valued. I've now come off all the dating apps, having either deleted or suspended my dating profiles.

Out of all the dates I had, there were a few which were more memorable than others. There was Diego, the Brazilian from Hounslow; Yeison, the Columbian from Vauxhall and Cayden, who lived in south Africa for most of his life, from Worthing. I would have happily dated any of these but they didn't go anywhere, however I did stay in contact with Cayden. Speaking of which, Cayden has been trying to lure me over the last couple of weeks but I'm resisting the temptation now that I'm taken. If he had tried this a couple of months ago, the outcome might have been different. Sean, the Filipino nurse from East Grinstead was also a lovely person, however not quite my type. But whenever I see him, or a pic of him, I can’t help thinking how much of a sweet innocent guy he is. I enjoyed my time with Yim from south Korea but I realised the spark wasn't there for me which was a little annoying as I did quite like him. We're still in contact as friends though.

There were a few hook-ups or pseudo-dates with memorable guys. Matheos, the Brazilian from Ireland, nice guy and very handsome but not 100% compatible in bed. Ryan, the Filipino nurse from Redhill. Very good looking but gives me the distinct impression he's not entirely interested and just wants to meet when he's bored and h***y. Rodolph, the Filipino from Horsham. Cute guy, great s*x, but a little weird, has issues he needs to overcome and definitely not ready for anything long term. Ray, the Filipino nurse from Lewisham. Cute guy, but a bit too s*xually orientated for me. And there was Mason from Crawley. The guy I once had a thing for but I think it became apparent to us both this year that the spark between us had fizzled.

Of course, a big mention should go to FWB Adam, who I had developed feelings for towards the end of the year. Looking back, I realise I spent great times out and about with him. I quite enjoyed hanging out with him. We got on well and the sh****ng was absolutely amazing. I've told him about Gonçalo & I and we've agreed to stay as friends, albeit without benefits. I do feel a little bad, like I'm now deserting him and knowing we've had our last pizza & poke, but that's life I guess.

So moving forward, there won't be much updates on here from now on. Certainly no more f**kary from the di*****ds on Grindr for me anymore. I might occasionally post a funny gay related pic though.

It's been fun, so long slags x

25/12/2023

Merry Christmas Facebookers.

(This isn't me).

15/12/2023

I've spent the last 3 nights with Gonçalo. He arrived Tuesday afternoon and left lunchtime today because of his work rota. We went to Brighton on Wednesday and had a lazy day indoors yesterday. I'm still a little conflicted about my feelings about him / us, however, I am liking him more and more the more time I spend with him. I feel comfortable in his presence and we make each other happy. We get on well. I think I have a warm feeling inside when I see or think of him rather than a buzz. Maybe this is normal? Maybe this is not a bad thing? Maybe it's just different to what I expect but still acceptable? I don't know, I still have my reservations. I think I have built up expectations or an image of the type of guy I want to be with and maybe I just need to relax or adjust these internal restrictions because even though he's a little different, he's definitely a diamond compared to most others.

On a similar note, on this day 6 years ago, I was flying to Americaland to spend Christmas with the guy I would later marry. On that day, the intense buzzing inside was unparalleled, it was electric.

10/12/2023

Still single AF. Sort of...

Ryan the Nurse contacted me through WhatsApp last weekend wanting to meet up. Seeing as he ignored the message I sent him about 5 weeks ago, I chose to reciprocate that gesture. Although I find him very attractive, I'm done with him messing me around.

I attended a wedding reception on Thursday night and 3 guys caught my attention. One was named Tim and looked similar to my husband. Apparently he's 29, bis*xual and from Cheltenham (coincidentally where Gonçalo lives). Another was the brother of my friend, one of the brides, but he's straight. I don't know anything about the third guy other than he was tall ish with a beard.

Apart from flirts through BiggerCity, I haven't heard from FWB Adam for over a week now and sort of get the impression he isn't into me as much as he seemingly used to be.

There's been the usual random offers for s**gs through Grindr which haven't interested me in the slightest.

Although I previously sort of broke it off with Gonçalo, we agreed to stay as friends and still see each other. We're still in regular contact and on Friday night, along with his twin brother Pedro and his twin brother's partner Joel, we stayed in a very expensive hotel in Oxford. Although the rooms were mega expensive (4-5 times more than my usual hotel budget) this didn't cost us anything as it was a perk of Joel's job. One of our waiters was from Bulgaria and was very smashable. Inevitably, Gonçalo and I s**gged a couple of times which was good. We chatted for hours in bed. I do like him more than I did before, but I'm still not 100% sure. We're kinda carrying on like before, still in regular contact, still flirting, still seeing each other with cuddles but we're not actually dating or committed. Blurred lines?

I've explained my conundrum to my husband and friends and they all recommend giving Gonçalo a try even if I have my doubts. I know he's an amazing guy but I'm still not sure. As we're not officially dating as such, we're just friends (who also s**g), I guess there's a little less pressure on now. I'll just see how it goes for a while.

10/12/2023

So, I woke up on Thursday morning to an email from the ex BF Martin, the guy who I was dating before I got together with my husband. Rather than contacting me through WhatsApp, he emailed me instead, citing a new phone being the reason.

He was saying how much he missed me and missed being with me. Unfortunately, his dad is in quite a bad way in hospital and I gather the prognosis isn't looking good.

I'll be giving him emotional support where I can but have my guard up because of our history. Although, there is temptation there because we did make a good couple throughout most of our time together but I shall resist temptation for a few reasons.

07/12/2023

Wow. Have just woken up to an eye opening email from an ex. No bad news (for me) but maybe in a slightly tricky situation now. I'm still trying to process it. Updates will follow.

05/12/2023

WTF, Naasir / Danyal is back for another try. Last Thursday after I had pointed out to him that he had ghosted me back in August, he tried to make excuses and I just ignored him. He subsequently blocked me on Grindr. Yesterday evening he sent me a message on Hinge, through which we initially was in contact during August, asking how I am. Again, I'm ignoring him.

Nassir / Danyal from Walthamstow contacted me this morning through Grindr interested in meeting up for a date. We were in contact during August and agreed to meet up for a date, however he ghosted me on the day. He called himself Naasir when we was chatting during August but is now calling himself Danyal. It took me a few moments to realise it was him but when I did realise, I decided to ignore him. He missed his chance.