15/03/2024
3 empty boxes of wine.
An empty case of Bud Light Lime.
An empty bottle of Ativan. A seedy motel
on the wrong part of Colfax.
If I was gonna do this, I was going big. 54 BAC big. Benzos topping off this lethal last hurrah.
This is where I was 10 years ago last night. I had resigned to myself that I was going to die but I didn’t really want to. I knew I had one last shot to course correct, but first I had to medically detox. These were the hardest 5 days of my life. This is how the past decade all started.
10 years sober. 10. A decade. I have seen this day coming from a distance. I used to always wonder what it would be like if I made it a decade sober. That’s 3,653 days. That’s a lot of “one day at a time”. Then I am reminded of one of my favorite quotes ever. “We tend to overestimate what we can do in a year but underestimate what we can accomplish in a decade”
How true that has proven to be.
My therapist asking me why I couldn’t pull my head out of my ass, me running headlong into Multi Level Marketing with Herbalife, leasing a club, helping people, pretending to be excited about shake mix, then one fateful day being interviewed about it on radio. My life changed forever. For 8 years, talking to the city I love, sharing my message occasionally and leaning heavy on country music, dad jokes and friendships. It was a journey that led me to launch a free sobriety platform, to buy a party bus, to marry people, to voice commercials, even sell doTERRA. What a wild resume!
That all is window dressing in comparison to what is making my eyes overflow. I met the most beautiful woman 3 months in. I told her my story and she loved me anyway. She continued to love me, we traveled far and wide, we said our vows to make it forever and then we added 1. These 2 girls in my life were my life. My desire to drink had all but vanished because in their eyes, I was their everything. I had the greatest responsibility in the world, dad and husband. Then we added another. So here I sit, 2 little girls that have never had to see how daddy used to be. They have a daddy that will show them what to demand of the men in their lives, they have a daddy that will be present, they have the daddy they deserve. Then I look at the most beautiful woman in the world, my wife. My rock, my support and the one person that will always demand the best out of me. I will give her everything I have, as long as I have because this past decade has had her by my side and you can’t shake us, break us and I wouldn’t be who I am without her.
So there you have it. If you follow me here, this is what sobriety actually feels like. It’s real, it’s raw, it’s fun and beautiful and exciting. It’s freedom and joy, and hardship but it’s real. It’s simple. It’s everything I deserved so I can give everyone what they deserve from me. My former alcoholism doesn’t haunt me anymore, it fuels me. I want to help as many people as I can, whenever I can, as often as I can live the life I know they can. I don’t want to be remembered for my sobriety, but for the impact I am able to have. My girls births, my wedding day, wonderful moments, nearly the best thing that has ever happened. The best however was hearing a voice in the ER as I was riddled with alcohol poisoning that simply said “It’s done. Not in an hour, not in 10 minutes, it’s done now” and knowing that I was done. That I was going to live. That I was going to make it. I wouldn’t have anything or anyone without my sobriety.
10 years, an entire new life. A chance to make this life right, to be who I was meant to, to help who really wanted it. I am proud of myself and that took a long time to say. I’m proud of you too. I am grateful for you. I can’t thank you enough for all you’ve added to my life over the last decade, and it’s just getting going! Remember, you are worth all of this. You deserve the life you dream of, you are so amazing, please believe it.
Double digits. A decade. 10 years, 3,653 days. I wouldn’t change a single thing.
Much much love y’all. Thank you so so much!
❤️X