23/05/2022
Stop blaming Social media for ya problems or triggered emotions……. ❌
So many are talking about how “fake” social media is.
So I wanted to share my perceptive in hopes it may support you in your experience here if your choosing to continue spending your precious time on social media.
People share their lives and themselves on here but most only share some parts.
But we are dealing with real people with real emotions, real lives and real experiences.
Most only share the highlight reels.
Many only run a business from here.
It’s easy to blame social media for causing so many problems within us and in society.
But what about self ownership?
What about self responsibility?
It’s like saying it’s my parents fault I’m like this, it’s my partners fault I acted like that, it’s my friends fault I feel like this.
ITS NO ONES FAULT BUT YOUR OWN.
Just like social media.
It’s your responsibility to understand how and why it’s used.
Choose with intention how YOU will use it.
Understand that not everyone shows their full lives on here.
In fact most don’t show every piece of their life but fact is that happens in the real world to!
People don’t share everything with everyone and why should they have to?
The complexities of life, the polarity, the depth most people don’t yet understand themselves so how can they share it if they don’t truly understand it?
Not everyone shows the good, bad and ugly.
Not everyone has to.
It’s everyone’s choice what they share.
It’s your choice not to compare.
To understand people are putting their best foot forward here.
That people edit and filter almost everything so comparing your at home real life to the perfectly curated influencer life is ridiculous.
But when you do it because of your own insecurities why is it “social media’s” fault?
Can you not take responsibility for your own actions, your own perception and your own insecurities that are triggered when you see this?
In a world where virtual reality is only getting stronger it means if you want to play here you need to also get stronger.
In your boundaries,
In your discernment,
It your availability,
In your self worth,
So yes it’s real but it’s also fragmented pieces that people are willing to show you.
It’s not ALL of someone’s life.
Just because people don’t share all of themselves with you doesn’t mean the parts they do share are fake.
No one owes anyone anything and I believe it’s truly a gift when people do share their stories, their knowledge, their hearts.
So next time you see someone’s highlight as your having your breakdown remember it’s YOU that’s comparing your current situation to someone else’s without any context.
Next time you feel less than because someone has shared their wins please remember:
We all have breakdowns,
We all cry,
We all make mistakes,
We all sometimes want to give up,
We all fall off in our commitments,
We all don’t hit every life goal,
We all have self worth stuff that gets triggered,
We all sometimes look homeless,
We all sometimes want to hide in bed all day,
And it’s ok if you don’t show that!
Your social media is yours, your personal brand is yours and you get to show up here exactly how you choose to.
It’s also your responsibility to understand how it works and not get sucked into comparison by thinking that the person you admire, your following doesn’t have their own s**t days to just like you!
We get to take our power back by remembering to not pedestal people.
By owning our own experience on these platforms and taking full radical self responsibility for our perception of what we see.
If your getting to the point where it’s disruptive, negative, toxic then take a break.
Switch your phone off, plant your feet in nature, put your face in the sun, hike a mountain, swim in the ocean, connect with your bestie, hug someone, create something.
Remember your social media life and your in person life can be seperate. They are also intertwined in every aspect.
They are both real and they both can benefit your life greatly.
I LOVE social media.
I have created the most divine friendships, a 7 figure empire, collaborations with people globally and it inspires me, teaches me and calls me forward in the most beautiful ways.
I am also extremely intentional with my time on it.
I am deeply connected to myself and my truth.
I play in my own magical world here on the planet with people in nature more than anything because that’s what lights me up.
And I know if it’s all getting to much, if I am overwhelmed, if it feels toxic here on these platforms I am the one in control of my time on it, my perception and my experience.
If I am having this experience it has more to do with what’s going on internally rather than externally.
We get to end the blame game and start taking some radical self responsibility because no one is holding a gun to your head making you do anything in life.
What you consume, what you create, what you give, what you receive……
Is all a choice so choose wisely and take back your power.
I am so grateful for this platform.
I am also so grateful I understand how it works and am educated so I can create a positive user experience that supports me, empowers me and allows me to be in control.
If your blaming social media right now for anything that’s happening in your life or the world it might be time to look in the mirror and do some deep inquiry into the user……
Once we reframe what this is, just fast information and access to infinite possibilities.
Only then can we use it as a tool and not a distraction.
The Truth is: We can’t make someone else in charge of how and when we feel what we feel.
How do you feel about social media? What does it bring up for YOU?
P.s candid shot of me FEELING fabulous on a beach in San Diego living my best life working from my phone on social media ✌️
