Self-care, self-love... is not always a beautiful thing.
Sometimes it's cooking yourself healthy meals instead of eating out, making yourself exercise when you want to stay in bed, it's no longer running from your problems and calling the distraction a solution but doing the work to get to the core of the pain.
It's often doing the ugliest thing that you have to do, like telling a toxic friend you can't be friends anymore or figuring out a way to accept yourself so you’re not constantly exhausted from trying to be everything for everyone.
It's sad that the world has had to take something that was supposed to be such a natural thing and make it into something "trendy" in order for people to give themselves permission to even consider doing it, lest they feel guilty....lord forbid.
But true self-love's not all salt baths, chocolate cake and weekend getaways, but instead making the choice to build a life.... you don’t need to regularly escape from. And that often takes doing the thing you least want to do, but need to do.
It often means looking your failures and disappointments square in the eye and re-strategizing or not giving in to your immediate desires. It often means making sacrifices, or living a way that other people won’t, so you can later live in a way that other people can’t.
It's allowing yourself to be normal and unexceptional sometimes. Of letting go of 6-pack ab goals and keeping up with fake friends to connecting with yourself and making choices for your long-term health and wellness.
It's learning how to stop trying to “fix yourself” and instead start taking care of yourself… and then finding that when you take care lovingly...it solves a lot of the problems you were trying to fix in the first place.
It means being the hero of your own life, and re-prioritizing what you have if you have to, until your everyday life isn’t something you need therapy to recover from. It's deciding to choose a life that feels good....over a life tha
we think we know somebody...
but we dont, not always, not really ... sometimes, we learn
the hard way
Heather Lynne : The Reflection in the Mirror
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something I've had to come to terms with, to learn the hard way about ... are the consequences of being too late... of taking too long
because love can have an expiration date
the heart can only hang around and wait for so long ...until it becomes too painful... and it needs to move on ...if it ever wants to heal
i mean you can't blame a person for needing to move on, you know... they can't just sit around and wait for you to wake the hell up and see what's right in front of you
it gets to be too much...the pain of you constantly making the same mistakes... of hurting them over and over.. of having to be forgiven again and again for the same thing... of waiting and waiting for you to change ....for you to find time for them ....for you to make them a priority
and one day you turn around and you realize you took too long... when you finally have the time and you finally come around it's too late... you didn't realize there was an expiration date.... you had just needed a little more time ...just a little bit longer to get your s*** together
but while you were trying to get your s*** together.... you weren't reciprocating.... you weren't giving back and it all became one-sided... it became too lonely for them... they tried to wait... they tried to make it work...like they'd hoped it would for so long
and if there's one thing i've learned about hope is it can kill a person.... holding on and hoping can kill you slowly... it's a slow suicide that you don't even realize has a death grip on your heart until it's too late... and you find yourself out of time...
expiration date.... expired
Heather Lynne : The Reflection in the Mirror
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Heather Lynne : The Reflection in the Mirror
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This is one of my favorite meditation spots, just off the South Trail at Forney Creek in Denver NC. There's not alot of people here most mornings and the huge rock overlooking the creek is the perfect spot to connect to Mother Nature.
And that's the point... to connect. That's what most of us are missing in this fast paced world where everything's in constant motion 24/7.
Most people don't even realize how disconnected they truly are.. from nature... their partner... their kids... their friends.. even from themselves. They think they're connected because of the device in their hands every waking moment. That by being able reach anyone or find out anything at the drop of a hat they're "connected"... they're connected, sure, sadly to the wrong things.
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