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30/06/2023

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"I wish my mum and dad would get back together"

Did you know children who were born in a nuclear family set up (their biological mum and dad married) but later their parents separated have a secret fantasy of their parents getting back together??

Fantasies that their parents will get over what made them separate, get back together and live happily ever after. Just like in fairly tales.

Did you know why children wish this? They internalize their mum and dad as a component of their being such that they cannot clearly conceptualize being outside that arrangement.

Even the kids who knew both their biological parents but one of the parents remarried, they have a secret wish that the original nuclear family they began life in would get reconstituted.

What does this tell you?? Children take a very long time to get over a breakup of their parents. Especially if they were above 5 years such that all they know is their parents under one roof. They can even have a secret wish even for 10 years or even a lifetime that they wish their parents would one day come back to living under one roof.

This is why when a marriage breakup happens and there are children involved, the parents must offer children support during the transition process.

Again, make it clear to the children you're never going to get back together with the other parent. This will reduce their fantasy of wishing that their parents might get back together. Let the children see you have moved on especially emotionally. Let the children see you're not bitter with their other parent. They will feel safe which will help them face reality.

Now, for those women who move back and forth in your marriage. You have been married for 10 years but you have walked out 30 times and coming back. Others even lost count of the times they have walked out and then came back. This is very wrong for the children. You're denying them any chance of having stability in their lives. You're making them live in

24/06/2023

Provided you paid nothing will happen

20/06/2023

You stumbled in your youth
so you could learn to walk with grace.

You fell when you attempted great things
so you could rise to greater heights.

You lost your way on your journey
so you could find a better path.

You were broken by life's challenges
so you could rebuild yourself anew.

You faced rejection and failure
so you could learn resilience and perseverance.

You made mistakes and faced consequences
so you could grow in wisdom and experience.

You faced your fears and doubts
so you could discover your courage and faith.

And you encountered obstacles and resistance
so you could develop creativity and innovation.

For if your life had been perfectly flawless
and your path had been perfectly linear,
rather than filled with ups and downs,
and twists and turns,
and if you had been treated perfectly and perfectly loved, you would not have become the wise, enlightened, mature, loving, sensitive, caring and empathetic person
that you are now.

20/06/2023

1 follower, the journey of a thousand miles has just begun.

19/06/2023

Kuachwa na Dem anapenda doh nikama kumaliza loan ya pikipiki 🏍🏍 😏

18/06/2023

Nilisaidia beste yangu kenja alete mgeni. Kumbe mgeni ni wife material, amefua nguo zangu zote na akaosha nyumba akidhani ni ya jamaa😆😊
Bro, unaleta mgeni tena lini? 😆😆
Mungu aendelee kunibariki

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