Spilling the Tea

09/01/2022

The New Year is Here! We need New Topics and New Guest! Join us if you want to share the tea!!!

08/12/2021

Spilling the Tea is inviting new guest to come share topics you want to hear! What do you want to hear?

11/07/2021

What is Attachment Theory?
Attachment Theory is the single largest predictor of success in your relationships, whether they are romantic, familial or platonic.

There are four types of Attachment Styles, all with different characteristics:

*Fearful Avoidant
Do you often flip-flop between hot and cold, sometimes confused about how you feel towards your loved ones?

*Anxious Preoccupied
Do you feel afraid of your loved ones pulling away and constantly seek more closeness in your relationships

*Dismissive Avoidant
Do you find yourself fearing being pressured in your relationships, while often craving independence and freedom?

*Secure
Do you find you can effectively communicate and feel vulnerable in your relationships?

11/07/2021

What is your attachment style? This is important for dating!

Attachment Theory is the single largest predictor of success in your relationships, whether they are romantic, familial or platonic. There are four types of Attachment Styles, all with different characteristics:

02/06/2021

Welcome to Spilling the Tea
This Podcast is your Podcast! What topics would you like to discuss?

17/05/2021

This week on Spilling the Tea!!!!! Relationships Uncut!

Education with Kaino and Chala

21/03/2021

We Spilling Tea in Tampa Next Week!

Tamika and Chala
T-n-C

21/03/2021

I spent my 20s being a full-time parent so when I’m wildin in my 40s, mind your business 😫

21/03/2021

https://anchor.fm/spillingtheteapod/message

Exciting Conversations with Both Sides Represented! The Audience decides which side They Agree With! I Agree with T or I Agree with C!!!!

30/11/2020

Join Chala and I as we discuss this post!!!!

Sis, the inability to receive support from others is a trauma response.

Your “I don’t need anyone, I’ll just do it all myself” conditioning is a survival tactic. You needed it to shield your tender heart from abuse, neglect, betrayal, and disappointment from those who could not or would not be there for you.

From the parent who was absent by choice or by the circumstance of working three jobs to feed and house you.

From the lovers who offered sexual intimacy but no offered no safe haven that honored your heart.

From the friendships that always took more than they gave.

From all the situations when someone told you “we’re in this together” then abandoned you, leaving you to pick up the pieces when isht got real, leaving you to handle your part and their part, too.

From the lies. The betrayals.

You learned along the way that you just couldn’t really trust people. Or that you could trust people, but only up to a certain point.

Ultra-independence is a *trust issue.*

You learned: if I don’t put myself in a situation where I rely on someone, I won’t have to be disappointed when they don’t show up for me, or when they drop the ball... because they will always drop the ball sooner or later, right?

You may even have been intentionally taught this protection strategy by generations of hurt women who came before you.

Ultra-independence is a preemptive strike against heartbreak.

So, you don’t trust anyone.

And you don’t trust yourself, either, to choose people.

To trust is to hope, to trust is vulnerability.

“Never again,” you vowed.

But no matter how you dress it up and display it proudly to make it seem like this level of independence is what you always wanted to be, in truth it’s your wounded, scarred, broken heart behind a protective brick wall.

Impenetrable. Nothing gets in. No hurt gets in. But no love gets in either.

Fortresses and armor are for those in battle, or who believe the battle is coming.

It’s trauma response.

The good news is trauma that is acknowledged is trauma that can be healed.

You are worthy of having support.
You are worthy of having true partnership.
You are worthy of love.
You are worthy of having your heart held.
You are worthy to be adored.
You are worthy to be cherished.

You are worthy to have someone say, “You rest. I got this.” And actually deliver on that promise.

You are worthy to receive.
You are worthy to receive.
You are worthy to receive.
You are worthy.
Worthy, sis.
You are worthy.

You don’t have to earn it.
You don’t have to prove it.
You don’t have to bargain for it.
You don’t have to beg for it.

You are worthy.
Worthy.

Simply because you exist.

I love you. 🧡~J.

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15/11/2020

I'm just saying....

14/11/2020

14/11/2020

Good Hearted people unfortunately suffer unfair prosecution! While manipulative hearted people thrive.
True or false?

14/11/2020

I'm Just Saying.....

13/11/2020

Let's Talk about it!!!!

13/11/2020

Hello Everyone! Thank You So Much for liking our page! We are always looking for topics to talk about so if you suggest it we will discuss it!

07/11/2020

Hello Family! Heyyyy! 👋🏾

We are excited to connect with our FBF! Our podcast is both entertaining and informative. We pride ourselves on transparency and sharing authentically. Demystifying guilt, shame and hearing issues from all perspectives. We also provide positive vibes and delicious tea tasting + recipes to all who subscribe!

Trying to sip, connect EVERY Thursday @ 7P!
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Recipe: https://foodrecipeshub.com/recipe/saturday-tea-recipe/

29/10/2020

We will be on Podcast from Orlando this weekend!!!! Yes!!!!
We will have few guest joining us to talk about Politics and So Much More....

21/10/2020