The Grey Couch

26/07/2024

Or should I?

Today's episode touches on the unspoken questions we ask ourselves sometimes.

Marriage as an abstract concept is easy. Really easy.
But bring in two individual reactants and the product you get out of it can never be the same as the things that went into it.

Chemistry is a subject. And a process. Most reactions in chemistry require heat (and time) and catalysts.

Take a listen and think about this for your own unique relationships.👇🏾

https://youtu.be/tCtHZutjvGc?si=3QcEltHr1AqDIs0S

19/07/2024

Thank the good Lord for long dead French Philosopher Blaise Pascal who reminds us that "people are more generally persuaded by reasons they discover themselves than by those handed to them by others" 🤔

We hope you make one of those discoveries on the couch today about invisible labor and how it plays a role in relational dynamics. 🤓....

Because one of us just discovered the concept of emotional or invisible labor. Guess which one¿😂.

Today's episode had the other laughing in different languages as we say.

On a more serious note, are you truly aware of all the invisible labor that each party contributes to making the home and the relationship work?

Assume nothing. appreciate everything.... and learn to find out what the everything entails for each unique relationship and the parties therein.

Check out today's epi here 👇🏾👇🏾

https://youtu.be/O3T87HGALnA?feature=shared

12/07/2024

Happy Friday.

What's the purpose of a question?

Do you ask to confirm your assumption or do you ask to find out something you didn't know?

That is the question 🤓

These different approaches to asking questions can impact communication in relationships.

Ask us how we know...

Today was all about discussing a question and answer tic that we have in our marriage and how this can impede communication.

Of course this depends on who your partner is. But then, what would be the fun in that if you both spoke and did things the same way 🤔🤔

Are there communication shortcuts that work or don't work for your relationship?

Tell us all about it after you listen in on our latest epi here...👇🏾👇🏾

https://youtu.be/DRKJ_0UVntA?si=BSBShu_IrO2UXFgj

07/07/2024

In which we talk about using the right currency to show your partner love.

Hearts are expensive and you need to know how to pay well for them.

Listen in on the latest episode of our channel here 👇🏾👇🏾

https://youtu.be/C_gX5ebNK8Y

01/07/2024

This week on the couch we’re talking about parenting 👉🏾 https://youtu.be/BTvXWOvPFeI. We share 3 ways that our kids have tried (and are probably going to try again) to get under our skin and what we do to navigate instances. It’s summer here in the States and so the “distraction” that school offers is gone. Let’s turn those periods of folly and frustration into fun. Don’t let them come between you and your spouse. Check it Out.

15/06/2024

Our Fathers Day Series Continues with “Uncles” Sam, Mike and Fred reflections on what they would have done differently getting married then with what they know now. They bring up the question of money, what attitudes have worked for them 3 decades down and counting. What they say will encourage you, whatever stage you are in your relationship. Watch out for some real life fathering as we get an interruption halfway into the talk.

15/06/2024

PART 2 of Our Fathers Day Series Continues with “Uncles” Sam, Mike and Fred reflections on what they would have done differently getting married then with what they know now. They bring up the question of money, what attitudes have worked for them 3 decades down and counting. What they say will encourage you, whatever stage you are in your relationship. Watch out for some real life fathering as we get an interruption halfway into the talk.😁 https://youtu.be/LiyaTg90sw4?si=SMva3iJLYHdirm8O

07/06/2024

Hi Grey Couch Fan,
We're bringing you an early Father's day special. This conversation was too deep and too rich to save until next weekend. So we've split it into different parts and will drop it over the next weeks.

In part 1, you will meet Uncle Sam, Michael and Frederick. Hey we're born in Nigeria and everyone older is an Aunty and Uncle and we love our culture that way 😂😂.

These Uncles have almost a hundred years of marriage between them. 100 shy 1. Compared to our teenage marriage. So yes we had a lot to learn from them and we know you will too.

So sit back, grab your coffee, or popcorn or headphones on your morning walk and enjoy.

Let us know what the most insightful thing you learned from them on today's episode was.
As usual, the full epi is on our chanel and you can take the short cut here

https://youtu.be/-dN8BhFleas?feature=shared

05/06/2024

Here's another webinar, I'd love you to join us on. This one is only for the parents, and parents-to-be though (nope I'm not sorry 😘 at all, us parents need a vacation 😉). So if this piques your interest, let me know here - bit.ly/parenting-married .
Here's a few of things we will be talking about
✅ How to use your shared experience as a source of deeper empathy and understanding
✅ Strategies for effective communication, even as you have the hard conversations
✅ Ways to celebrate your children's unique strengths and milestones as a united front
✅ How to build a supportive community and embrace the beauty of your neurodiverse family

03/05/2024

Mothers. Who would we be with or without them? It's May in the US, Mom month as we like to call it. The Mom among us thinks Mother's should be fete'd every day regardless 🫂🫂

On this week's episode we reflect on the things we learned from our mothers. Things consciously taught or unconsciously imbibed. And how that has influenced our marriage.

From a generational view point, we reflect on the things we want to pass to the kiddos and the things we want to leave behind (not the legacy kind 😂).

Full episode on our channel as usual.. Link 👇🏾

https://youtu.be/AO6XVriY74c

So pray tell, what did you learn from your momma's and how did it or is it influencing your marital dynamics?

26/04/2024

Happy Friday

Autism month is wrapping up and today on the grey couch we started the conversation on how neurodiversity can impact a marriage and the relational dynamics.

It's going to be a series and a webinar and much learning and development around this for couples in the months to come.

Listen in on today's conversation here: https://youtu.be/OgFZ-DWb6lA

In the meantime, enjoy today's conversation and if you believe neuro-divergence could be a situation with you and your marriage, connect with us for more resources.

12/04/2024

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05/04/2024

Community matters.

On the grey couch today we explored this critical aspect of marital well-being.

A red flag of an emotionally abusive marriage is one spouse or the other trying to isolate the other from community all in the name of love.

Listen in for our angle on this as we provide tips on knowing when to stay in or when to leave a community that might not be helping you, your well being and the well being of your marriage.

Listen in below on our channel below:

https://youtu.be/1kQxnd3OeyE

01/04/2024

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27/03/2024

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22/03/2024

This week on the couch we tackle the issue of emotional maturity and the health and well-being of your marriage.

The age of your marriage is not a function of you or your spouse's emotional age. You need to uplevel your emotional maturity in order to continue to build a solid foundation for other aspects of your marital well-being.

Speaking of emotional well-being and more, we are diving deeper into tools, practices and strategies for enhancing your marital wellbeing in our Free Live (Love 💕) webinar on April the 13th.

Get your confirmed seating here:

bit.ly/thrive-in-marriage

In the meantime keep up leveling and we'll see you next Friday on the couch. That weekend is also the Mrs of the couch's birthday weekend so it's going to be an extra special extra cuddly one.... 😂😂

By clicking 'Register', you acknowledge that the webinar organizer may use this information to share updates regarding this webinar as well as for future communications.

22/03/2024

This week on the couch we tackle the issue of emotional maturity and the health and well-being of your marriage.

The age of your marriage is sometimes not a function of you or your spouse's emotional age. You need to uplevel your emotional maturity in order to continue to build a solid foundation for other aspects of your martial well-being.

Speaking of emotional well-being and more, we are diving deeper into tools, practices and strategies for enhancing your marital wellbeing in our Free Live (Love 💕) webinar on April the 13th.

Get your confirmed seating here:
bit.ly/thrive-in-marriage

In the meantime keep up leveling and we'll see you next Friday on the couch. That weekend is also the Mrs of the couch's birthday weekend so it's going to be an extra special extra cuddly one.... 😂😂

21/03/2024

Only 3 weeks left to our FREE LIVE WEBINAR. “HOW TO ENHANCE WELLBEING WITHIN YOUR MARRIAGE”. We answer the question - Is there a better way to do marriage than conflict resolution or avoidance? We want to keep this a cordial and interactive time, so we have only 100 spots available. SAVE YOUR SPOT HERE -bit.ly/thrive-in-marriage

17/03/2024

There's a much better way than "Conflict Avoidance" to Do Marriage. Join us on April 13th 9AM EDT.
If you don't have any conflict in your marriage, this is NOT for you.
If you're like us and want to learn more ways to enhance what you have, Register here Bit.ly/thrive-in-marriage. This might be the best 1 hr investment you make in your marriage.

By clicking 'Register', you acknowledge that the webinar organizer may use this information to share updates regarding this webinar as well as for future communications.

15/03/2024

How do you sleep well together?

Happy Friday,
Part 2 of our conversation with the Afolabi Browns continues today. If you missed last week's conversation, catch it on our channel.

This chat was the real deal on how to get better sleep as a couple. For those of us who like to sleep, I needed to hear where I was doing well and what I could improve upon.

Our favorite was creating the right environment and leaving the bedroom for sleep. Yes please 👌🏾👌🏾.

Let us know which of the strategies you liked best and which ones you know you need to uplevel.

https://youtu.be/02GZIxqt3vY?si=eF3CfG_V0pIGSAqH