Channeling inner creativity by trying out something new.🖌🎨
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Podcast Episode by Chris Williamson (Modern Wisdom Podcast) with guest Alex Hormozi.
Casual discussion on how I deal with days where I'm feeling the most mentally tired as well as my relationship between stress & exercise.🏃♂️🏋♂️🫀
I think we can all agree that this is a phrase that we don't hear often, from ourselves and others...
"You're not worthless,"
Just three words, yet they weigh so much.
I know that there are times when it can be difficult to feel like we're not worthless because a lot of things happened that could have led us to feel that way. There are times when you may feel invisible, times when you won't feel special, and times when you feel like the world would be better without you... but it won't.
Because the thing is, you have a place in this world, and no one else can replace you for that.
You're not worthless. You're not just a "kid." You're just a student. You're not a "nobody."
You're special.
And you have something to bring into this world that no one else can bring. 🤍
I think we can all agree that this is a phrase that we don't hear often, from ourselves and others...
"You're not worthless,"
Just three words, yet they weigh so much.
I know that there are times when it can be difficult to feel like we're not worthless because a lot of things happened that could have led us to feel that way. There are times when you may feel invisible, times when you won't feel special, and times when you feel like the world would be better without you... but it won't.
Because the thing is, you have a place in this world, and no one else can replace you for that.
You're not worthless. You're not just a "kid." You're just a student. You're not a "nobody."
You're special.
And you have something to bring into this world that no one else can bring. 🤍
I think we can all agree that this is a phrase that we don't hear often, from ourselves and others...
"You're not worthless,"
Just three words, yet they weigh so much.
I know that there are times when it can be difficult to feel like we're not worthless because a lot of things happened that could have led us to feel that way. There are times when you may feel invisible, times when you won't feel special, and times when you feel like the world would be better without you... but it won't.
Because the thing is, you have a place in this world, and no one else can replace you for that.
You're not worthless. You're not just a "kid." You're just a student. You're not a "nobody."
You're special.
And you have something to bring into this world that no one else can bring. 🤍
Growing up as someone who was quick to give up, I understand this frustration very well.
The feeling of facing a problem that just seems almost impossible to solve. The frustration that comes along with it. That feeling of wanting to lay in bed, on the verge of giving up, because you don't know what to do.
It wasn't until very recently that I realized something profound, despite how seemingly obvious it seemed at first glance...
💡Realization:
The longer you sit with the problem and ponder on it, the more you realize that there's almost always more than one way to solve a problem.
So, the next time you come across an obstacle that feels way too difficult to solve, tell yourself, "There's more than one way to solve this. So, let's find that way." ✊️🕵♂️🔍
As someone who got diagnosed with PTSD back when I was 18 and has healed from it since, I’ve tried out a plethora of things in order to help me navigate through my struggles. And among the many things I’ve tried, I only found one to be extremely effective, works almost instantly, but most importantly, it’s free.
⭕️The remedy I found was to stay active as much possible. In other words, exercising more often.
Even doing something as simple as going out on walks for a few minutes or doing 30 minute bodyweight/weighted exercises at home or at the gym made a world of a difference.
The cool thing was, not only did exercising more often during those times distract me from my thoughts as well as how I was feeling, but the immediate surge of feeling “refreshed” and “alive” was just amazing.
Though there were many days where exercising would be really difficult, I still did all that I possibly could to include exercise into my day-to-day schedule as a way to help slowly heal from what I was going through.
These days, I mainly exercise for health maintenance, mental health, well-being, and fun, but exercising has become a non-negotiable for me in my weekly schedule as I’ve experienced first-hand just how beneficial and important exercising was if I wanted to be in the best shape I possibly can, physically and mentally.
Like a wonder drug indeed;)
I had the privilege to study at one of the best universities in the Philippines, Mapua University.
“So, why the hell give it all up? Why cast that all away?”, you may be wondering.
The answer was simple.
Because I knew I could do so much more if I were to pursue my own thing. I could be so much more.
But most importantly, it was a choice I had to make in order to go all in on my dream. To achieve what I have to achieve.
❗️The Single Most Important Question I Asked Myself Prior to Dropping Out:
1. Between staying in university vs. going all in to focus one thing only (my dream), which among the two paths would bring me way further ahead in life?
Getting a degree is absolutely amazing, especially a master’s and doctoral degree, and there all all sorts of benefits and safety nets that come with it, and I have so much respect for those pursuing their education and falling in love with what they do.
But with the path I’ve chosen to take, I couldn’t find a reason why I had to continue studying.
It’s been around 4 months since then, and I’ve never felt so fixated and obsessed over one singular thing in my life before.
It’s hard as hell. There’s more things I have to worry about daily and think through, but on the flip side. It’s absolutely thrilling and exciting. I’m getting goosebumps just writing this while imagining the future haha.
And that’s that. It’s gonna be one heck of a rollercoaster ride this next decade, but there you go. Welcome to the journey.☕🍃
Towards a vision. All for the sake of the dream.🖤
“Your regrets & mistakes don’t have to mean the end of your world…they don’t have to mean the end of you.”
I’m forever passionate about the topic of rising above your past or as I like to call it, “rising above circumstances”, because the thing is…your past, the mistakes you’ve made, your regrets…those things don’t have to mean the end of you. They don’t have to mean the end of your world, because you still have another chance to rebuild your life/to fix that relationship/to heal and move on. There is always a chance, because that chance is now.
How do I know? Because you’re here right now. Present & watching this video. You’re no longer living physically in your past, but you’re here. It’s up to you now. So, go on, buddy. I believe in you.✊🤍
Community engagement time!!👇😉
"Would you change something from the past if you had a time machine?"
We all have our own versions of this question. "I wish I could go back"/"I should've done this"/"I could've done that," etc.
I love this hypothetical thought experiment because it gives you a chance to reflect deeply on all the things that you've gone through and compare it to all the life experience and wisdom that you've gathered and truly ask yourself, "am I willing to trade all of what I know and who I am right now in order to change my past?"
And as I reflect on my life and ask myself the same question, my answer is that...I'm proud of who I am now and the things that I've gone through, so I wouldn't ever want to change my past.
But what about you? Let me know below or in DM!😉✍️
Writing has served an integral part in how I've been able to solve almost all of the major challenges that i've dealt with in the past few years.
To me, it was like therapy.
In the video, I say, "You can't be two people at once all up in your head," because my journaling process isn't just simple writing. It's a form of conversation between me and my 60-year-old self. The 60-year-old me, being the one who has full context of what I'm going through, is a lot wiser than who I am now and helps me see things from a different perspective. In short, he's the ideal version of myself that I'm chasing. And so, whenever I'm going through a difficult time, I simply ask myself, "What would he do if he were in my situation?" or "what would he say (the 60-year-old me)? " Either that or I would directly ask that other person in writing for some guidance.
This conversation style of writing gave me the chance to analyze the thing that I was going through calmly.
It gave me the chance to see things from a different perspective.
But most importantly, it often gave me the solutions to my problems. Because, truthfully, we're often aware of the solutions to most of our problems.
I journal a lot less often now, but even to this day, it still plays an integral role in my life.
How you could potentially make an impact on someone else's life.
I used to have a love-hate relationship with writing.
I thought it wasn’t for me.
I thought it was boring.
And it just felt like too much work.
It wasn’t until I found myself stuck with problems that I had an extremely difficult time solving and just felt stuck, lost, and broken.
I wasn’t comfortable with discussing my problems to others and I didn’t like the idea of going to therapy, so I decided to take things into my own hands thinking that perhaps there could be some way that I can help navigate through them on my own.
To which I did.
I found a solution that works for me, and one that I actually enjoyed doing.
And that’s how my love for writing began.
But it wasn’t just simple journaling. It was a conversation. A conversation between me and my 60-year-old self. The version of me who knows me through and through. The person who knows the answers to most of my questions. The person who has full context of my situation. The version of myself who I look up to as the ideal version of me—the one whose values, character, traits, etc. I want to replicate.
So, ever since I’ve started writing back in September 2022, whenever I find myself stuck and am in need of help, I ask myself this in my head:
“What would he (60-year-old me) say? What would he do if he were in my situation?”
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Key Takeaways:
1. No one has ALL the answers to their problems, but for the most part, everyone has at least some rough idea on what the solution to their problems could be. In other words, we often have the answers to most of our problems.
2. Everyone has their own way of navigating life. Explore, learn, and try out different things to find out what works best for you.
If You Could Revisit Your Past, What Would You Do?
Our lives aren't perfect, there are many things that we could only wish we could change.
And as painful as it may be, there will always be things outside of our control, and that's okay.
Because even if that's still the case, we can still do our best and go beyond with the things that we have control on.
It’s very easy to fall into a very dark spiral of thoughts when you’re in a rough place, and what’s difficult here is trying to look at the positive things when you feel like the whole world is crashing down on you.
This is a trick that I use whenever I’m in a really dark place:
✍️The Trick:
When you feel like you’re starting to spiral down into negative thoughts and you’re going through a really difficult time, take a moment to pause. Take a deep breath and try to relax yourself. Then I want you to shift your focus from how you’re currently feeling (internal) to everything outside of you (immediate environment). Take a look at your hands and feet, then pay attention to your breathing, then feel the ground around you, then move your fingers around. If you’re at home, I want you to take a moment to look at the various things you have around you. Then I want you to imagine what life would be like without all of those things. It would be difficult, right? That’s exactly the trick.
🎁Explanation:
What the trick does is simply shift your focus from everything internal (your feelings) to everything external, and by doing this you immediately feel an immediate sense of gratitude for the fact that we have things in our lives that we often take for granted. This immediately puts you in a better place because it forces you to look at what you have instead of what you don’t have, and I’ve found this incredibly helpful especially when I’m going through a difficult time, when I’m feeling left behind in life, when I’m feeling like I have “nothing left”, and so on.
Let me know if it helps! I wanna hear your thoughts!
A Life Hack That Has Served Me Well:⬇️
Over the past couple of years, I've been constantly building habits that I know would serve me well in the long run. I found that some aren't for me, while others I found work well, and I wanted to keep doing. However, there is one habit that I've built that has a special place in my heart, and that's writing. It's the reason why I always have my notebook and pen with me wherever I go.
Everyone's going to have different reasons for you when you ask them why they love writing, but here's mine...and it might not be what you'd expect!👀
❓️Why I Write:
I see it as a form of therapy. As a way to navigate myself through my problems as if I'm talking to another version of myself right in front of me--the older and wiser version. Because the cool thing is, we know the answers to most of our problems. And so, whenever I'm struggling with something, I give myself time to first get myself together and calm myself a bit, and then I write in dialogue. One is my present self, and the other is the older and wiser version (the ideal self). And then the conversation flows as if I'm asking for advice from that future version of myself. For the most part, it works! It's a cool little thing that I thought I'd share with you since it helped me out a lot as well. Hope it helps!🙌
📔✒️Tools that have worked for me that you might love:
1. Earplugs from Loop
2. Pens from Parker Pens
⬆️ Not sponsored, but I genuinely love both of their products!
Happy writing, everyone!;)
Been posting so much serious content lately so I thought I'd make something super casual this time.😂
Honestly the best purchase I’ve made in a long time.😩👌 I love them to bits. I got tired of my feet aching and having to struggle with trying to put my shoes before I head out and I wanted something that looked good enough that I can confidently wear them anywhere, had a color scheme that I can pair with the most clothes and color combos, is light, breathable, no laces, but most importantly really comfortable. Was absolutely mind blown when I first tried these on compared to all the other shoes I’ve tried. Comfy shoes are the best.😌👍
(P.S. not sponsored, but I just love these so much)
