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13/11/2024

To our male survivors 💜💜

13/11/2024

13/11/2024

You are nothing

13/11/2024

In the digital age, scammers are constantly finding new ways to exploit vulnerability, particularly by preying on those in emotionally charged and toxic relationships. A disturbing trend has emerged where these scammers specifically target individuals entangled in abusive dynamics, especially involv

13/11/2024

Never

13/11/2024

Fathers who want to be active participants in their children’s lives often find themselves sidelined, battling false allegations, parental alienation, and manipulative legal tactics.

14/10/2024

This hits hard…

11/10/2024

Narcissists often refuse to apologize due to magical thinking, a cognitive distortion where they believe their thoughts or words automatically make them right. If they think it, it must be true—so there’s no need to apologize. Combined with their entitlement, lack of empathy, and need to protect their self-image, this mindset helps them avoid taking responsibility for their actions.

02/10/2024

How a Cluster B abuser reacts when you’ve had enough…

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02/10/2024

They're unable to share a world with those who see them for who they are and don't idolize them. This perspective is a constant source of discomfort for them. The closer you get, the more they'll try to destroy you if you leave. Stay safe, friends; I recognize your struggle.

02/10/2024

Why do pathological narcissists try to destroy you and bring on your “demise” when you try to move on from their abuse?

14/09/2024

A “double bind” in manipulation refers to a situation where a person is given two contradictory options, both of which lead to negative outcomes, leaving the person unable to choose without experiencing some form of failure or consequence. This type of manipulation traps the individual in a no-win situation, often causing confusion, guilt, or distress because whatever choice they make will result in a negative outcome.

For example, a parent might say to a child, "You should be more independent, but don’t go off on your own without telling me." The child is left feeling they can't win—if they act independently, they may be criticized for being secretive, and if they constantly check in, they're not "independent enough." The double bind creates internal conflict, often leading the individual to feel helpless or uncertain, making them easier to control.

This technique is commonly used in abusive relationships, power dynamics, or psychological manipulation to keep the victim in a state of disorientation, where they can never fully satisfy the manipulator's demands.

04/09/2024

Every last one of these is true.

30/07/2024

Blame-Shifting: A Tactic to Watch For

Have you ever tried to address a problem, only to have the tables turned so skillfully that suddenly you're the one apologizing? This is a classic example of blame-shifting, often used by narcissists to avoid accountability.

Imagine asking someone to acknowledge something hurtful they did, like disregarding your feelings or disrespecting your boundaries. Instead of a thoughtful response, the conversation quickly derails. They bring up some small issues from the past to overshadow the current issue, escalate to name-calling, and talk in circles until you're too tired to continue. It's as if they morph into a petulant child, unable to engage in a mature discussion.

In my relationship with my ex, I would go through this during discussions where I expressed feeling neglected. Rather than addressing the concern, my ex would accuse me of being overly sensitive or unrealistic, effectively shifting the blame and making it seem like my reaction was the real problem.

This tactic is not just hurtful; it's a deliberate strategy to keep you off-balance. If you've experienced this, you're not alone. How did it make you feel, and how did you handle it?