Midlife Flyness

05/12/2023

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The first time My Mom had a broken bone was in her late 60’s. She had on a heels, twisted her ankle and broke a bone in her foot. It was during this time that I learned about the term “falling years”. It’s around the age of 65 but of course it can be earlier or later. Here are a few facts

📍One out of five falls causes a serious injury such as broken bones or a head injury.
📍Each year, 3 million older people are treated in emergency departments for fall injuries
📍Over 800,000 patients a year are hospitalized because of a fall injury, most often because of a head injury or hip fracture.
📍Each year at least 300,000 older people are hospitalized for hip fractures.
📍More than 95% of hip fractures are caused by falling,usually by falling sideways.
📍Falls are the most common cause of traumatic brain injuries (TBI).
📍In 2015, the total medical costs for falls totaled more than $50 billion.11 Medicare and Medicaid shouldered 75% of these costs.
It’s important that we are honest about the possibility of falls and do everything that we can to prevent them. Now, I’m not telling you to give up your heels but I am saying that an adjustments can go a long way. I have no problem rocking a wedge or a tennis shoe when I feel like an accidental fall may be an issue.
Tips for preventing a fall
📍Be aware of hazards such as long hems of clothing or rugs in walkways 📍Proper fitting footwear in a height that works for you.
📍Be aware of medications and health issues that may affect your balance.
📍Work of core strength and maintaining muscle mass. This becomes really important and has lots of benefits.

19/11/2023

Hey Y’all! It’s important to remember that we never really know what someone else is going through. A quick comment on a stranger’s appearance might seem harmless, but it can actually have a bigger impact than we realize.

Beauty comes in so many different forms, and everybody has their own unique journey. When we make quick judgements about someone’s appearance, we might be commenting on a story we know nothing about.

Let’s all make an effort to be more mindful about the things we say. Let’s aim to spread positivity, kindness, and support. You never know how much a kind word or gesture could mean to someone.

04/11/2023

Teachable Moment’s - As this little corner of the internet continues to grow, I will continue to practice what I preach. Todays lesson comes from this commenter who’s intent was 🤷🏽‍♀️ but I’m choosing to use it to help anyone who is struggling or has struggled with a measured response when dealing with conflict.

Here are a few things that have helped me along the way. ❤️
🌟 5 Tips to Diffuse Anger During a Conflict 🌟

1️⃣ Breathe & Pause: Take a deep breath to calm your mind and gather your thoughts before responding in anger.

2️⃣ Empathize & Listen: Try to understand the other person’s perspective without interrupting. Active listening promotes understanding.

3️⃣ Use “I” Statements: Express your feelings assertively without blaming the other person. Focus on your emotions to avoid escalating tension.

4️⃣ Take a Time-out: If things get heated, take a break to cool off and gain a fresh perspective. Engage in activities that help you relax.

5️⃣ Seek Resolution, Not Victory: Strive for compromise and finding common ground rather than trying to prove yourself right. Collaboration is key.

Remember, conflicts are a part of life, but how we handle them determines the outcome. Stay calm, empathetic, and focused on resolution.

27/09/2023

I've just reached 7K followers! Thank You!

02/08/2023

Y’all internet nephew began 8th Grade today

07/07/2023

I love that syndication has allow for so many young folks to enjoy the programs that were on TV during the 80s and 90s. The music and sitcoms from that era are simply unmatched. we literally planned our days around watching television together. (It was kinda like black Twitter but in real time😂) If you were a young adult when a different world was on TV, you will never forget where you were when Whitley and Dwayne kissed.

I had the pleasure of attending an HBCU, while having HBCU representation on a national platform. Our swagger was on a trillion, Hunny😂 So many great memories!

26/05/2023

🚫Letting Go of OLD & Non-Inclusive Beauty Standards About Aging🚫

Let’s be real: historically, beauty standards have been anything but inclusive. Especially when it comes to aging, too many people have been made to feel like they don’t measure up because of racist, ableist, sexist, and homophobic beauty ideals. But what if we let go of these outdated and non-inclusive beauty standards and celebrated the beauty that comes with age in a way that is inclusive and supportive for all?

We can celebrate wrinkle lines as marks of experience and color as rich with cultural heritage. We can celebrate grey hair and baldness as symbols of dignity and wisdom. We can celebrate all bodies aging into new shapes and forms instead of pressuring ourselves to constantly meet narrow and oppressive beauty standards.

It’s time we shifted the narrative around beauty and embraced the unique beauty that comes with ageing with inclusivity and diversity front and center. Instead of trying to fit into the molds that society has created for us, let’s celebrate the unique features, qualities, and perspectives that make us who we are.

We can choose to uplift each other and build a culture where we learn to appreciate and celebrate the vast range of beauty that exists. Let’s reject oppressive beauty standards and embrace our unique selves at any age, with all our differences and similarities.

15/11/2022

This THURSDAY! Get your sparkle on and join us for a fun evening with friends!

We will have 2 fragrance creation seatings available at a 15%off holiday party price, 6pm and 7:15pm.

DAYO woman will have their latest collection for you to shop & treat yourself to some luxe loungewear.

Sips & sweets provided, come get your holiday shopping launched in style!!
RSVP ✨

11/11/2022

Check out your favorite Midlife Influencer ( Me❤️) on The Portia Show Share/ Like/ Comment!

Love Y’all!

It's all about influencing, having something meaningful to say! Social media influencers can make millions of dollars. Portia talks to social media influencers and they tell how they achieved influencer status. The guests share how their influencing has paid off!

10/11/2022

Did you catch me on today? If you didn’t, don’t worry! I got you! Stay tuned for highlights and all of the behind the scenes fabulousness!

I’m so grateful, Y’all ❤️

11/10/2022

Lets talk about ageism. The discourse is often centered in “looking good for your age” which essentially means you look “young” which also includes the physical “shape” and ability.
There’s an erasure that happens in society as you grow older. There is an insistence that if you don’t fit these myopic aging standards then you aren’t aging well. Let keep those middle fingers high and continue to define what aging well means to us as individuals.

06/09/2022

I’m so excited to share this news! are flipping the script on all of those “hush, hush” conversations. Cause we all know that one of our most powerful tools is open and honest conversation.
Mark your calendar and add an alert on your phone because this is a conversation that you don’t want to miss. 9/8 on IG Live 💜💜💜

27/08/2022

About 5 years ago, someone “borrowed” this picture off of my IG page. My friends and family still tag me when they see it floating around on Facebook. 😂
It happened again today.

04/08/2022

7th Grader 🥹😍

28/07/2022

Proud Momma Moment - This guy is starting his senior year in high school. He is the epitome of fortitude. He’s never allowed anyone to limit his abilities (including me).
He was about 9 years old when he told us that being neurodivergent describes how his brain works but that doesn’t define who he is as a person ✊🏾🙌🏾❤️

20/07/2022

Alright, Y’all! Your girl is out her representing for The Midlife Crew! Head over Chateau Elan] IG and show them some love✨Also, save the date cause this is going to be an amazing event! 🍷
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It is our pleasure to announce that the 25th Annual Vineyard Fest is set to take place on November 13th. Be ready to experience more wine and activities than ever before! Tickets on sale soon. 🍷
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20/06/2022

As I’ve shared in previous post, I’m an only child and both of my parents have passed. So Mother’s Day & Father’s Day are always a push and pull for me. I love celebrating with my boys but I also miss my parents.
So, this one is for everyone honoring their Dad even though he’s no longer physically here. Love transcends all space and time.

15/06/2022

Eyes on what’s next cause like my Gandma used to say, used to 🐝’s don’t make no 🍯

05/06/2022

A-MUSED ✨ 📸

31/05/2022

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29/05/2022

Old Fashioned - cause a black dress is always a “do” and pictures are still FLY (no matter what this app says) ✨✨✨

13/05/2022

The Yo Fly Aunty Brand Presents
✨Midlife Flyness™️✨
what began as a tagline has evolved into a rally cry, a mantra, a mood & a way of life.

Choosing to view the shifts that occur in Midlife as FLYNESS, because it’s not a crisis. Aligning yourself with who you are and not who you were. Embracing the changes that come with aging. Because aging ain’t a liability, it’s a level up!

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11/05/2022

If your shine bothers someone else’s eyes, give them some shades 😎 We don’t dim our light, we share it!

Shine, Y’all!

20/04/2022

Seriously! Let’s be clear, I’m not just talking about major corporations. Small business owners, y’all are missing out on a key demographic. Women 50 and over spend massive amounts of money. Some estimate that this demographic has a combined spending power of over 🗣50 TRILLION DOLLARS.

So, why aren’t you using your Moms, Aunts,& Sisters in your ads? Where are the women with gray hair, salt and pepper hair or smile lines? Does the aesthetic of your advertising really include diversity or are you perpetuating the false narrative regarding beauty and youth?

I can tell from personal experience that women spend money with those who talk to them and not at them. So, let’s be mindful of that.

If you really want to secure the bag, remember to include Momma & dem❣️

15/04/2022

- “It's been seven hours and 15 days
Since you took your love away
I go out every night and sleep all day
Since you took your love away…” ☔️☂️💜

I think I’m JUST getting to the point that I can process attending Princes final concert. Kinda. However, I’ll always be grateful.

14/04/2022

Celebrating Sabra’s 50th Bday! Welcome to THEE Club, 🥂 My is my love offering to one of THEE jazziest Chicks on these internet streets!

Your style and unapologetic flyness is an inspiration! Keep shining, Sis! Keep shining ✨🥂✨🥂

11/04/2022

You know what’s “old”? Looking at aging as something negative. Let’s keep creating the world that we want to live in and call our ageist behavior.

10/04/2022

Told My Husband that I shouldn’t post this picture. He said, and I quote “show out,baby!”
*so here y’all go* courtesy of Damon 😂

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09/04/2022

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08/04/2022

- This will always be one of my favorite pictures evah! When I began as a cycle instructor, I was completely new to fitness instruction game. However, over time I was able to meet some really amazing humans who trusted me to support them on their fitness journeys. They expanded my view of community, friendship and family.

One of my main takeaways was that in order to build anything you must be willing to be genuinely engaged. Being transactional may lead to a few encounters but being intentional often brings true connection. ✨