Its fine, I'm fine

12/11/2023

When your kids think they have ownership over things in your home? As if they have a job and contribute…
My son loses his mind if his sister has “his snack”..
Sir, that’s a free for all unless you’re paying bills my guy..
Like your stepdad and I own this, we just SHARE with you.
Kids are a**holes man. 😂😂🙄🙄

12/11/2023

You know what being a parent is like?? Arguing with them at bed time because GOD FORBID THEY USE THE SAME WATER CUP FROM THE NIGHT BEFORE!
Lord save me! 😂😂🙄🙄

12/09/2023

Did you know there’s a month where infidelity is at an all time high?! Who knew this was a thing?!
What month would you guess?! 👀👀

15/06/2023

⚠️⚠️CHILDHOOD TRAUMA, TRAUMA RESPONSES⚠️⚠️

Everyone went through some s**t as a kid right.. They were dealt the wrong cards and had to live with that. Our parents did the best they could. BUT with that being said, you cannot allow yourself to pass that onto YOUR children!

Think about it, if you had lack of love, affection and attention..you’re most likely to lack that with your own children. You think that’s what it’s supposed to be like, but it’s not. BREAK THE CYCLE. It’s not about YOU. It’s about YOUR CHILDREN.

Just because they spanked you and smacked you, doesn’t mean you need to act that way to your own. Try different parenting methods and find the one that works, every child is different! They don’t need to fear you to respect you.

Understand that kids need to feel. They have a lot of emotions they can’t quite understand or control yet. You don’t respond well to screaming so why would they? You have a defense mechanism by shutting down when in reality that can be just as toxic as confrontation.

Being attentive with your kids is so important. Being there being PRESENT is a core memory to them.

Believe it or not, these kids notice everything.
They notice your face in your phones, the lack of attention they receive when you’re staring at the tv… when they ask you to come do something with them but you blow it off like it’s an INCONVENIENCE TO YOU. They feel that.

If the child is not biologically yours, find a way to bond with them. Whether it be video games, building something, drawing, music, etc. There’s so much out there, you are bound to find common interest.
They will notice when you become active if your friends are over, or if you complain or segregate yourself..

Please realize you CHOSE to have kids and the world stopped revolving around you the day they were born.

Don’t let your childhood trauma affect your offspring. They need you to break that cycle and give them an amazing life. Full of great memories, laughter and love!!

27/04/2023

🛑🛑 LETS TALK! ⚠️⚠️

About intimacy after having a baby!!
My husband and I are inseparable. Like we legit do everything together! However, with a new baby it makes things a little more difficult. Simply spending time together is hard, let alone getting intimate.
I can’t even fathom the thought of it if the baby is awake and nearby. It’s mentally not ok to me!

Also, that first time post partum is terrifying, like am I healed all the way? Will it even be enjoyable? What if my hormones changed and I can’t even like get with it??
Then at that point you’re overthinking and the first time at it again isn’t even a good time 😂😂

Post partum also f***s with your head. You question if you’re beautiful, if your va**na is back to normal, if your husband even attracted to you after that birthing experience.

I’m just dying to hear the stories mothers have when trying to get intimate after having a baby!

⚠️ ⚠️ TELL ME ALL THE THINGS ⚠️⚠️

27/02/2023

Let’s talk marriage/relationships! The struggles on keeping each other happy and healthy! I can’t wait to drop stories/opinions on this topic! Feel free to chime in on what keeps you and your SO going strong!!!

05/02/2023

Time for some storytelling.
College stories with my best friend!
You’re guaranteed to laugh your ass off!
I can’t wait to upload next episode of storytelling!

All I have to say is toothpaste, look out for the drop! 😅🤣

30/01/2023

Let’s talk ⚠️⚠️⚠️
Were your babies planned?
How did your family react?
Are you a young mother or parent?
What was an exciting story you have when announcing that you had a baby?!

I’d love to hear stories and more based on this!
***also ignore my look I just got off work***

25/01/2023

Let’s talk!
⚠️Therapy, healing ⚠️
Whether it be because of childhood trauma, past toxic relationships, toxic family relationships, etc
Everyone goes through life with some toxic bulls**t right?
Did therapy cross your mind?
Was therapy a choice you made? Or a suggestion from someone else?
What was the final straw to get help?
What’s a situation that left you feeling like you had no one to go to??
Is sobriety something you had to get a hold of to cleanse your mind from overthinking, etc?
Let’s talk childhood trauma!
Life is fu***ng hard enough.
Mental health matters and therapy shouldn’t be shamed.

23/01/2023

Lets talk!

⚠️ toxic coparenting ⚠️

-using child as a pawn
-claiming they deserve the child more than the other parent because they’re “custodial”
-filling Childs head with negative thoughts on opposite parent to gain popularity
-Creating unnecessary fights due to parent/child speaking on a topic that doesn’t include or involve other parent

❗️Unpopular opinion: If the child has two parents whom are stable, safe and living. 50/50 should be granted no questions asked, no support.

1. Why do you need support if it’s 50/50, each parent is responsible for THEIR home.
2. A parent who chooses not to work can’t rely on ex for child support for personal gain.
3. There’s NO reason 50/50 time should be given after child is at an age where it’s acceptable. Obviously a newborn, small baby needs to be with their mother. However, as the child grows, there’s no reason for more time on one parent.
4. Coparenting includes discussions, updates on school, doctor, etc. Regardless of the relationship, each parent shall be included in all medical decisions and treatment, school updates for upcoming events or give parent access to school logins for updates
5. Children do NOT need to know why you don’t get along or that you do NOT like each other. They just need you both present.
A child needs both parents, and for one to act any more important than the other, is toxic.

23/01/2023

Ever have the days where Karen’s just p**s you off bc you don’t gentle parent like they do?
I have to yell sometimes for my kids to know I’m serious! If you don’t have to, good for you but who else can relate? 😂😂

23/01/2023

These are from past short talks! I will be posting full episodes here once they’re edited! 🙂

23/01/2023

23/01/2023

So as a mother of 5, I am busy and it is VERY difficult to find time to process my podcast videos or even post them timely. I am set to make sure they start appearing weekly. I have posted videos here and there to start conversation and I have some upcoming guest speakers. If there are topics of discussion you'd like to hear, by all means, shoot me a message! I am always up for discussion! I started this as almost like a hobby to talk about things that I do not typically get to discuss with friends/family. I needed a way to connect with the world on my feelings and opinions but also understand other aspects!