Heather Michelle Richard

14/05/2024

14/05/2024

Do you find that your encounters with your narcissistic parents are getting tougher as you age? 🤔 There’s a reason behind this—it’s all about control and you’re becoming harder to control.

The primary motivation for a narcissistic parent is control. They find their power in manipulating their environment, including their children. You are an extension of them. They do not view you as an individual human.

When you’re young, you’re more malleable and easier to manipulate—narcissistic parents thrive on this. They may discourage healthy independence, make you feel guilty for wanting your own life, or constantly demand attention and praise. 🎭

As you grow older, you become more self-aware and independent, challenging their control. You start setting boundaries, pursuing your own goals, and living your own life. 🌱 This escalation of independence is a direct threat to the narcissistic parent’s control, hence the increased conflict.

Please try to realize that this isn’t about you—it’s about their need for control. Understanding this is the first step towards healing and setting healthy boundaries. Stay strong. 💪

DONT FORGET to grab my healing workbook in my bio healing what they broke workbook to work through narcissistic abuse

# trauma cycle

14/05/2024

Have you ever found yourself in the same repeating cycle with a narcissist and want out?

The narcissists main goal is to keep control over you. They do that by using manipulation tactics. Below is an example of the cycle of abuse.

1. **Idealize**: The beginning is captivating, a whirlwind of charm and adoration. The narcissist portrays themselves as perfect, fulfilling every desire and need. It’s intoxicating, leaving the victim confused.

2. **Devalue**: Slowly, imperfections emerge. Criticism replaces compliments, and blame replaces understanding. The victim feels unworthy, confused, and desperate to regain the initial adoration.

3. **Discard**: The ultimate betrayal. The narcissist discards the victim, callously casting them aside as if they never mattered. The victim is left shattered, questioning their own worth and sanity. Do not confuse discarding and you going no contact. We will cover that another time but they are not the same.

4. **Hoover**: Just when the victim starts to rebuild, the narcissist returns. With promises of change and love, they reel the victim back in. Hope flickers, but it’s a facade. Or they can manipulate you into apologizing and them “forgiving” you making you feel like they are the victim of your behavior. Then, the cycle begins anew.

5. **Repeat**: The cruel cycle perpetuates, making the victims self-esteem fade and sense of reality cloudy. Breaking free requires strength, support, and a commitment to reclaiming one’s worth.

Understanding the cycle of narcissistic abuse is the first step towards breaking free and reclaiming your life. You are worthy of love and respect, and no one deserves to be trapped in the toxic grip of manipulation. R

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22/08/2023

Setbacks are TOTALLY normal. It's what you do after the setback that matters

19/03/2023

Hiking alone means setting up your phone for selfies in dried up waterfalls… I got some weird looks but that’s okay. No shame in my selfie game 😂 I

Hikes are my FAVORITE form of self-care. What’s yours?? ⬇️

20/02/2023

Feeling extra tired today, but I’m 50 days sober today ♥️

04/02/2023

Dear PCOS warriors. You got this. Just a few reminders before I go to bed. So much love to you friends ♥️

03/02/2023

My favorite Amazon items for PCOS!

Earthly magnesium body butter - GREAT for bedtime. I sleep like a baby. It’s really helped my insomnia!

Castor oil pack - This helps lymphatic flow, nervous system, reduces inflammation and swelling, and strengthens the immune system

LMNT - best hydration with great ingredients

Essential oils from plant therapy - third party tested and great quality oils for a non toxic smell in the house or on body

Spearmint tea- helps slow down androgen hormones and helps unwanted hair growth

02/02/2023

Welcome to PCOSwithheather! Welcome to my digital weight loss diary! I am 10 pounds down with PCOS and getting my certification for nutrition so that I can help others on this journey. I know that it feels impossible with PCOS and is challenging mentally AND physically. I promise you can get through this. We will get through it together!

I have struggled with PCOS since I was young, but recently my symptoms have amplified. I have been on a journey of healing and learning what works and doesn't. I preach a balanced diet to keep you satiated, satisfied, and fulfilled in life. We don't calorie count here because most women with PCOS struggle with their relationship with food and we don't want to make it worse. I follow a plate method that works for me and I think will work for many of you as well!

I am excited to connect with you and hope you find this page to be helpful on your PCOS journey with weight loss, mental health, sobriety if that is something you are interested in (its okay if not) and lifestyle with PCOS. Happy you're here!