27/07/2024
VILLAIN IN A STORY
When you become the villain in someone's story it is often about them covering what they did and shifting blame.
Their guilt is overwhelming so they make you the bad guy and themselves the victim.
They excuse everything they did and justify it all to self soothe.
They take the easy path and avoid accountability.
Often their friends listen to their side of things and stand by them.
Very normal.
Yet none of them lived inside the home.
None of those friends heard what they lied about and hid.
And it is okay.
When you become the villain in someone's story, you sometimes start to believe it.
You think, Golly. It was my fault.
Then you start to journal.
Do therapy.
Do the hard, hard work.
And learn.
No.
They did not prioritize you.
They did not give you attention.
They neglected.
They did life without you.
They didn't choose you.
They offered silence.
They lacked the capacity.
They lacked emotional intelligence.
They lacked empathy.
In the story of "The Villian", you come to realize you were only asking for bare minimums.
Rock bottom bare minimums.
Sometimes the asking.
The begging.
It escalated to tears.
Other days a raised voice.
And rarely, in complete exhaustion and no support, hysterics.
Mean words escaped.
Normal.
Let them make you the villain.
It is okay.
It's their way of coping.
They lack the ability to be accountable for what they did to hurt you.
They excuse their lies.
They excuse their choices.
They even explain them away like they were good choices.
They were good choices you just fail to grasp.
So it is your fault again.
Blameshifters.
I made those choices because you did this.
Blah.
🤦♀️
Be the villain.
Know they wake up everyday with the choices they made.
They have their own journey.
Most refuse therapy.
Most continue in their same patterns and repeat their own vicious cycles.
Let them.
Their next lover will get the same version.
Their masks.
Their cover ups.
Their huge debt.
Their avoidance.
Their insecurities.
Embrace the villain.
The villain is free.
No masks.
Full accountability.
Clean heart.
A loving, empathetic person.
Debt free.
Achieving milestones of health.
Physically, emotionally, mentally.
Growing.
Becoming a new, beautiful version of self.
Their loss.
Their inability.
Their immaturity.
Their illusions.
Ever read a story where in the end the villain wasn't really the villain?
Ha!
Let them believe you are the villain in the story.
If it makes them feel better about themselves, Let them.
And...
Who cares what their friends think?
They made their judgements with zero communication.
Zero attempts to reach out and offer love and support.
Probably because they bought hook, line, and sinker, you were the villain.
Who gives a rats ass?
🤷♀️
Switch the narrative.
Wake up every day being the hero of your own story.
Be the friend you know you are.
You have the ability to empathize.
You have the ability to give deeply and offer way more than bare minimums.
You live your life in integrity.
You don't lie and cover things up.
Wrap your arms around people and love them through their dips.
Their losses.
Their hurricanes.
Keep growing.
Keep evolving.
Keep loving yourself so much you become your own hero.
And, other people's hero.
Sometimes.
They make you out to be the villain because they will never ever be the hero.
Making you the villain allows them to embrace the illusion that they were the champions in those chapters.
Let them.
Your book isn't finished.
Time surfaces and reveals the realities.
Go fly bravely.
Go show the world who you are.
You will fly to heights they never could.
A hero.
Not a villain.
Beauty for Ashes
🦋Fly Brave & Beautiful
|Raz 💃
✍️ By Raz, July 27th, 2024
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