The Rewired Relationship

11/21/2023

I was very honored to participate in panel of experts discussing the transgender experience on the keystone edition health program on WVIA last night. Thanks to Toynehn Verkitus for hosting and having me on!

08/31/2023

Are you ready to level up?
For once and for all, ditch the self doubt & get the life (and relationships) you deserve.
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If individual work isn’t in the cards or if you’re looking to supplement your own personal work, group coaching might be for you!

The beauty of group work is that it allows us to see ourselves in others AND through their eyes. Human beings are not meant to go through life alone, and if we’re going to heal wounds that began in our relationships, healthy supportive community is necessary.
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After 8 years as a professional therapist, today marks a big step forward- the first of several! Today’s announcement stays true to one of my core values, which is making this work accessible to more people.
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I’m super proud to launch these coaching opportunities but spaces are VERY LIMITED! Interested but have questions? Reach out to schedule a consultation call!

08/31/2023

Any guesses? 😉😉😉
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📣This is gonna be BIG 📣

08/25/2023

This SUNDAY !!!!
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This event is going to be a magical day of sisterhood & healing & I’m so excited to share my workshop, “Thriving Together: A Radical Vulnerability Experience”.
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This workshop is for anyone who has felt alone, different or disconnected. Participants will safely explore barriers to connection & by the end of the workshop will gain support, community & perspective.
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The workshop starts at 4pm and you’ll want to get there early to ensure your spot, as the spots are limited!

07/21/2023

I know that’s right! Agree? Comment 👍🏼
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Accountability is a REQUIRED practice in functional, HEALTHY, reciprocal relationships (romantic AND platonic!). 🚀🪩✨
If you find yourself in a relationship with someone who absolutely refuses to admit when they need to do better it is a HUGE red flag!!!
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And if you struggle with this, I understand. When people tell us that we’ve hurt their feelings, especially, if it’s unintentional, sometimes our instinct is to defend who we think we are instead of hearing how we have impacted other people.
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It’s important to remember that you can be a good, kind, compassionate, well-intentioned person, and still hurt somebody else’s feelings. But you know what hurts them even worse? Invalidating what they share with you by refusing to believe that there could be some truth to it.
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07/17/2023

I’m so excited for this event! Click the link to get your tickets 🎟️ 🎫 !!!

07/13/2023

07/12/2023

I’m an official presenter at The festival!
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This day-long outdoor gathering for women of all ages focused on wellness, nature, connection, and adventure!
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For more info, check out their profile!
Hope to see you there!!! 💜💜💜

07/05/2023

📣Calling myself right TF out 😂🙌🏻💫
Anyone else relate? Tell me in the comments 👇👇👇

06/29/2023

🪧 ✨5 Signs You’re in a Healthy Relationship ✨🪧
Put a ❤️ in the comments if any of these resonate with you!

I had fun with this one! My husband even got in on the action and shared some of his favorites!

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06/21/2023

Leave a “YES” below if you agree 👇
Almost always, growth requires the decision to tolerate the unknown. This can become so distracting that we feel frozen or afraid to take that leap. But, thoughtful, well considered risks are the KEY 🔑to progress, change, excitement, all of it!

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06/15/2023

📣SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT 📣
You don’t want to miss this one!!!

A special FREE event for women by women, hosted by Ashley from & Jessica from 🌱🌱🌱

Join us for an intimate woman’s round table at The Simply Lush Portrait Boutique! This event is all about re-connecting with your confidence, authenticity, vulnerability and other like-minded women. PLUS celebrate and commemorate your experience with a one of a kind power portrait taken by Ashley, from Simply Lush.

Jess & Ashley are passionate about self love, fostering supportive communities and helping others re-connect with their confidence, and cannot WAIT to share this day with you.

Please note, there are 2 sessions and space is limited to 10 participants per session to keep things intimate. You can sign up by visiting the link in our bios. Come alone or with a friend, leave with a community and re-invigorated connection to yourself 💚💚💚

06/13/2023

🎁 GIVEAWAY 🎁

-Mini Tarot Reading with .with.angela
-Brand new STOKED perfume by
- 3 free coaching sessions with Jessica from

ENTER TO WIN:
-"like" this post
-follow all 3 accounts .with.angela
-tag three friends in the comments

We are super excited to share this giveaway with you! Winner will be chosen
Friday night! And may the odds be ever in your favor!!!! 🥳🥳🥳

06/11/2023

🏳️‍🌈 The Big Gay Storyslam 🏳️‍🌈 was a dream!
Thanks to for the invite and for keeping it cute!!!

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05/28/2023

There is no one size fits all when it comes to the grieving process.
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But, here is a bit of a breakdown of some parts of what most grieving people experience. Check out the last slide for the reality of grieving.
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The truth is the steps rarely go in order and we rarely “get over it”. Rather, we learn how to get on without it. Sending love, Jess 💚

05/14/2023

Wishing all the momma’s a beautiful day. Thank you for building a more compassionate future for us all with your littles 💙
To anyone struggling today know that you too are worthy and loved. I see you and you’re not alone 🤍🤍🤍

05/11/2023

Healthy communication begins with acceptance. Acceptance that the other persons viewpoint is their truth; acceptance that we cannot control other people; acceptance that life isn’t always fair. Until we ACCEPT the reality of a situation, we cannot begin finding practical ways forward. This is what willingness is all about.
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By thoughtfully examining our own role in the escalation of conflict, and considering how our interpretation might be coloring our unwillingness to meet someone in the middle we can respond to these moments instead of reacting to them.
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04/25/2023

I wasn’t planning on sharing about our infertility journey publicly but the timing of our first IUI seems significant as it is National Infertility Week.
There’s so much more I could say and share, but mostly I hope that our society starts to create space for those struggling with infertility to share their story with empathy and understanding. You are not alone 💚

04/25/2023

I wasn’t planning on sharing about our infertility journey publicly but the timing of our first IUI seems significant as it is National Infertility Week.
There’s so much more I could say and share, but mostly I hope that our society starts to create space for those struggling with infertility to share their story with empathy and understanding. You are not alone 💚

04/13/2023

Hi! I’m Jessica, the face behind The Rewired Relationship and I’m so happy you’re here! 💙

03/21/2023

I’m soooooo excited to share that I’m holding the first event at the office- this is a great way to jump into spring with a fresh outlook and rejuvenated spirit! DM to reserve your place as spots as limited!

01/29/2023

Familial Enmeshment 101- what it is, how it can impact us and work arounds 💚✌🏼

It’s not uncommon for co-dependent behavior in our adult relationships to grow out of enmeshed relationships with our childhood caregivers. The good news? It’s never too late to create change through understanding & intentional changes in how we think about things and our behavior moving forward 🫶

01/29/2023

Having difficult days, heavy feelings and the occasional negative outlook doesn’t mean that you’re failing. It means you’re human.

01/26/2023

In life, growth and pain are two unlikely bedfellows. Emotional pain can lead to stagnation and self doubt. But, we also have the opportunity to reframe those experiences as an opportunity for the development of insight and an adjustment to a limited outlook on our own resilience and capacity to create meaningful change for ourselves.

01/25/2023

When I’m first meeting a new client I always ask about their struggles AND their positive attributes. All too often, after they’ve produced a comprehensive manifesto of their (perceived) “flaws” they will struggle to identify even a single strength. It’s heart breaking. The way that we talk to and about ourselves plays a crucial role in our ability to heal when we are hurting. And let’s be honest, if constant self criticism was an effective tool to like ourselves wouldn’t it have worked by now? Being cruel isn’t constructive, it’s counter productive when the goal is self acceptance.

01/24/2023

Something I’m infamous for repeating over and over is “choose your hard”. Suffering in generational trauma, addiction, interpersonal relationships that hurt you, etc … is also hard, but it lacks the promise of an improved future for yourself and the future generations of your family.
Keep moving forward! You’re worth it! 💜

01/23/2023

Growing up with emotionally distant (or emotionally stunted) adults can teach us that we need to continually earn affection and that love is conditional. What I’ve learned is that this type of love always has an air of fear at the core, and puts our relationship with ourselves in the hands of an unreliable reporter. Finding friends and partners who consistently demonstrate an appreciation for who you are, even on days that you struggle, creates a path forward in our ability to celebrate and love ourselves.

01/22/2023

Loving yourself is the prerequisite ✌🏼💚

01/22/2023

Continually giving toxic people a second (third, fourth, etc…) chance isn’t about closure, it’s about your relationship with yourself. By continually accepting less than you deserve in relationships you are limiting the potential of finding healthy, reciprocal relationships. Even more importantly, accepting less than you need and want in relationships also stunts the development of healthy self esteem. You deserve fulfilling relationships, but it’s up to you to hold that standard.

01/22/2023

The best kind of friend you can be is yourself.

01/22/2023

The truth is that the most effective form of self care combines building healthier habits through gentleness, gratitude & self acknowledgment. However, it also depends on engaging in constructive self evaluation about your negative habits and mistakes.

01/22/2023

Feelings do not come with a value system attached (i.e. good/bad). they are regulatory devices that are body uses to cue us that something is happening, and having an effect on us.  Practicing and fostering healthy communication as well as emotional awareness is a great gift to give yourself (and subsequently, future generations). ✌🏼💚

01/22/2023

We seek out what we know in our relationships. It can feel safer to date people that feel familiar (even if rationally it’s the opposite of “safe” for our self acceptance). Choosing partners that mirror the problematic patterns of our primary caregiver(s) is our psyche’s way of trying to resolve the cost of those relationships to our self worth with a replacement figure. It rarely leads to resolution, serving rather to perpetuate those crises. Healing isn’t found in someone else, it’s all about you reinforcing and growing the belief and commitment to your worth and value. So instead of looking to problematic/rejecting figures to tell you that you matter, start by telling yourself. 💚✌🏼✨

01/22/2023

It’s never too late to learn new skills or adjust your belief system about yourself, your needs or what you deserve in relationships. I often encourage clients to challenge themselves to “be the adult you needed as a child”. Care for him/her/them today and you’ll be amazed at what that care yields for your relationships with yourself and others 💜💜💜

01/22/2023

There is so much power in making the intentional choice to no longer settle for what does not make you feel happy, loved, deserving or seen.