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07/25/2024

On the plane yesterday, I re-watched the movie, Red, White, and Royal Blue. I loved it the first time I saw it and loved it and cried equally this second viewing. I however, cannot recommend movies that make you cry on an airplane.

I'm very suggestible and gullible to believe a movie is "real." So, for me, while I know it is fiction, it seems real. The story- of these two guys coming to be in love was real.

Before the first release much has been made about the chemistry between these two guys, and I think marketing played it up (and actually a lot since then), leaving many wondering if they were gay. We know now, that Galtizine is straight, and Perez, really isn't saying. I wondered, if knowing this would change the film for me. But the sucker that I am- not at all. I'm still in love with them and their love story.

I think I keyed into Alex's bis*xual awakening more than I did during the first viewing. Henry's tormented situation sublimating his personal feelings for the "role" tradition had created for him was pretty easy to grasp before. But I thought a lot about how the support each guy received (or didn't) how that impacted their individual journeys.

Given the crazy political climate right now, I thoroughly enjoyed the fantasy of it- a woman president, Texas being the state that won the re-election for her. The ease of getting around the globe, and especially how they rode bikes to the house at the end with no secret service ever in view.

Even though it makes me sob, this will remain a feel-good movie for me. I'm sure I'll watch it many times over.

My favorite scenes are the cake at the beginning, and dancing in the museum. But there are lots of great moments.

Not a day goes by, that here isn't Drag Race "news" in my feed somewhere. This story showed up for me, in my news reader...
07/11/2024

Not a day goes by, that here isn't Drag Race "news" in my feed somewhere. This story showed up for me, in my news reader first.

All these RPDR stories, especially the ones that tempt you with a bit of drama are just marketing stuff. To get you caught up and remaining engaged with the world-wide franchise, RPDR has become. I don't think that is all bad, but I'm sad to see when these talented performers simply become fodder for a marketing department.

This story is an interesting one. Ongina, one of my all, time favorite queens, wants to explore other creative endeavors. My first thought is, like DUH..... creative people explore being creative. No story here.

But there is a bigger story under the surface.

Persons who do drag, do drag for a wide variety of reasons, but for the most part, they are creative performers. They are real people, who get into a character(s) and are known for that character. Some use their drag name only while in drag, others, are both their drag name as well as their "civilian" name. Some use specific pronouns in or out of drag. Others might just be she or he, regardless of if they are in drag or not. For me, this is one of the biggest advantages to drag, it highlights how gender is myriad, fluid, and exceptionally unexceptional.

But a problem occurs, when the audience believes the drag persona is all there is, and that it belongs to them as the audience. We see that in the way fandoms develop around drag performers. Some become so beloved, revered, and treated as if they are goddesses. When really, they are simply highly talented people.

Some drag performers change culture, especially pop culture. Vanessa Vanjie Mateo and her now ICONIC exit, forever changed pop culture. Alaska- some of her taglines too. And no one who follows drag will ever forget, "I'd like to keep it on, please."

We could make a long list.

But what does it mean, when we, as a viewing audience distill a creative person down to a few moments of insane greatness and then hold them rigidly to that persona forever? Why does this happen?

I think one reason it happens is because these characters, created by these performers, become representations of q***rness. Especially or younger q***rs who may not feel safe enough to truly be in their own q***rness.

Drag Race gets critiqued for many reasons, and it should. But it has always been a space where people are encouraged to find within themselves, their inner drag queen- their inner strong woman. If we forget to keep developing and letting our own self out- and we only act as spectators for others, we can't really thrive as a community.

I wish Ongina all the best. I hope, as whatever way they present, we as an audience are ready for their creativity. I wish we would stop trying to fit drag performers into tiny boxes, treating them like objects we, the audience owns.

RuPaul's Drag Race OG Ongina has announced that she will be taking 'a breather' from drag, and teased a career change in 'a new chapter'.

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02/28/2023

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Q***r is a term that members of the LGBTQ community often love or hate vehemently.  Especially some older gay men seem to struggle with the word, as it was a common and effectively painful slur many of us heard growing up. 

https://flip.it/sirlDe Chile inches closer to marriage equality after historic vote: 'The time has come!'
11/24/2021

https://flip.it/sirlDe Chile inches closer to marriage equality after historic vote: 'The time has come!'

The lower house of the congress of Chile has approved same-s*x unions, bringing the South American country another step closer marriage equality.Chile legalised civil partnerships for same-s*x …

I generally post every year about Trans Day of Remembrance as many within the Q***r Publishing/ Social Media world do.  ...
11/21/2021

I generally post every year about Trans Day of Remembrance as many within the Q***r Publishing/ Social Media world do.

The sobering facts are the facts.

But instead of simply repeat them from this article, I want to ask you, what can you do to make a difference? Learn about Trans persons and speak up and confront transphobia? Hire trans persons? Listen and be supportive of Trans advocates and activists? Be real friends and allies to the Trans movement? Call in (or when needed, call out) those who dismiss, belittle or laugh at Trans persons?

https://flip.it/T2z4AJ 2021 marks deadliest year for transgender people in the U.S.

07/29/2020

9:00 a.m. ET -  "America’s Persistent Pandemic—Racism: How to Foster Antiracist Practices and Create a Culture of Inclusion, Equity, and Justice" featuring Ibram X. Kendi, author of “How to Be an Antiracist”  Session link: https://youtu.be/QviXW3xszbg  10:45 a.m. ET -  Morning worksho...

https://thomascwaters.com/2020/06/08/pride-2020-a-month-of-pride/
06/08/2020

https://thomascwaters.com/2020/06/08/pride-2020-a-month-of-pride/

But unlike most years, where Pride is hugely celebratory, my posts will be far more diverse. Usually I see one great value of Pride is to re-energize the community, and celebration, positivity, and encouragement help make that happen. But another great value of Pride is to offer resistance, and call...

06/07/2019

Hello blog followers! I'm using Pride Month as a way to relaunch my blog and get back to regular posts! You may agree with me or disagree with me, but I hope you will read and join a dialogue as I share my commentary about LGBTQIA+ issues. And today as we are ready to kick off Pride weekend in Pittsburgh, I'll be publishing my first post. Look for a post or two every week.

05/30/2015

Friends and followers- thomascwaters.com was recently hacked and while I have made a change at the server side of things to fix the site, it may take some time to actually show up for site visitors. I apologize in advance for any inconvenience this may cause, and I'm doing everything I can to minimize the problem.

12/22/2014

About this time each year I organize a series of posts about the top LGBTQ stories of the year. I look at my site stats, number of visitors, comments, etc to decide what posts were the most popular. I'm going to post the top 4, because to post the top 14, just feels like too many.

But it got me thinking, I wonder what my readers think are the stories and commentaries I got most right and most wrong last year. If you are a long time ready, where do you think I was most off base last year and why- I really want to know. I'll revisit those posts/stories and see if I feel differently now, with hindsight than I did at the time of writing.

Send me an email, or DM me and let me know what you think. Posts based on the replies will be out between Christmas and New Years.

09/09/2014
A black eye for Broadway? | thomascwaters.com

A black eye for Broadway?:

I'm missing the gay gene for Broadway adoration. OK, I love the theater, and I can enjoy a good show tune, but for me, it isn't over the top like it is for some

09/09/2014
More Bis*xual Visibility | thomascwaters.com

More Bis*xual Visibility:

Failure to allow a bis*xual person to so identify is really a matter of the internalized homophobia of the person judging. Both of these stories confront the

09/08/2014
Pittsburgh’s statement: the police incident at Pittsburgh Pride.

Some thoughts regarding the press release last Friday regarding the police incident at Pittsburgh Pride.

On Friday, a press release was posted regarding the City's review of allegations of police misconduct at this year's Pittsburgh Pride. Today I want to comment on two aspects of the overall story,

09/07/2014
Pittsburgh Celebrates a Full Weekend of Transgender Visibility

Pittsburgh Celebrates a Full Weekend of Transgender Visibility:

A greater awareness and appreciation of this diversity within the Trans* community is needed especially by the umbrella LGBTQ community, where some have expressed a desire to break Trans issues apart of the larger issue of Equality. G**s and Le****ns must before it is too late grasp how their own ef…

09/03/2014
Rome, Falling, and the G**s

Indeed some scholars go so far as to suggest the rise of Christianity was one factor that helped bring down the Roman Empire.

The quoted letter is from The Garden Island web site’s mail bag: Let’s not fall as quickly as RomeSo, Gov. Abercrombie is blaming his humiliating primary loss on his decision to call a special session to legalize homos*xual marriage. Perhaps he should, as he evidently hasn’t learned much from theRead More

09/01/2014
Is Steel City Stonewall Dems RIP?

Western PA needs an active, engaged and hardworking group to help inform voters, get good voter turnout and place the q***r community central in the Western PA political arena.

As much as the Labor Day holiday marks the end of summer, it also reminds us that elections are just a few months away, and this November is extremely important for PA politics. I headed over to Steel City Stonewall Democrat’s web site to see what was up with theirRead More

08/27/2014
Indiana Marriage: Nudging Uncontrollable Heteros*xuals

Indiana Marriage: Nudging Uncontrollable Heteros*xuals:

The linked story from The Slog highlights some of the most intriguing elements of the exchange between the Indiana Attorney General, and the 7th Circuit Appeals Judges. Here’s my favorite quote from the Indiana lawyer: FISHER: “The question is what can we do to nudge heteros*xual couples who may produceRead More

08/25/2014
Christians and Anti-LGBT Discrimination

Christians and Anti-LGBT Discrimination:

As Same-s*x marriage progresses in the courts, we are going to see a shift in the ideas coming from those who claim to write from a religious perspective and this post at Abbey Road is a great example. The poster makes clear not supporting marriage equality, but at the sameRead More

08/22/2014
Should we seek marriage equality at the ballot box?

Post follows a discussion I had on Twitter regarding seeking marriage equality through the ballot box.

I had a very odd and fun conversation last evening on Twitter regarding marriage equality. Something I had tweeted struck a cord and this guy sent me a reply which turned into a long string of tweets. In a nutshell, this guy was peeved because it appears that all theRead More

08/21/2014
A look at why national marriage rights matter.

A look at why national marriage rights matter.:

Read this article about Fargo ND and I think it helps illustrate why national marriage rights are needed. The boundaries we call state borders do not often define who we are, who we love, where we work, reside, and the rights we need to protect our families. I so oftenRead More

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