Life Thru the Window Pane

07/13/2024

03/10/2024

Sometimes it feels so wrong when people are kind to us. We are so used to people being unkind. Including ourselves. We stay in relationships that we know on some level we shouldn't because we don't want to fail at it again. If I only do (this) it will be okay. If I lose weight it will be better. I should have known better, I won't do (this) next time. I'll only wear (this) because it's their favorite. We let ourselves get so bogged down with the only ifs and the I could have/should haves in negative relationships that it starts to develop trauma responses. So, when good, honest, wholesome people come into our lives we don't know what to do. Initially it feels good.. and then the panic sets in. You start thinking there's no way someone is actually this nice. You keep waiting for them to pull the rug. But they don't. So you start creating the problems in your mind. That's what you're subconscious programmed to do. Start fixing the problems.

This is a trauma response. Somewhere along your timeline you had a significant relationship with negative conditioning. Maybe you can pinpoint it, maybe not. Either way it carries on to the next relationship and snowballs, because we keep picking the same type of person or people to be around. This is not exclusive to romantic relationships. Friendships. Co-workers. Parents. Siblings. Yourself. If you look you will find a pattern in the company you keep. Some make you feel comfortably on edge and some bring you peace. We are creatures of habit though and have a tendency to stick with the devil we know.

If you start looking, really breaking down your relationships, you will know who is good for you and who is not. It is hard to walk away from the people and things we know. We don't all do well outside of our comfort zone. The good thing is that comfort zones aren't concrete. They can grow and shrink as we want them to. You are worth being treated well. You are worth being treated with kindness. If you start treating yourself good, you will find it flows into other relationships and eventually you will find goodness flowing back.

03/07/2024

Love is the base. You can build ANYTHING on Love. Without a solid foundation things don't last. Relationships don't last. You won't last.

This includes loving yourself. Treat yourself like you love. Be kind to yourself. Be loyal to yourself. Respect yourself and your boundaries. Set limits for yourself. Things you are no longer willing to allow yourself to do. Eventually you will find you have those expectations for the way you allow the people around you to treat you. You can't control someone else's actions or words. You can only control what you are willing to tolerate. Start with you. Love yourself. Be loyal to yourself. Respect yourself.

Everything else will start to fall into place. Just watch.

03/06/2024

Sometimes we try so hard to fill in the gabs of others that we run ourselves out of happiness. We are scared to walk away...for many reasons. Reasons that really aren't reasons. Usually they are more like excuses than reasons; once you really get down to it. We don't want to feel like the time we have invested in someone was for nothing. A complete loss. A failure. Because we associate that with who we are and internalize it. If I had done this better. If I had only....

If you were meant to stay in someone's life there wouldn't be ifs. You wouldn't wonder about being good enough. You would spread yourself so thin to fill their gaps that now you have gaps too and there is no one to fill your gaps.

Walking away doesn't have to be flashy. Sometimes you just stop showing up for them. Sometimes you slowly pick and choose what you will show up for. Eventually you will feel whole again. One day you will look back and realize how you mishandled yourself and how much you are worth.

Walking away isn't a weakness. Self preservation isn't a weakness. Everyone has to learn this lesson. Usually more than once. You are not alone in this. You can make you whole again.

08/29/2023

We were in working and revamping the space today.

Added several new items....

Outdoor solar light set
Garth Brooks 8 Set collection
Halloween 🎃 and Christmas 🎄 earrings
Boys room decor

Check out our other items...

Kancan skinny jeans
Formal gowns
Craft supplies
Original art work (wood carvings, acrylic paintings pottery)
Vintage pottery

Have a great day and happy shopping!

05/06/2023

Just added a lot of new stuff to the booth. Much of it from the 1970's.

12/19/2022

It's slowly coming together. We are adding "new" things all of the time.