Nakita

02/14/2025

It's Love Day, but love doesn't always have to be romantic. I hope you find all the love worth celebrating today. ❤️ This one's for my sis who has been my backbone, confider, biggest supporter. And who has been hustling endlessly but finding herself at what seems like deadends lately. Hoping this will give her some love and light today. Happy Valentines. Kalina K.

12/12/2024

I recently celebrated my two year anniversary with my partner. We talked about how we’ve grown as a couple and as individuals this year. And how much we’ve learned about relationships themselves. It reminds me how much I wish our parents and us grew up learning relationship skills and how important they are. Because many of us end up in unhealthy relationships and become unhealthy partners without it.

I spent my whole 20s trying to follow all the common relationship advice. But I’m just finally starting to understand them.

“All relationships are hard work.”

Yes, they are. But that is not to be interchangeable with “miserable,” “hurtful” and “suffocating.” Relationships are hard because they require us to learn a lot of new skills, and to unlearn our unhealthy habits. It’s hard because we have to actively work against our autopilot ways, to not behave immaturely or unreasonably when we are triggered and hurt. It’s hard because humans are complex, and it’s hard to understand others let alone ourselves.

“Accept and see them as they are.”

This should be prefaced with “Choose who you are willing and able to do this for without it costing your wellbeing.” Accepting them as they are, is not to be confused with persuading yourself to be okay with bare minimum. To excuse harmful behavior. It means that although they don’t show up in ways you’ve fantasized or wish they had, you can see all the ways they do show up and add to your life. All the ways they meet your needs, even ones you never knew you had.

“Find someone who adds value to your life.”

I’m such a go-getter myself. And I have changed my own life so many times in tremendous ways. But, truly, be with the person that literally opens a version of your life that you could not reach or experience without them. Because even if there are so many more fishes in the sea, it’s only with them that you get to live in this exact special way.

There’s so much more I could say that has shifted my whole relationship experience. But I hope we have more of these conversations with our loved ones. Because not knowing these things, on top of self-love and self-anything, has really led me to many dark places, wrong people, and lesser versions of myself. And I hope more of us, women, men, youth and mature, and everyone, learn more about ourselves, about relationships, friendships, and grow internally and personally as much as we do in our careers and achievements. ❤️

11/21/2024

I’m often asked about heartbreak and how to “get over it.” But it’s hard to jump back into a place you are so far removed from. When you’re going through it, the days feel so long–as if the pain will never pass. But when you’re out, it becomes a faint memory of the past. This one is for a sister in my dms, newly navigating her divorce.

Heartbreak, I think, is one of the most excruciating human experiences. And only those who have been broken so deeply, know how it feels to be so broken, that it changes you forever. Because there is nothing left of who you were. And it marks a before and after, of the you before the pain, and the you after.

But that’s the thing. You never “get over” heartbreak. You can only go through it, and if you let it, you can grow through it. And you get to build and choose, who the “you” after, gets to be.

That requires you to let go, and accept what is. Let go of how you wanted this to be, of who you and that person were or who you wanted them to be, and the life you had together. Let go of all control–of outcomes, of others, and allow time and the universe to do its thing.

Fill your sorrow with joy, your loneliness with good people, your losses with gratitude. Fill your time with things that make you laugh. Find all the things you’ve forgotten about; yourself, your friends, your childhood dreams. And discover all the things you’ve never known; your potential, your new dreams. Every time you spiral on where and what went wrong, and how they are doing, bring the focus back on you.

Often, it’s not just the person we have to heal from, but it’s also how this relationship made us feel about ourselves. And our fear of the unknown, of what happens next.

I don’t know what that will be for you, but I just know that if I never embraced each of my heartbreaks, I would’ve never met the current version of myself and get to live the life that I have now.

So I hope you have the courage, to stride forward, and to know you will always eventually be okay. As long as you never give up on you, and you choose yourself, each and every day.

Please leave some love for our friends going through heartbreak/divorce ❤️

10/17/2024

This has been one of my favorite podcast episodes to have been featured on! 🥹 it’s so fun and refreshing to step away from my busy life to sit down and have deep and fulfilling conversations pushing barriers on self-expression, healing, creative pursuits and living in alignment. Tune into my episode with Hmong Womxn Thriving for some food for thought and lots of laughter. ❤️

In the final guest episode of Hmong Womxn Thriving Season 2, we are honored to speak with Nakita Vang, a trailblazer in the Hmong community known for her transformative work in healing and personal growth. 🌿✨ As the visionary behind Healing Hmong Sisters and Heal in Heels, Nakita has created powerful platforms dedicated to empowering Hmong women to heal, grow, and reclaim their narratives.

In this heartfelt conversation, Nakita shares her journey toward self-discovery and how her own healing experiences inspired her to help others. We explore the deep impact of her work, which offers tools and support for Hmong women to heal from breaking societal expectations, and embracing their authentic selves. 🌸👠

Join us as we dive into Nakita’s wisdom, passion, and the beautiful impact she’s made on the lives of countless women. This episode is a powerful celebration of healing, resilience, and sisterhood—and the perfect way to wrap up the guest interviews for Season 2. 💖

Tune in here 💃🏻: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0R2H4lKCWQYLovLNEcMzJU?si=USFvm8rFReGroqekGyE1PA

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10/10/2024

I wish we talked about mental health like we do weight loss--because it's not about how many times we fall off track, it's about never giving up and trying again. And learning the tools to build the regimen that works for you. It's not about omitting everything, it's about finding a balance and maintaining that balance.

I will never stop talking about mental health, self-love, and healing. Because I know what it's like to have none of those things. And I never want anyone to live that way. You are worth the patience, the dedication, and investment. Even if it's just reading this post. Knowledge is power, but so is giving yourself a chance. Over and over. ❤️

10/03/2024

Since I was young, I’ve always wanted to marry a Hmong man and enter a Hmong family–I’ve never really questioned otherwise. Although many have the misconception that I always wanted to marry someone Korean, due to being able to speak the language. But honestly, that was only coincidental–my mom intentionally raised us with Korean media as she disapproved of American media. So naturally, I picked up the language from age 7.

Currently, my partner happens to be Korean, and this is his 86-year-old grandma, whom we call “Halmoni.” And she and I have this little special relationship.

She often runs to greet me even before she greets him, and always chuckles and apologizes for doing so. And although she doesn’t always go out with us, even if it’s late, she’ll be up waiting for me to come home, just to ask if she can show me her picture albums. To tell me stories of her life, her childhood, marriage, and growing up in the Japanese colonial era.

She isn’t fluent in English, and her grandchildren aren’t fluent in Korean, so she has limited chances to really express herself.

But Korean and Hmong culture are so parallel, so when it’s the two of us, even with a language barrier, there’s a little world that we both enter, and we just get each other.

I lost my grandma last year, and since, I’ve found myself losing part of my identity; the highest form of my “Hmongness” if you will, that only existed with her.

But with Halmoni, I feel as if we both fulfill something for each other that no one else can. I think with each other, we get to be the most Hmong and most Korean we crave to be. And for me, I get to experience the grandma I wish I had.

And I find that to be so fascinating. That we are from two worlds and yet, only when together, those worlds can exist.

I think one of the reasons I always wanted to marry a Hmong man was because I was afraid of losing my identity. But I’ve come to learn that it’s up to a person’s spirit, to choose how they want to love, to be and experience their identity. And how I want to celebrate it and protect it, is up to me. My Hmongness is enough. And I have faith, wherever I go, I will still always be Hmong at my fullest. ❤️

09/24/2024

This year started with a lot of prayers to the universe, to give me some light, to bring me where I am meant to be. I found myself unhappy, frustrated and depleted. And consequently, bit by bit, I've had to do a whole lot of letting go. Of people, things, a big part of my business and opportunities. And yet again, I am humbled that letting go is often where new chapters start. I hope to document more of my life lessons and revelations in my 30s, for the younger me. ❤️

08/26/2024

Officially re-introducing...Heal in Heels the brand. With the launch of our official website where you can register for classes for the rest of 2024! ✨ So happy to finally make this vision come to life.

Biggest thank you to .co for elevating my branding vision, Kalina K. Served by Kalina K. for my styling, hair & mua. ❤️

08/19/2024

Nakita the Multi-Creative: Writer, Speaker, Dancer & Content Creator. 🦋

I've had a recent awakening, realizing that I've been holding myself back--from who I really want to be. I've been trying to fit myself into a box and prove myself by mastering one thing. I've been giving my energy away because I started to believe that what I'm dreaming of, can't exist. That I'm not going to make it.

But that's just not who I am. And life is too short for me to not live in alignment.

And so I'm making my next pivot, and that comes with many scary decisions. But, I'm going to go all in, and put my bet on me.

I'm Nakita. I'm a Writer, Speaker, Dancer & Content Creator. And no matter what it is that I do, my life mission, is to empower others to believe in themselves too.

And I've learned and honed so many skills and knowledge along the way of building myself, that I want to share and service them too:

· Coaching (Business or Personal Development)
· Branding
· Social Media
· Content Creation
· Public Speaking

And all the while, writing and making content that makes me feel alive, that adds to the world, that lights someone else's fire. And hopefully that will help them light someone else's too.

Whether you work with me or follow me, thank you for keeping my light alive too.

My new website and branding is finally up, I would love to share that with you.

✨ nakitavang.com ✨

Biggest thank you to .co for elevating my branding vision, Kalina K. for my styling, hair & mua. And my partner for working late nights to help me perfect this website. ❤️

07/03/2024

I've been in search of my ikigai for a long while now; my purpose that encompasses my innate talents and that is needed by the world.

I have done so many cool jobs up to this point. Getting paid for things I never imagined. I've been an English teacher in South Korea, program coordinator hosting celebrities, videography for really cool events and businesses, spending days doing graphics and logos, speaking and emcee gigs, influencer reel and event, coaching calls, branding projects, social media management, and creative directing and choreography for a music video.

But speaking, writing, video creation and teaching dance classes, has been the closest thing to my dream job yet. Because I get to be all of me, without changing anything, and just show up as I am and be completely accepted and appreciated for it. I get to be creative, unapologetic, bold and yet intentional while making an impact through genuinely connecting with others. Just by being myself and doing the things I love to do in the way that makes sense to me.

And just by starting and trying, I've really learned the blueprint of what makes me thrive. And how unlimited our potential is.

If I'm honest, I've lost myself to anxiety quite a bit lately. Letting it drive me and deter me from the things I love because of scarcity; of not making enough, having enough, of the fear of uncertainty.

But I was reminded to revisit my why. The why to why I do the things I do.

And it's because, I know how it feels to live a life lesser than I deserve. I know how it feels to cut myself short because of how I thought and spoke to myself and how I allowed others to treat me. I know how it feels to live a life of darkness and chaos because that was my norm. And now, I can't even recognize the older versions of me. And I cannot believe I allowed myself to live that way for so many years. And I really don't want others to live through the same things, I don't want them to lose to their own battles, and miss out on what their life could be; their truest potentials.

So I hope we spend more of our time, doing the things we love, and being the people we truly are and want to be. ❤️

📷: Mi Noog & Andrew L. Xiong

05/20/2024

I hosted a Mother's Day dance class and couldn't be more healed and happy to see all the beautiful moments between mothers and daughters, and women that night. I always wanted to share the healing power of dance with women of all generations, especially our mothers. And I always wanted to share with other daughters, the magic of watching your mom heal her inner child through dance too. Because as much as we need healing and self-love, our moms do too. 🥹 (my mama was too independent and ambitious to join me as she was performing with her own dance team 😭😂).

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05/12/2024

I recently turned 30 and that has been leading me through a series of reflections. One of them being how my appreciation and understanding of my mom has evolved over the years. And how much she was still navigating her own identity, when she had me–of being Asian-American and being Hmong-American. And how much the hustle culture of this society makes us take for granted the simplest of things that matter. I don't think a video could truly capture the essence of my mom and the depth of her love, but I hope this could be a small gift to her this mother's day (and her birthday), and reminder for all of us to make time to ground ourselves in the small things; in the now and the present. ❤️