AnnikaJulie87

10/18/2024

"Loving yourself isn't vanity: it's sanity." 💕
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08/09/2024

We got by and survived by being:⠀⁠
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Perfect
People Pleasing
High Achieving⁠
Selfless⁠
Popular⁠
In trouble⁠
Helpful⁠
Helpless⁠
Accommodating⁠
Responsible⁠
Bossy⁠
Self-destructive⁠
All of it. ⠀⁠
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Think about a stuck place you have currently. ⠀⁠
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Relationships⁠
Jobs⁠
Family⁠
Creativity⁠
Self-Cars⁠
Constantly doing ⠀⁠
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Is there a childhood survival belief that runs that stuck place?⠀⁠
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Self-care -"I can't do something good for myself because I can only do stuff like that for others."- did we do something similar to get love growing up? ⠀⁠
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07/21/2024

Happens naturally...

06/30/2024

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06/18/2024

And this one

06/18/2024

This one definitely

05/17/2024

For those with childhood trauma, their past is living within them and usually, they want nothing to do with it, but there it is.⁠
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Survivors don't spend time dwelling on or living in abuse. Ironically, we put a lot of energy, if not all, into suppressing and forgetting as best we can.⁠
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It should be thought of more like the abuse won't let the survivor go, rather than the survivor making a big decision to move on from it.⁠
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That phrase or idea doesn't work. And survivors don't long for body memories, flashbacks or breakdowns at work. They're just trying to get through their week.⁠
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Until our past is witnessed, shared, processed and healed, which takes time, money and energy, it will manifest in most of our daily lives. It will pop up in everything, from our thoughts about ourselves in the morning, to how we engage with others.⁠
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The phrase "You're living in the past." implies choice to which the survivor didn't have in childhood and doesn't have in the present. It also dismisses horrifying things that children go through and then are later blamed for. It's a very shaming phrase, usually said while the survivor is trying to process.⁠
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Snapping fingers or clicking our heels and telling ourselves that we dismiss or forgive what our family systems did, and we'll be different from now on and stop being affected by the emotional, physical and sexual abuse is bullsh*t.⁠
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They would have done so if it worked like that.⁠
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Follow for more education on childhood trauma.⁠
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05/03/2024

05/02/2024

04/28/2024

WE are all here for a reason. Your Souls mission will be unique to you & it is the path we are walking right now otherwise we simply wouldn't be on it. We all detour away from it at times but the Universe nudges US harder & harder until we are back on track & the detour will have taught US many lessons along the way. So you cannot not go 'wrong'
Bringing up our Children in the most conscious way we can is a Massive Soul Mission so please never think your not 'doing' your Unique Mission because you are & your very much needed. Thank YOU

04/25/2024

I went down all the wrong roads and made all the worst choices.
I pursued the wrong men for love and I tried to please people that weren’t worth my efforts.
I was ignored, treated badly and cast aside like I didn’t matter.
It’s a dark place when you don’t think anyone cares and everything you do goes badly.
Truth is, you stop believing in all the good stuff and start wallowing in your misery.
I was left holding the pieces of my broken heart so many times, I didn’t think love existed anymore.
I mean, who does it really work out for?
I would shake my head and try to convince myself that I wouldn’t give another man a chance to break my heart..
Until I opened up to another person and ended up on the same broken road that had become all too familiar.
I’d break down and tears would cover my face as I would be on my knees, heartbroken.
I just wondered why me?
Why couldn’t I have love and happiness like all the people I would see every day?
Sometimes, it takes a friend, a moment of vision or just the realization of your situation to help you see past your darkness to know that you don’t have to stay there in the unhappiness.
I couldn’t keep living this way- always holding my breath waiting for the next disaster or bad news.
I had to stop treating myself like I wasn’t good enough and settling for however people wanted to treat me.
I’d been broken, I’d been sad, I’d fallen..but I wasn’t staying down any more.
I wasn’t going to let the fire that had consumed me every day continue to ruins my life.
It was time to stop settling, stop accepting mistreatment and start taking responsibility for my life.
It wasn’t enough to just say “that’s just my luck” and be okay with it any more..
Because I’m not.
I’m more than good enough, I’m worth it, and most importantly, I got this.
I’ve been to the dark places, lost myself in the sadness and become hopeless.
Not anymore.
I’m owning my experiences and I’m taking back my life.
I might lose some people along the way, but they’re not my people if they can’t grow with me and love me for who I’m becoming.
I’m no longer doling out my heart to men that don’t deserve it..in fact, I’m going to stop worrying about love and start focusing on me..
Love will show up when I’m ready and the time is right- I don’t have to chase it for it to find me.
I lost myself somewhere along the way in my life, and it’s my time to rediscover who I am..
Time to grow, time to be happy, time to rediscover the me that I lost along the way.
So, yes, my story is filled with broken pieces, terrible choices and ugly truths..
But it’s also filled with a major comeback, peace in my soul and a grace that saved my life.
That, for me, right now, is enough.
I’ll figure the rest out as I go..I always do.
Because every day in every way, I got this.
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04/24/2024

Me too Bob, me too! 💖

04/18/2024

Is this your confirmation number? Or do you have another one?