08/01/2024
"I'm responding to my husband, the man who said; he married me, sponsored me into a nursing school, took me abroad and l betrayed him by processing my boyfriend's papers to join me in the States and got pregnant for him.
Please, I'm not here to defend myself but tell exactly how it happened, so the world can also understand my position in the whole situation.
I had to drop out of school due to lack of finances. My parents are retired primary school teachers. During that very tough period, this guy's mom, came to our house and told my mom she will wish for her son to marry me. My parents talked me into it even though they knew, l was already in a serious relationship and so much in love with my boyfriend.
I actually didn't have much of a choice since, the guy was based abroad and also doing very well. I felt like this was a God given opportunity to eradicate poverty in my family. On a quest to also please my family too. After a few chats with him, Our wedding was set in which, he came back to the country and we finalized our marriage.
Now before he traveled back, l pleaded that instead of him, being in a haste to process my documents he should instead register me into nursing school and start processing my documents when am almost about to graduate, since it will obviously be expensive if l should school abroad and also it can help me get a good job when l finally join him.
He was happy, proud of me and even praised me for being smart. He finally registered me and also an apartment was rented and furnished for me to stay in, so l become comfortable while l was in school. Just few month before my husband went back.
My boyfriend came to me and cr*ed, pleading that he was still very much in love with me. I felt really pity for him knowing, he did nothing wrong to me and I was also still and very much and deeply in love with him, i couldn't resist taking him back. we started seing each other again and he even moved in with me.
So, I started asking my husband more money and complaining of financial shortages in which he always sent a huge sums. I used this monies to also register my boyfriend into an ICT learning program, so he can graduate with an international standards certificate which, can as well help him get a good job abroad. We had it discussed and planed that, when i finally move to the states, I will process his documents while he joins me later.
Actually, We saw this as a good opportunity which could change our lives. I believed it was God's doing. To cut the long story short. Luckily My visa was ready few months after my graduation. In which l joined my husband in the states. That same week, l immidiately started making enquiries on how l could go about to get a job. My husband confessed how proud and happy he was to have an ambitious woman as l for a wife. He even helped me out in getting me a "work permit" and also summited my CV to several hospitals and that's how i finally got a job..
However, l was still keeping in touch with my boyfriend. After 4 years of living abroad, I was already well established and stable. After several trials and failures. My boyfriend's visa finally came out. I actually had no child with my husband for 4years, he was worried. We did several tests which always proved that, we're both ok. It's true that l was taking pills to avoid getting pregnant for him and l also denied him access to my body for 6 months. Truth is by this time, my boyfriend was already in the states. In which i finally got pregnant for him. I really didn't care anymore, if my husband found out about us because l was already deeply and m*dly in love with my Finace'.
I actually planed on revealing everything to my husband in due time and probably ask for his forgiveness. But somehow he found out on his own before l could, it's true I didn't feel remorseful.
But instead served him with divorce papers. My mind was already made up. I'm sorry to say, our marriage from the onset was a sham
I honestly never loved him. My heart belongs to another. I did what l did out of love, any woman in my shoe will do just same. I'm just a lady who's in love, God bear me witness that, l didn't mean for this to happen. I'm not here to defend myself like l said but rather to apologize.
I'm so sorry Rowland. You are a good man.
Even after everything l did. You still asked us to fix our marriage even when, I'm pregnant for someone else and you kept apologizing, when I'm the one that wronged you. Please forgive me, am sorry that l can not stay. Please consider my feelings too, My heart belongs to someone els. It wouldn't be good for us.
Thanks so much for signing the divorce papers. My Fiance' and I are ready and willing to repay everything and even more that you have ever done or spend on me, please name your price. I'm pleading with you that you kindly see me as a sister you helped out of poverty, pls let's not be enem*es but rather be friends. I'm sure that my God will repay you and sent someone whom will love you, just like you deserve Rowland. I know, this is not you, you're a good man, l believe you came to social media to expose me out of frustration and dpr*ssion.
Please, forgive me and my family. I'm so sorry
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