Spivey Loves You

01/10/2023

This is why I don’t bet on football.

12/11/2021

"Brian Bouffard (Pt 2): Growing Up in a Hoarder Home"
Last episode, Brian told us of some of his more interesting cases as a criminal defense attorney, this week he tells us how he grew up the child of hoarders - and how he's working through that still.

Player links & show notes: https://www.spiveylovesyou.com/brian-bouffard-pt-2-growing-up-in-a-hoarder-home/

Last episode, Brian told us of some of his more interesting cases as a criminal defense attorney - currently representing a detainee in Gitmo. In this …

12/08/2021

Check out Spivey Loves You this Saturday as we continue talking with Brian Bouffard. In our last episode, he detailed some of his experiences as a defense attorney for a Gitmo detainee. In this episode, Brian gives us a more personal glimpse into his life as he talks about growing up the child of hoarders.

In our last episode, Brian Bouffard gave us a lot of great information about what is happening with the detainees in our facilities at Guantanamo Bay, Cu…

12/04/2021

New Episode! On this episode you'll learn some fascinating information about the detainees at Guantanamo Bay (Gitmo) from Brian Bouffard, a former JAG officer and current member of the Military Commissions Defense Organization (MCDO). He’s the defense attorney for a current detainee and he gives us some history about Gitmo, info about what’s happening now, and what the future may hold. Has our use of torture yielded any results or harmed us in the war on terror? How many detainees are left at Gitmo? What are some legal acrobatics currently being used? Click here or listen wherever you get your podcasts! https://www.spiveylovesyou.com/brian-bouffard-whats-happening-at-gitmo/

On this episode you'll learn some fascinating information about the detainees at Guantanamo Bay (Gitmo) from Brian Bouffard, a former JAG officer and cur…

12/04/2021

New Episode! "Brian Bouffard: What's Happening at Gitmo?"

On this episode you'll learn some fascinating information about the detainees at Guantanamo Bay (Gitmo) from Brian Bouffard, a former JAG of…

Player links & show notes: https://www.spiveylovesyou.com/brian-bouffard-whats-happening-at-gitmo/

11/29/2021

This Saturday on Spivey Loves You, learn some fascinating information about the detainees at Guantanamo Bay (Gitmo) from Brian Bouffard, a former JAG officer and current member of the Military Commissions Defense Organization (MCDO). He’s the defense attorney for a current detainee and he gives us some history about Gitmo, info about what’s happening now, and what the future may hold. Has our use of torture yielded any results or harmed us in the war on terror? How many detainees are left at Gitmo? What are some legal acrobatics currently being used? Listen in and find out - wherever you get your podcasts.

10/03/2021

Latest SLY episode features well known libertarian activist and recent NY gubernatorial candidate Larry Sharpe! What are some ways to communicate with those who are politically closed off? We hear his great ideas for the state of New York - and what makes a person a libertarian. Larry is a great communicator and all around good dude.

Larry Sharpe is a well known Libertarian activist and 2018 New York gubernatorial candidate - and a business consultant, leadership trainer, and podcaste…

10/02/2021

New Episode! "Larry Sharpe: How To Talk To The Politically Brainwashed..."

Larry Sharpe is a well known Libertarian activist and 2018 New York gubernatorial candidate - and a business consultant, le…

Player links & show notes: https://www.spiveylovesyou.com/larry-sharpe-how-to-talk-to-the-politically-brainwashed/

09/30/2021

LARRY SHARPE! On the next SLY... Episode will be released Saturday, Oct 2.

Larry Sharpe is a well known Libertarian activist and 2018 New York gubernatorial candidate - and a business consultant, leadership trainer, and podcaste…

09/25/2021

Check out my latest Spivey Loves You podcast episode featuring Jessica Underwood James (JessMUA) as we discuss Multilevel Marketing (MLM) Nightmares. Learn how to identify what an MLM is, what to do if you're in one (spoiler alert: LEAVE), and some facts and figures about them. Less than 1% of all participants in MLMs make money. If you're in one or know someone who is - listen in! Also check out JessMUA's own anti-MLM podcast, The Persuasion Pitch!
https://www.spiveylovesyou.com/jessica-underwood-james-mlm-nightmares/

09/25/2021

New Episode! "Jessica Underwood James: MLM Nightmares!"

On the next, Spivey Loves You podcast episode, I'll be talking with Jessica Underwood James, a makeup artist on movies sets - and an active cr…

Player links & show notes: https://www.spiveylovesyou.com/jessica-underwood-james-mlm-nightmares/

09/22/2021

On the next, Spivey Loves You, I'll be talking with Jessica Underwood James, a makeup artist on movies sets - and an active crusader against MLM organizations. She has her own 'anti-MLM' podcast called The Persuasion Pitch - Check it out.

In previous episodes of SLY, we've taken a look at people who've had relationships with sociopaths, psychopaths and stalkers; Had abusive cults try to control every aspect of their lives; and have been saddled with wrongheaded mindsets. With many MLMs:

-They lie without a second thought to advance themselves (like a sociopath);
-They have little empathy for those who don't serve the "upline" (like a psychopath);
-They reach out and cling to every human in their path to recruit them, like a stalker;
-They control every waking moment of their "downline", have revival-style sales meetings with insane religious zeal, and some go door-to-door to recruit new members, like a cult;
-The people at the 'top of the pyramid' tell those below that they're not doing enough, they're not producing enough, they're just 'not enough'. This is a wrongheaded belief that many of these members begin to adopt about themselves.

With TV shows like Showtime's "On Becoming a God in Central Florida" and Netflix's "LulaRich" exposing the dark underbelly of MLMs, we're now seeing how abusive these organizations can be. LESS THAN 1% of MLM participants make money, according to the FTC. Find out how to spot an MLM, what to do if you're in one (spoiler alert: GET OUT!), and hear stories of people who joined - and left - MLM's.

Jess is an awesome guest! Check us out next Saturday, September 25th.

09/16/2021

Looking for Podcast guests! Did you RECENTLY discover that you were 'politically brainwashed'? Did your political party (either the GOP or Democratic Party) change directions and you just went along because 'the other political party is always the REAL problem'? Did you leave your political party - recently - and would be willing to talk about it on a podcast? Let me know if you'd like to be on my podcast about 'political brainwashing'.

09/07/2021

Listen to the "Spivey Loves Spivey" podcast episode. It's been 36 years and we've stumbled, bumbled and eventually got our stuff together as a couple. We took some listener questions, like "How do we keep It fresh?"; "What's our best advice for newlyweds?"; "How do we help each other through difficult circumstances?" - and others. Like everyone else, we don't have a perfect marriage, but we've made It through this far. Click on this link to listen in. I hope you have as much fun and get as much out of it as we did when we recorded it!

Not that we have a 'perfect marriage' at all, but I thought it might be fun to have my wife Carla on to talk about our life together - and to answer any …

09/01/2021

Carla and I will celebrate our 36th Anniversary soon. She’ll be my special guest on my next SLY podcast. What marriage/relationship advice would you ask us? Let me know soon - we’re recording in a day or so. Got some good questions on my personal page already! Thanks!

08/28/2021

Listen to SLY Ask Me Anything 2. I address hard hitting questions like: Boxers or briefs? Pineapple on Pizza? Greatest Punk Band ever? If I could read one book, eat at one restaurant, watch one TV show, and listen to one album for a year, what would they be? And if I ran for President, what would my campaign look like?

Last week I bared my soul a bit answering a few personal questions. This week, I'll address some different types of questions. Hard hitting questions li…

08/21/2021

In my latest podcast episode, I answered some “Ask Me Anything” questions and, well, I bare my soul a bit and tell a few stories about myself that never tell anyone. It was kind of cathartic. Listen in.

Since I've started this podcast, I've had a lot of guests come on and at my request, tell stories about the lowest parts of their lives. Stuff that they…

08/21/2021

In an 'Ask Me Anything' episode, I answer questions about my life and how I keep it all together (career, family, etc) even when faced with obstacles. I discuss some obstacles I've faced in the past and tools I've used to move past them. Listen in!

Since I've started this podcast, I've had a lot of guests come on and at my request, tell stories about the lowest parts of their lives. Stuff that they…

08/19/2021

Coming Saturday on the podcast: I answer some 'Ask Me Anything' questions about me. A few flattering questions - and I told some unflattering, embarrassing, stories about a few bad times in my life. I also talk about some beliefs, philosophies, and practices that help me move forward through it all. Basically, I'm opening the kimono a bit and showing a glimpse of my perfumed inner thigh. 😁 Check out my blog post here:

Since I've started this podcast, I've had a lot of guests come on and at my request, tell stories about the lowest parts of their lives.  Stuff that…

08/14/2021

Check out the latest podcast episode of Spivey Loves You! This time, we explore Borderline Personality Disorder - what it is, what it isn't, and one man's journey through his diagnosis. Wes was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and he shed a lot of light on BPD, shattered some misconceptions, and described successes he's had through a particular therapy method. I appreciate Wes being so open, engaging, and informative!

If you're like me, you've heard the term "Borderline Personality Disorder" thrown around - and didn't really have a handle on what it meant. There's a l…

08/11/2021

Coming on Saturday - August 14- My episode with Wes as he discusses living with Borderline Personality Disorder. He defines it (clearing up confusion on my part!); discusses his diagnosis; and how he's working through it using Dialectical Behavior Therapy. Some pretty amazing stuff! Check out my blog article for some additional details:

I've long had a lot of confusion and misconceptions about Borderline Personality Disorder.  Seems like anytime somebody was upset, impulsive, or jus…

08/07/2021

Season 2; Episode 1 SLY Podcast -
Robert Workman was the #1 salesperson. That got him fired. Yep, it happened. A few times. Hey, it happened to me too! Then Bob wrote his first book, "Hired Gun (You're #1 and Somebody Hates It)" which told about what to look out for - and WHO to look out for - when you're #1. He also explains some of his creative sales techniques in "Hired Gun". Example: He used a Thompson submachine gun (a Tommy Gun) as a deal closing incentive once. In his second book, "Selling - the Most Dangerous Game", he talks about strategies to take when the hired gun, becomes the mired gun - and eventually the FIRED gun.

We spend a good deal of time talking about the wild happenings at the most insane place either of us worked at: A rollicking, hard living, hard playing, hard selling, hard-to-survive place called Westcott Communications. Careers either took off, and money was made and good times were had - or more often, people flamed out in disgrace. But, frequently, even those soaring to the top flamed out like Icarus. We'll talk about those who flew too close to the sun (us included), and mention a bevy of hilarious nicknames that everyone of us 'Bulldogs' had. Bob was known as "Dr Luv" - and I was known as... well, listen in if you want to learn my nickname. A very few people still call me this today.

In all honesty, this was a fun reunion with an old friend - my original sales mentor - and a walk down memory lane. But really, it's more like us running shirtless, screaming down memory lane while shooting our pistols in the air and tossing the occasional Molotov cocktail.

Robert Workman was the #1 salesperson. That got him fired. Yep, it happened. A few times. Hey, it happened to me too! Then Bob wrote his first book,…

08/04/2021

Coming - Sat. Aug 7th, S2:E1 of Spivey Loves You. This is a crazy departure from my regular format in a lot of ways. I'll be talking with my first business mentor, Robert Workman - aka Bronco Bob aka Dr Luv. He's an acclaimed author of two great books, "Hired Gun" and "Selling - The Most Dangerous Game". We talk about some of our insane work adventures in the craziest place we've ever worked; How top sales people routinely get 'whacked'; his unique deal closing tools - like a Thompson "Tommy Gun" Submachine Gun; and we even talk about his old pet cougar, Kuma the Puma. Yes - lots of walking down memory lane for us... actually, it's more like running shirtless while screaming down Memory Lane and setting little fires along the way.

08/01/2021

If you want to hear a preview of Season 2 or just longing to hear the dusky dulcet tones of my voice, listen and subscribe. SLY is on all your favorite podcasting platforms.

Howdy! After three months off, I'm ready to do this again... I think. If you haven't listened before - WELCOME! If you have - Hey, Welcome Back! In th…

06/15/2021

With Season One well in the books and a little break/relaxation, I'm about to get Season Two underway. I'm starting to get some guests lined up now - and will begin recording in a month or so. If you, or someone you know, would like to be a guest, just let me know! Generally, my format Is 1:1 interview. I prefer face-to-face (in DFW area), but will do it via Zoom too. The theme of my show is: People who realized they were In a 'high control environment'; a harmful mindset; a cult; an abusive relationship and got out - OR- are working through and overcoming any tough situation. Or, if you have a great story - let's talk. You can be as anonymous as you'd like to be. DM me if you'd like to chat!

04/12/2021

Dana was born into the Church of Jesus Christ of the Latter Day Saints (LDS) - also known as The Mormon church. And she decided to leave that church. Discover what led her to leave and how she deals with the fallout from her big decision while still living in 'the belly of the beast' - that's Utah -- from her family, friends, and community who are still immersed in that belief system.
We'll also discuss some LDS history; South Park; the Book of Mormon: The Musical; a segment where we address the question: "Is the Mormon Church a Cult?", and getting in touch with your emotions. There are tears, laughter and everything in between with Dana. She's completely authentic and open - and I think you'll love her and her story as much as I do!
https://www.spiveylovesyou.com/dana-leaves-the-mormon-church/

Dana was born into the Church of Jesus Christ of the Latter Day Saints (LDS) - also known as The Mormon church. And she decided to leave that church. D…

04/08/2021

On the next Spivey Loves You Podcast Episode... This is a good'n. Dana is completely authentic and open - and we really hit on all the feels when she recounts her decision to leave the Mormon Church while living in Utah. This is one brave woman and I think you'll love her and her story as much as I loved her being on the podcast.

On the next SLY Podcast Episode - Dana was born into the Church of Jesus Christ of the Latter Day Saints (LDS) - also known as The Mormon church.  S…

04/05/2021

On the latest episode of the SLY Podcast: Meet Rhea and Rachel - aka The Gala Sisters. They're 'Irish Twins': That's any siblings that are 15 months or less apart in age. They share a lot in common - almost like actual twins. They're total besties, they both have similar interests, got married to guys who were best friends, suffered through abusive relationships, divorced, and... are as*xual.

To the Gala Sisters, there's no s*x like no s*x! As*xual folks have little to no s*xual attraction to others, no s*x drive - zip zero nada. You'd think this would make them 'heroes' to the Christian Right - since they're not participating in premarital/extramarital/non-approved s*x, right? Wrong. They also face some negative bias from other members of the LGBTQIA+ community. Listen in to find out the unique challenges that as*xual folks face from every stripe of the sociopolitical spectrum. Also find out about the different types of as*xuality - fascinating stuff.

By the way, "Aces" is what many as*xual folks call themselves. :-)

Meet Rhea and Rachel - aka The Gala Sisters. They're 'Irish Twins': That's any siblings that are 15 months or less apart in age. They share a lot in co…

04/02/2021

04/02/2021

When I release - and promote - this episode of SLY that looks at two as*xual sisters, let's see if I still get a bunch of creepy DM's from rando weirdo dudes. As*xual folks don't have any s*xual attraction, don't - as a rule - have s*x at all... But still, I bet I'll get a bucket of messages from dudes making lewd/suggestive comments... Here's my blog post about this upcoming ep.

On the next SLY podcast, meet Rhea and Rachel - aka The Gala Sisters.  They're 'Irish Twins':  That's any siblings that are 15 months or less a…