10/23/2023
𝑴𝑨𝑹𝑹𝑰𝑨𝑮𝑬 𝑽𝑨𝑳𝑼𝑬 𝑰𝑵 𝑰𝑺𝑳𝑨𝑴.
Marriage is considered an important institution in Muslim society, and there are several values associated with it. These values may vary depending on the particular culture and interpretation of Islam, but some common themes can be identified.
One of the primary values of marriage in Muslim society is the establishment of a family unit. Marriage is seen as a means of creating a stable home environment in which children can be raised and nurtured. The family is viewed as the cornerstone of society, and marriage is seen as the foundation upon which families are built.
Another value associated with marriage in Muslim society is the importance of mutual respect and cooperation between spouses. The Quran emphasizes the idea that men and women are partners and companions to each other, and that they should treat each other with kindness and respect. This mutual respect is seen as essential to building a strong and lasting marriage.
Marriage is considered to be one of the most important institutions in Islam. The Quran and the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) emphasize the importance of marriage and the value it holds in the eyes of Allah. Islam views marriage as a way to attain peace, tranquility, and love between two individuals, as well as a means to procreate and establish families.
The Quran describes marriage as a sacred bond between a man and a woman: “And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.” (Quran 30:21) This verse highlights the importance of marriage as a means of finding peace and tranquility through the love and mercy that exists between spouses.
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) also emphasized the importance of marriage and encouraged it as a means of completing half of one’s faith. He said, “O young people, whoever among you can afford to get married, let him do so, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding one's chastity. Whoever cannot afford it, let him fast, for it will be a shield for him.” (Bukhari)
Islam views marriage as a way to protect oneself from committing immoral acts and to maintain chastity. It is also a means to achieve mutual love and companionship, as well as to establish a family unit that is based on love, respect, and mutual support. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, “The best of you are those who are best to their wives, and I am the best of you to my wives.” (Tirmidhi)
Marriage is also viewed as a means to procreate and establish a family. The Quran states, “And Allah has made for you mates from your selves, and made for you, from your mates, sons, and grandsons, and provided for you good things. Will they then believe in falsehood and deny the favors of Allah?” (Quran 16:72) This verse emphasizes the importance of procreation and the establishment of a family as a means of fulfilling one’s duties to Allah.
In Islam, marriage is viewed as a contract between two individuals who agree to live together as husband and wife. The contract includes the rights and responsibilities of each spouse, and it is based on mutual consent and understanding. The contract can be dissolved through divorce, but only after certain conditions are met, and after all possible efforts to reconcile have been exhausted.
Islam also places great emphasis on the role of the husband and wife within the marriage. The husband is expected to provide for his wife and family, both financially and emotionally. He is also expected to treat his wife with kindness and respect and to seek her opinion in matters that concern the family. The wife is expected to be obedient to her husband, but only in matters that do not go against Islamic principles. She is also expected to be a loving and caring companion to her husband and to fulfill her duties as a mother and homemaker.
Islam also recognizes the importance of communication and understanding within the marriage. The Quran states, “And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.” (Quran 30:21) This verse emphasizes the importance of love, mercy, and communication between spouses to achieve a peaceful and harmonious marriage.
Islam also recognizes the importance of forgiveness within the marriage. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, “Whoever covers the faults of a Muslim, Allah will cover his faults on the Day of Judgment.” (Bukhari) This hadith highlights the importance of forgiveness and compassion within the marriage, and the need to overlook minor faults and mistakes to maintain a healthy and loving relationship.
Another important aspect of marriage in Islam is the concept of “mahr” or dowry. The mahr is a gift that the husband gives to his wife at the time of marriage, and it is a symbol of his commitment and responsibility towards her. The amount of the mahr is agreed upon by the couple before the marriage, and it can be in the form of money, property, or any other valuable item. The mahr is the exclusive property of the wife, and it cannot be taken away from her without her consent.
In Islam, marriage is also viewed as a means to establish a bond between families and communities. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, “When a man marries, he has fulfilled half of his religion, so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half.” (Bukhari) This hadith emphasizes the importance of marriage in the context of the broader community, and the need for individuals to fulfill their responsibilities towards their families and society as a whole.
Islam also recognizes the importance of choosing a suitable spouse based on shared values, beliefs, and character. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, “A woman is married for four reasons: for her wealth, her status, her beauty, and her religion. So choose the religious woman, and you will prosper.” (Muslim) This hadith highlights the importance of choosing a spouse based on their piety and character, rather than materialistic or superficial factors.
In conclusion, marriage holds great value and importance in Islam. It is viewed as a sacred bond between a man and a woman, and a means to attain peace, love, and tranquility through the mercy and compassion that exists between spouses. Islam recognizes the importance of communication, understanding, forgiveness, and compassion within the marriage, as well as the need to choose a suitable spouse based on shared values and character. Marriage in Islam is also viewed as a means to establish a family, procreate, and fulfill one’s duties to Allah and society. Ultimately, marriage in Islam is a means to attain spiritual, emotional,and physical fulfillment, and to lead a life that is pleasing to Allah.
In addition to the aforementioned values, Islam also emphasizes the importance of mutual respect and kindness between spouses. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, “The most perfect believer in faith is the one who is best in character. And the best of you are those who are best to their women.” (Tirmidhi) This hadith highlights the importance of treating one’s spouse with kindness, respect, and compassion and recognizing the value and contributions of women in marriage.
Moreover, Islam encourages spouses to fulfill each other’s physical, emotional, and spiritual needs. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, “The best of you is the one who is best to his family, and I am the best of you to my family.” (Tirmidhi) This hadith emphasizes the importance of fulfilling one’s responsibilities towards their family, including providing for their physical and emotional needs, spending quality time with them, and supporting them in times of difficulty.
Islam also recognizes the importance of intimacy and sexual relations within the marriage, as a means of expressing love and affection between spouses and fulfilling their physical and emotional needs. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, “It is not permissible for a man to withhold his wife’s rights, except for a valid reason.” (Bukhari) This hadith highlights the importance of fulfilling one’s responsibilities towards their spouse, and the need to maintain a healthy and intimate relationship within the marriage.
Furthermore, Islam encourages spouses to support each other in their personal and spiritual growth. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, “The believers, in their love, mutual kindness, and close ties, are like one body; when any part complains, the whole body responds to it with wakefulness and fever.” (Muslim) This hadith highlights the importance of supporting one another in times of difficulty and recognizing the importance of emotional and spiritual support in the marriage.
In Islam, divorce is viewed as a last resort, and it is only permitted under specific circumstances. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, “Of all the lawful acts, the most detestable to Allah is divorce.” (Abu Dawud) This hadith highlights the importance of working towards resolving conflicts and maintaining a healthy and loving relationship within the marriage, rather than resorting to divorce as the first option.
However, in cases where the marriage cannot be salvaged, Islam provides guidance and support for couples going through a divorce, to ensure that the process is carried out in a fair and just manner. Islamic law provides guidelines for the division of property, custody of children, and financial support for the divorced spouse, to ensure that their rights and needs are protected.
In conclusion, marriage holds immense value and importance in Islam, and it is viewed as a means to attain spiritual, emotional, and physical fulfillment through the mercy and compassion that exists between spouses. Islam recognizes the importance of communication, understanding, forgiveness, compassion, and mutual respect within the marriage, as well as the need to choose a suitable spouse based on shared values and character. Furthermore, Islam emphasizes the importance of fulfilling one’s responsibilities towards their spouse and supporting each other in personal and spiritual growth. Divorce is viewed as a last resort, and it is only permitted under specific circumstances, with guidance and support provided for couples going through the process. Ultimately, marriage in Islam is a means to attain the pleasure and blessings of Allah and to lead a life that is pleasing to Him.
I believe that marriage is the most beautiful, comfortable, respected, honorable, justified, caring, sharing, trusted, forgiving, and loving, in the way Islamic guidance makes our whole community strong effective successful.