Intimacy w/ Ashli L.

06/25/2024

06/24/2024

I’ve been with my husband for 14 years and something I found difficult was communicating my wants in the bedroom. I’ve learned a lot about myself over the years and one of the things I’ve learned is that I NEED variety. I get bored easily but communicating that was difficult. I didn’t want to hurt his feelings or was afraid that he would judge me if I wanted to try something more taboo.

What I found was that we could communicate about ANYTHING when we created safety and came from a place of wanting to understand. So I put together a quick guide on how to communicate your wants in the bedroom. These 4 easy steps can translate to all aspects of your relationship.

Remember, a healthy relationship continues to grow.

06/23/2024

It took me years to figure out that I was part of the problem. Relationships are a journey not a destination.

05/07/2024

New products arriving…want to be the first to check k them out & get an epic discount? Comment your fav gif or message me🥰🥰

05/01/2024

May is National Masterbat!on Month! So let’s taco about it!

04/28/2024

Stock-clearance-palooza! Get your savings on while we drain the inventory swamp. 48-hour shipping? Yep, we're on it like a boss! Let's chat!

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04/14/2024

24 hours remaining of my epic customer appreciation S A L E! Don’t miss out dolla de.als, BOGO, huggggee sav!ngs on buzzing items, lingerie, bo***ge & more!

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04/06/2024

Our Epic Customer Appreciation Event begins this coming Wednesday! Dolla items, fr33bies & crazy dealios! EVERYTHING is on S A L E 😜 You don’t want to miss it!

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03/30/2024

CODEPENDENCY vs AUTHENTIC INTIMACY

Codependency: I need you to feel OK or else I'm not ok.

- Authentic Intimacy: I allow you to experience whatever you are experiencing, without needing to change or fix it. You are your own person.

Codependency: I need you to support me and I will guilt you in subtle and not so subtle ways if you don't.

- Authentic Intimacy: I ask for support when I need it from others, not just my partner, and I don't lash out if it's not available in the way I need it.

Codependency: I will blame and shame you for not doing what I want you to do.

- Authentic Intimacy: I accept you as you are while having clear standards around how I will be treated and spoken to.

Codependency: You should know what I need. It's not the same if I have to explain it to you.

- Authentic Intimacy: I communicate openly, and I will never blame you for my lack of courage to share what I want and need.

Codependency: True love is about being loyal no matter what.

- Authentic Intimacy: I have standards and boundaries about how I will be spoken to and treated, and I will clearly express those to you with love.

Codependency: You have a lot of issues, and I'm going to help you. That's where I get my value and worth and sense of being needed.

- Authentic Intimacy: I'm already valuable and worthy. I'm not here to be my partner's therapist, fixer or caretaker.

Codependency: I need you, and you need me.

- Authentic Intimacy: I choose to be with you every day, and you choose to be with me.

Codependency: I can't be without you.

- Authentic Intimacy: I love my alone time. And I love being with you’.

✍️ Serdar Hararovich
Image credit - png tree

03/26/2024

When asked to imagine a particularly satisfying or passionate s*x scene, what images flash across your mind? It wouldn’t be surprising if it included urgency, a sudden and rushed removal of clothes, groping, and falling into bed. The reality, however, is that nearly half of adults (especially Gen Zers!) schedule s*x regularly. Even more surprising? Sexual satisfaction is just as high for scheduled s*x as it is when it occurs spontaneously! What does that mean for you? It might be time to pencil in time for you and your partner. Do these numbers surprise you? Do you schedule s*x or prefer to be spontaneous? Let us know below!

03/21/2024

**Disclaimer: not everyone enjoys this. However this post is simply to offer verbiage to others that may not know what to say or how to initiate if asked to do so if they want to try it with their Partner.

What else would you want on this list or enjoy hearing/saying?

02/23/2024

Fun Fact Friday!

Let’s talk about va**nas....

1. Va**nal discharge is normal.

2. Wearing panty liners 24/7 is not necessary.

3. Va**nas are acidic enough to BLEACH fabric, hence the discoloration of underwear.

4. Longer labias are more normal than smaller ones (but both are fine).

5. A mans s***m CAN throw off your ph balance and also change the smell of your va**na

6. It is not safe for va**nas to smell like sunshine and flowers so stop expecting it to.

7. STOP douching and washing your va**na with bath&body works, and Victoria secret. It’s not healthy for the va**na.

8. The va**na cleans itself for those who had no clue! 🤦🏼‍♀️

9. Having s*x has no correlation of how "tight" your va**na is.

10. Yeast infections are COMMON!!! 🤯

11. The best thing you can do for your va**na is to leave it alone.😴

12. If your va**na stinks or your discharge stinks and has a color than go see a gynecologist and stop trying to blame yourself cause you stink.

13. Let it breathe. 🌬

14. The VA**NA is the narrow canal that runs INSIDE the body. NOT the whole ge***al area.

15. Do not use soap in your va**na.*❗️

16. Always urinate after s*x to rinse the urinary tract of fluids that could be caught there and can cause UTIs.

17. Drink water. Lots of It! 💧

18. COTTON panties ladies. Wearing silk, satin and lace seven days a week will absolutely throw your Ph off. 🙅🏼‍♀️Don't argue with me about this. I don't care if you say your mama put you in satin diapers and all you've ever worn is satin panties❗️

19. Stop sprinkling powder on your lady bits, stop IMMEDIATELY! Talcum causes cancer. This isn't a hoax or a joke and I don't care if your 97 year old great Aunt Myrtle has been using it twice a day, everyday. STOP IT! TODAY!

20. Also the Va**na is a natural s***m killer, except when you’re ovulating with the exception of a very high ph level.

21. This is all correct and true. Stop letting men who think washing their butt and moisturizing is gay try and tell you how to care for your lady-bits. Ladies, stop letting boys who got s*x-ed from internet P**n tell you about YOUR va**na.

02/11/2024

ITS THAT TIME AGAINNNNN!!

I am giving away $ 500 in Pure Romance products!

Heres how they work:
• $ 5 each- Venmo (-lyseng) Paypal ([email protected]) or Cashapp ($ashlilyseng)

•Once you pay I mark your name down on a square (you can pick your numbers-some have been claimed.

• Yes you can get more than one & there are NO losers!

• When the board is full, l'm giving away a total of $ 500 in free product!

•There will be a winner each quarter!! ($ 100 Q1,
$ 150 halftime, $ 100 Q3, $ 150 final) if you do not win, you will recieve an account credit to use with me 🥰)

•Even if you have no idea how these work, you can still participate!

I keep track during the game and will let you know if you won!

No skill or football knowledge necessary.

What do we think? Who's in?