Heart2Heart

12/04/2024

Is she using witchcraft to fail our brother’s businesses?
Earlier this year our brother who was thriving financially started dating a woman who seemed to be running several equally successful businesses. Since their relationship begun our brother has become a different person. His house, which was nearing completion, has since come to a standstill and he stopped supporting us financially. While this is happening, this woman’s businesses are growing. It looks like she is sucking money from our brother using witchcraft; rumour has it she did the same in her previous relationship. We have talked to our brother about this but he seems blinded by love. What should we do? Umari

03/04/2024

I want her out my life, house
Some years back, I had a misunderstanding with my wife and mother of our two children and we separated. I tried dating but things did not work out until mid last year when I met someone. Three months into the relationship we moved in together. Our relationship has, however, not been good; she is arrogant, proud and disrespects me. I have decided this is not the woman for me and after several discussions with my ex, we have both agreed to give our love a chance. How do I tell this other woman that I want her out of my life? Vincent

29/03/2024

My wife is rude to me, our children
I have been married for eight years now. My wife and I were happy until two years ago when she went to train as a police cadet officer. She returned a different woman. She is very rude and careless, especially with the children. She goes for work and sometimes spends nights there without informing anybody. She has even completely lost interest in making love to me. I do not want to cheat because I am a Christian. However, her behaviour has frustrated me that I am planning to leave the marriage. My efforts to seek counselling have yielded no results. What can I do? I do not want my family to break. Dan T

22/03/2024

Is my wife cheating on me for money?
I met this woman some months back when she had just moved from Kampala to set up business in my home town. Although we now live together, it seems she had a rich man in the city who had bought her the car she drives, built her a house and set up the businesses she runs both in the city and here. She never tells me where she invests the money. She also travels to the city often and I suspect she goes to see her other men. Some of my relatives and friends have advised me to end this relationship but is it the best solution? Issa

15/03/2024

He does not care for my sexual needs
My husband only cares for his sexual needs and for the 10 years we have been together, he has never gone an extra mile to see that I also get the satisfaction I desire. I have been open to him and told him how he is self-centred to no avail. So, I found other ways of satisfying myself without committing adultery. My worry is, won’t this spoil my relationship with God? What should I do? Aliya

09/03/2024

She hates my mother, sisters
I am a 28-year-old married father of one. I love my wife but for the time we have been together, she has failed to get along with my mother and sisters. In fact, they do not even greet each other. However, when I spoke to my father and grandmother about her behaviour, they said she is the most disciplined woman they have ever met. I am caught in between and do not know how to proceed. Please advise. Bosco

01/03/2024

After two heartbreaks, I am afraid to date again
I have been in several relationships, but always ended up so hurt. The most recent, however, yielded a baby boy, who is now seven years old. I separated from his father for fear of contracting HIV since he had numerous partners. I took a two-year break from dating and later met someone, but after two years I discovered he was a conman who had been jailed several times. I hurt so badly because I loved him. I took another three-year break and God sent me another man; very understanding, caring, loving and he loved my son too. I love him but I am scared of showing it because of my past experiences. Please advise me because it seems my past is about to make me lose this heaven-sent angel. Doreen

23/02/2024

Why does he keep lying to me?

I met this guy two years ago at school. At first, things were good but this year he told me he has asthma. I felt bad but I realised it was okay for us to continue. But after a month, he told me he has two children but I was understanding and we continued with the relationship. However, I found out recently that he is married and the worst thing is that after the confession about him having children he later said he had lied but I found out that it was true. He is now asking for forgiveness I am very stressed and confused. What should I do? Rose

16/02/2024

My husband spends most of his salary on alcohol
My husband and I have been married for more than nine years and for most of this time, I have been a housewife. We were financially sound until the pandemic when my husband lost his job. Even after this, he preferred I remained a housewife. He had saved enough money to take us through this period until he got another job. But after a few months of him doing nothing, he took to drinking and we started running out of money. I suggest working but he said no. Although he finally got another job, most of this money goes towards his alcohol. How do I help my husband realise he is headed towards a dark path? Susan

09/02/2024

My wife uses Lent as excuse to avoid intimacy
Now that Lent is almost here, I write in desperate need of advice. My wife and I have been married for more than six years and all was well until two years ago. During Lent, she decided she was fasting from any kind of intimacy with me and told me so. When I asked why, she said this was her time to get closer to God and while she fasts and prays, she does not want any distractions. She assures me though that she still loves me very much. However, I am always left wondering; since we are married, isn’t it against God’s will to deny me intimacy? Please help. Justus

03/02/2024

How can I get my husband to plan something for Valentine’s Day?
Every year, my husband puts off celebrating Valentine’s Day saying it is just a waste of money and time. In fact, when I mention anything to do with Valentine’s Day, he gets so angry saying only children celebrate the day. It would mean a lot to me if he would put a little effort into planning something. How do I encourage him to surprise me without seeming entitled? Annet

26/01/2024

Has my husband joined a cult?
My husband and I have been together since 2006. In November last year, he told me to leave the home claiming God had told him that I had done something bad and sending me away was the punishment. Issue is he has forbidden me from cooking for him, touching his clothes, polishing his shoes or touching his money claiming I am unholy. He has put Rosaries on all doors in the house and locked the master bedroom. He even locked me out of the house one time but police intervened. I am worried. Could he have joined a cult? Sheila

19/01/2024

My parents are against our relationship
I am a 22-year-old university finalist. During my Senior Six vacation four years ago, I fell in love with a girl who is now in Senior Four. My parents and her parents are aware of our love. She had agreed to marry me after her Senior Four but my parents want me to marry an educated and working woman. I do not want to end our relationship. How can I save our love? Morgan

06/01/2024

After slapping me, he is playing the victim card
My husband and I have been married for more than five years and have two children. We have had a good relationship and although we fight like any other couple, it is never that bad. However, the other day, while having an argument, he slapped me. He has totally refused to apologise and every time I bring up the topic, he says he slapped me because I annoyed him. This victim behaviour seems off and I do not know what to do next. Please help. Joan

28/12/2023

Should I leave my boyfriend and marry my ex?
I have been dating my boyfriend for three years. Everything has been going on smoothly until recently when he started acting funny. My dilemma though is that one of my exes, a friend, has asked me to marry him. At first I thought he was joking but now I know this is what he wants. I am afraid of telling any of my family members because they adored him while we dated so their opinion might be biased. What should I do? Anonymous

15/12/2023

I want to propose to my boyfriend of four years
My boyfriend and I have been dating for four years now and our relationship is great. The problem is, while he seems comfortable with what we have now, I am not. I want to get married. I am, therefore, thinking of proposing to him before end of year since he is not doing it. I know it is not conventional but it is a risk I am willing to take. Am I crazy? Anonymous

11/12/2023

After our first meeting, has he lost interest in me?

About a year ago, I met a man online and we started charting. He works out of the country but after about six months, we decided to meet physically. We got along so well and the time we spent together was so blissful. However, it was short-lived since he had to return to his workplace. We kept in touch but soon, it started to seem like I was forcing the conversations. If I did not text, he also wouldn’t. I eventually became tired of being the only one to reach out so I kept quiet for like a week. When he called, I told him how I felt but he said I was overreacting. However, the situation has not changed. I do not know what happened after our meeting. I really miss him but do not want to seem overbearing. Help me figure this out. Anna

01/12/2023

My husband keeps calling me fat in front of our friends
My husband and I have been married for three years and last year, we welcomed our first child. Since then, I have gained a bit of weight and because of this, my husband uses every chance he gets to remind me that I am fat. But he only does this in the presence of all our friends. He is now forcing me to lose weight, always telling me not to eat this or that and exercise all the time. When I confront him about it, he says he is trying to encourage me to shed excess weight. This is taking a toll on my self-esteem and I am starting to hate myself. Isn’t this body shaming? What should I do? Juliet

24/11/2023

I invited my in-laws for lunch but none of them ate the food I cooked
I recently invited my husband's family for Sunday Lunch. They all came but none of them ate the meal I made and it was really embarrassing. I later found out that my mother-in-law had cooked a large meal and fed everyone before they arrived at our home. Should I say something? Anonymous

17/11/2023

She accidentally sent me another man’s love message

Last year in November, my wife went for training to join the prisons service. However, since the training ended, I have only seen her once. She rarely calls me and when I call, her phone is always busy. When I asked why her phone is always busy when I call, she told me she is not aware of such but because she has been so distant, I asked her sister what was going on. The sister told me she might be dating someone else. The other day, she accidentally sent me a romantic message meant for someone else and when I confronted her about it, she said a friend had used her phone to type the message for her boyfriend but accidentally sent it to me. Can I really trust that she still loves me? Anonymous

10/11/2023

Should I tell my mother-in-law that her husband is cheating on her?
Since getting married, my in-laws and my husband have been a real gift to me. They have been my pillar and strength. I loved my father-in-law like my own father and the same for my mother-in-law. They have been a good example for my husband and I. However, I recently got to know that my father-in-law has been cheating on my mother-in-law for the past seven years. I feel so sad for my mother-in-law and husband but I do not know what to do with this information. Should I let them know or keep my mouth shut? Anonymous

06/11/2023

Her past makes me want to end the relationship
I am 24 years old and I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for more than two years. I lost my virginity to her. Although she was my first and only sexual partner, I am her ninth. She was involved in two different relationships before she was 20 and from our conversations, I am starting to think she just enjoys dating a new man every so often and is incapable of settling down with one. However, she tells me she has changed and that is all in her past. This is the woman I want to marry but I fear that this will eventually cause fights between us. I am not sure I want to end the relationship though. Is her past reason enough for a breakup? Joshua

30/10/2023

She complains a lot

I have been with this girl for some years and we have a child together. She does not cheat but she puts me under a lot of pressure whenever I am around. She complains a lot and now I fear being around her. She claims to have lost feelings for me and hates my family. I also lost feeling s for her because of her actions. I feel like ending the relationship but I am not used to staying alone and I am worried about my son. What should I do?
Nichol.

20/10/2023

My boyfriend’s family is too traditional

I recently went with my boyfriend to his village and all was well until his father called to say he would join us for lunch. I thought we would all sit and eat together as a family but when the food was served, I was told to eat in another room since it is taboo to watch my father-in-law eat. I also noticed that the men were served their food first while women had to wait and eat after the men had finished. I am taught to respect my father-in-law and I know how to do this but this kind of cat and mouse is hard. At some point I felt like an intruder.

What should I do? Anonymous

09/10/2023

Who is he buying gifts for?
My husband and I have been married for three years and have a joint account that we each contribute money to at the end of the month. However, lately, he withdraws money without telling me or even explaining its purpose. Now I have started getting receipts of gifts I was not given. What should I do? Joan

06/10/2023

My husband feels insecure when I talk to any man

My husband of four years does not trust me. He feels insecure when I talk to his male friends. He even feels insecure when I talk to my male colleagues or even male cousins. I am always on my guard whenever I have to talk to a man around him and this is becoming very suffocating. What can I do to make him trust me?
Julie

25/09/2023

Please advise.

Should I call off our engagement?
I proposed to my girlfriend of three years a month ago. She said yes and we are now organising our introduction and wedding ceremonies. However last week, a man called me saying he was in an ongoing relationship with her. He even sent me compromising photos of them together and screen shots of their love messages. When I confronted her, she denied everything and said she was being framed. Should I believe her?

25/09/2023

Should I call off our engagement?
I proposed to my girlfriend of three years a month ago. She said yes and we are now organising our introduction and wedding ceremonies. However last week, a man called me saying he was in an ongoing relationship with her. He even sent me compromising photos of them together and screen shots of their love messages. When I confronted her, she denied everything and said she was being framed. Should I believe her?

18/09/2023

Evelyn Lagu dies
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  Evelyn Lagu, a Ugandan artiste who has long battled kidney failure related complications has died, her family and top names in the industry said on Monday. “You have fought a big battle my sister may your soul rest in peace,” president of the Uganda National Musicians Federation (UNMF) Eddy K...

08/07/2023

Revellers laugh tears out as Madrat and Chiko put up thrilling show

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  It was a full house at UMA multipurpose hall last evening as stand-up comedy duo Madrat and Chiko returned on stage for the fourth edition of their Nseko Buseko annual show. Having been performing together for the last nine years, the chemistry between the two was evident as they threw jibes at e...