Bryelle Mikael's

25/02/2024

Most people have no idea how to apologize.

They see vulnerability as weakness. And they have a ton of toxic shame around their behavior, so they avoid it.

They think time heals the wound and ignoring it makes it go away.

If I can give one teaching to the world that would really change it I would say: acknowledge and apologize.

I see so people with parents who’ve done deeply hurtful things shut down or deny any pain they’ve caused. Or just contact them as if nothing happened.

I see partners expect another partner to just forgive and forget without giving them the space to express how their actions impacted them.

I see family members say “well that’s just your dad, and it happened years ago” without understanding that in order to move forward we need the wound to be acknowledged. That’s how we heal.

Time doesn’t heal all wounds.

Difficult conversations do.

Vulnerability does.

Apologies and change behavior do.

Time does nothing except make the memory fade— but the body never forgets

03/02/2024

03/02/2024

“It was God.”

03/02/2024

In His time. 🫶🏻😇🤱🏻🤰🏻

☝️

29/01/2024

Absolute truth here

And it can take a while to realise

But, even the most loving, well meant words can’t be heard by someone who isn’t ready for them

❤️ Trudi Jane

Meme: Matt Kahn

04/01/2024

Sometimes our kindness is abused, people take advantage of it, and in return, we are forced to deal with the toxic treatment we don't deserve. The growth of someone is their responsibility, not ours. Just because we see the "potential" doesn't mean we have to tolerate behaviors that abuse and take advantage of us. If people would like to change for the better, they will.

29/12/2023

Lord, as always, let Your will be done in me. 🙌🏻

25/12/2023

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20/12/2023

Coundn't agree more. You become untouchable by your inlaws if your partner defends or protect you from them. 💯

20/12/2023

Prayer warrior 🙏🏻

“I will fight in prayers.”

18/12/2023

🚨 DON'T FORGET!! It’s ALWAYS OKAY to lower contact with toxic family members who are on a mission to destroy you.

The thing is, society puts families on a pedestal.

Cliché sayings like “family is everything,” only perpetuate this myth that your family of origin is super important & must be a part of your life no matter how abusive they are.

If you have healthy people in your family then by all means that’s great, and I'm happy this post doesn't apply to you.

But for a lot of people family is a source of intense pain.

Then survivors get gaslit with even more bu****it sayings like “BuT tHaT’s YoUr MoThEr” when they try to be honest and share their story about their narcissistic mother (or father, or whoever).

But just because someone is a mother it doesn’t mean they should’ve taken on the CHOICE to bring children into this world only to give them a lifetime of trauma to heal from.

You’re allowed to set boundaries with toxic family members.

Even your narcissistic mother.

❌ You’re not her keeper.

❌ You’re not an extension of her.

❌ You’re under no obligation to have your mental health destroyed just because of her own issues.

(And yes, of course, this also applies to narc fathers and other family members!)

With the holidays just around the corner, anxiety is at a high for the family scapegoat.

This is why I've created a FREE checklist for surviving the holidays.

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18/12/2023

In dysfunctional relationships, control is the sole focus. A person who has boundaries, advocates for their needs, and is assertive will be labeled as difficult.

If you’re expressing yourself in grounded and clear ways, being called difficult is usually a good sign. It means that you’re becoming more embodied. You’re having more agency. And you’re choosing to no longer play a role that’s been assigned to you.

Insecure people deeply crave control. They’re uncomfortable and anxious when people don’t react in the ways they want them to. They’re even more anxious if a person has behaved in ways in the past and starts to make shift.

Therapists who are aware of and work with dysfunctional family dynamics will always help to build their clients sense of self so that they can overcome these growing pains. So that when the family begins to blame and deflect, the client knows this is part of the dysfunction family system— not truth.

The “difficult” on one in the family is usually the person most grounded in reality. And most willing to break the cycle

18/12/2023

💯👌🏻

18/12/2023

Manifesting. 🙏🏻😇🩷

Claim it!✨

18/12/2023

Kaya kahit gsto niya tumigil or wag ako mgtrabaho ayoko eh. May trabaho nga madami pa nsasabi ano pa kung wala? HAHAHAHA 🤣😅

11/12/2023

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