My Thoughts / Your Thoughts

04/09/2022

YOUR FRIENDs DON’T CARE

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Is your friend having the best time of his/her life right now? Do you have any future plans together that you think you may not be able to attend to? Have you tried contacting a friend recently, but just can't seem to reach them or could not get the chance to tell them that you are having a hard time? Or do you feel like your friend does not care about you? If these questions somehow resonate with your current situation with a friend, then this topic is for you.

We all have friends. Who doesn’t, right? We all have that one friend who we feel like we can trust with anything.

Friends are a crucial part of every person's life. Everyone has a friend who you always treat as your brother or sister, ready to listen to any crazy ideas they have, support them in their time of need, and be there financially when they need help (of course, sa may mga pera lang ‘to – 😂).

True friends support you and are happy with whatever you have achieved. They will motivate you and celebrate with you. Although sometimes we get jealous or envious of what our friend has achieved, it is not to the point that you sabotage them to fail. Instead, you will be inspired, ask them for advice or help. A true friend is not selfish and does not think of his/her friend as a rival or competitor. A true friend will help you up, not drag you down.

In every relationship, no matter what it is, communication is always the key. When you're young, friendship is more about hanging out together, doing crazy or silly things together and exploring new things together. But as you grow and mature, you learn to set your goals and focus on achieving them. This is when you start meeting “stress”. This is also the time that you choose to sleep over Friday night outs. Sometimes, even a text or a chat seems to take out a lot of your time so you choose to call/video call them — 😅.

If it happens that you are having a hard time and you could not join any of your planned activities, do not be afraid to say NO. True friends understand and never judge you. If they could, they will try to do something just for you to be able to make it. If you really can’t make it, you should never feel bad or guilty about it.

A true friend, no matter how busy they are and how happy they are, they will find time to sit down with you, accompany you or get back to you whenever you contact them. If it seems like you can’t reach your friend when you're in need or could not get a chance to share with them what you are going through then you might want to pause for a while. Your friend being unavailable DOES NOT MEAN they don’t care. It might be an opportunity for you to re-evaluate your life and think about your priorities. Your friend does have priorities too. And if you are not their priority, that’s totally fine. You as a friend should definitely understand that. There are times that we become unknowingly unavailable to someone, not just to a friend but even to family members. And of course, there's a reason behind that. If you want to be understood, then you should do the same.

If you feel like you are giving more attention and care to your friends more than they do to you, then I think you might be missing out with something more important that is far more worth your time. As Alex Gonzaga said “You are not growing or maturing if you are not losing friends”. This is true, but this statement should not be taken in a negative way. We have to remember THAT AS WE GROW SEPARATELY, we experience different things, we encounter different challenges, we meet new people and we have different priorities.

It’s a matter of having a positive mindset, prioritization and focusing more on improving your best self.

Ikaw, anong kwentong kaibigan mo?

Antwort auf gh part3

20/08/2022

Ako lang ba? 🤔

I’m in my 30’s now. I have a long time partner and we do not have a baby yet. I am wondering why I do not have the same energy when I was in my teenage years? Well, of course it’s different, pero ganito ba talaga kapag nasa 30’s ka na? I don’t think so dahil marami naman akong nakikitang nasa ganitong edad at napaka energetic pa rin. Some even are already in their 40’s and still doing things they love.

Aside sa work, meron akong gustong gawin pero hindi ko masimulan. Even if everything has already been planned out, kulang na lang ng ex*****on or actions. Marami akong naiisip na magagandang ideas but as I get closer to the schedule I set, biglang nawawala ang interest ko hanggang sa hindi ko na nga magawa.

I have tried so many times to be very active but I only last a week or two then I go back to the usual me. I even only want to do simple things. That is to cook our food everyday, go out with my sister every weekend, I want to exercise, I want to read books, I want to do a podcast and even bake.😅(sounds a lot --hahaha)

My thought is maybe I'm chasing so much in life. Maybe my experiences got me so tired. Maybe because I'm too focused on earnings, got attached to workmates who became my close friends and became dependent to them in terms of finding happiness outside work. Up to the extent when they have to let go of their job and you were left behind.

I started working when I was 19 years old. Back then, my only focus is to earn money to support myself and my siblings. I have a STAY-IN job for 7 years. Our office is at the ground floor and the staffs room is at the 2nd floor. I got transferred to different cities and not all houses are 2 story. So meaning, the office is just on the next room. Working as a "STAY-IN" limits your action. So after work, you do not have a choice but to go to bed, watch TV or scroll your phone. (dami kong kwento sa job experience ko na to 😉)

I resigned from my "STAY-IN" job and find another job. A week after, I got accepted in BPO. There, I also spent or worked for 7 years. The transition was so difficult and the environment is so different. The salary is so much better. It indeed supported all of my needs and some wants. However, my emotional and mental health are no longer okey that's why I resigned. Well, I believe that there are other situations in my life that affect my emotional and mental health, so it's not because I worked in BPO. If you are working in BPO, you're mental and emotional state must be stable enough to handle the problem of your customers.

I have new job now and I love it. I'm not even stress sa bago kong work (well maybe not for now😂) So, I can say that I actually have time for the things I want to do. But, I do not have the desire to even start or most of the time I lose interest of doing it. My work ends at 7AM, so technically may time talaga akong magluto ng breakfast namin. Kaya lang tinatamad talaga ako and I don't even know why.🥲 There are times though that I'm doing it. Yes, I cook breakfast and even cook for our lunch all the way to dinner. But as I've said, it only last maximum of two weeks. My partner and my sister already knows this about me and they usually tease me and laughed at me.

I am not sure, if there are other people out there who are experiencing the same dilemma and I would love to hear your thoughts.😊

07/08/2022

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