12/02/2025
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WHY SOME PEOPLE CHEAT EVEN IN ‘HAPPY’ MARRIAGES?
“Akala ko okay kami… Bakit niya nagawa ‘to?”
You thought your marriage was solid.
Walang major fights, hindi toxic, may lambingan pa rin. You take care of the kids, you laugh at the same memes, and your life looks normal. So bakit siya lumiko?
We assume that only “bad” marriages lead to affairs. But the truth is, some people cheat even when they’re in a “happy” marriage. 🤯 Let’s talk about the reasons why—and what you can do to protect your relationship.
1. It’s Not Always About the Partner—Sometimes, It’s About THEM
Affairs aren’t always about “something missing” in the marriage. Minsan, it’s about something missing in themselves.
🔹 They feel stuck in routine and crave excitement.
🔹 They’re struggling with self-worth and seek validation elsewhere.
🔹 They’re in a midlife crisis and want to feel young or desired again.
💡 Real Talk: You can be the best spouse in the world, but if someone is looking for an ego boost outside, no amount of love at home will stop them.
2. The Thrill of the Forbidden
Let’s be honest—bawal is thrilling. That “secret” text, the stolen glances, the idea of sneaking around—it creates an adrenaline rush. Some people get addicted to that feeling, even if they genuinely love their spouse.
💡 Real Talk: Lust isn’t love. The excitement fades, but the damage lasts.
3. Emotional Affairs Feel “Safer” Than Physical Ones
Some don’t intend to cheat physically, but they emotionally invest in someone else.
🚩 They text this person first when they have good or bad news.
🚩 They complain about their spouse to them.
🚩 They start comparing: “Bakit siya ang dali kausap, pero asawa ko hindi?”
💡 Real Talk: An emotional affair is still a betrayal. Once you start hiding conversations, it’s already crossing a line.
4. “I Didn’t Mean To—It Just Happened”
Nope. It didn’t “just happen.” Affairs don’t start with a one-night stand. They start with:
🚩 Over-sharing: Talking about deep personal issues with someone outside the marriage.
🚩 Frequent interactions: Regular chats, coffee breaks, or “friendly” messages.
🚩 Little justifications: “Wala lang ‘to, friends lang kami.”
💡 Real Talk: Infidelity isn’t one big decision—it’s a series of small ones that people choose to ignore.
5. The Relationship Became “Functional” Instead of Intimate
Kapag ang marriage naging tungkol na lang sa bills, kids, and daily routines, partners stop feeling seen as a lover, and start feeling like business partners.
This makes them vulnerable to outside attention—someone who makes them feel desired, special, or “kilig” again.
💡 Real Talk: A thriving marriage isn’t just about commitment—it’s about staying connected and making each other feel wanted, not just needed. Being a “good spouse” isn’t enough. You need to be each other’s person—hindi lang magulang ng mga anak niyo o tagabayad ng bills.
How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage
You don’t have to be paranoid, but you can be intentional in protecting your relationship.
✔️ Check in emotionally – “Love, how do you feel about our relationship lately?”
✔️ Create excitement together – Date nights, flirty texts, unexpected gestures.
✔️ Set clear boundaries – No “harmless” flirty messages.
✔️ Prioritize intimacy – It’s not just about s*x, it’s about deep connection.
Ang loyalty hindi automatic—it’s built every single day.
Cheating doesn’t always happen because a marriage is broken—it happens because people stop nurturing it.
That’s why in Thriving Marriage, we go beyond the usual marriage advice—we teach couples how to truly protect their relationship, keep the passion alive, and strengthen emotional connection.
Join our 8-session program, packed with real-life strategies, the Thriving Marriage Workbook, FAQ Series: Usapang Mag-Asawa eBook and a supportive community of couples committed to growing together.
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Your marriage is worth it. ❤️
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