Singles and Married Network

19/12/2022

Dear SINGLE,


INTEROGATE THE ESSENTIALS


Discuss your s*xual desire or needs in courtship to avoid problems in marriage.


Speak openly about your s*xual orientation with your partner before you commit to each other.


There is no need hiding your true identify or using Marriage to masquerade your realities.


Don't claim straight when you know that you're not.


Nobody is against what you are but don't rope innocent people in without their consent.


No matter how long you hide, your partner will find out sooner than later.


Don't use Mr or Mrs to cover what you ought to open from the beginning.


Open and honest Communication can help to ensure that both partners feel satisfied and fulfilled in the relationship.


Hiding your true identity or using marriage as a way to cover up your identity can lead to problems in the relationship and can be damaging to both partners.


It is also important to open up about other aspects of the relationship, including your expectations for the relationship, your values and beliefs, and any concerns or issues that may arise.


This can help to build a strong foundation for a healthy and fulfilling Marriage.


keep emotions under check and interrogate the essential issues during courtship.


Don't use your courtship to eat Shawarma and Knack sense out of your life.


I just say make I remind you!


Cheers!!

17/12/2022

Dear Young Lady,


DON'T FALL FOR THEIR TRICKS


"That money you are not using in that your bank account, bring it, I will add mine, let's invest it together", It's a scam.


Tell him to marry you fully before money can exchange hands.


Only legitimately married couples should have joint investments not singles in Courtship or relationship.


Borrow me that your car, I have a business meeting to attend. I am doing a presentation to some VIPs. It's a scam.


I just won a contract or supply of 50 million Naira from so so Company or Government agency, I have 32 million and I just need 3million to deliver within the deadline. Lend me the balance dearly. It's a scam.


These are tactics to make you loose guard. Refuse to be vulnerable to these fu.ck boys and marriage tricksters."


I just say make I remind you!


Cheers!!

15/12/2022

Dear YOU,


5 REASONS SUBMISSION IS IMPORTANT IN CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE

Submission in Christian marriage is important for several reasons including the following:

First, it is a way for couples to demonstrate their commitment to following God's plan for marriage.

In Ephesians 5:22, the Bible instructs wives to submit to their husbands as they would to the Lord, and in 1 Peter 3:1-2, it advises wives to submit to their husbands in order to win them over through respect and godly behavior.

Second, submission in marriage can help to create a harmonious relationship between spouses.

In Colossians 3:18-19, the Bible instructs husbands to love their wives and treat them with understanding, and in turn, wives are told to submit to their husbands in order to create unity and peace in the family.

Third, submission can promote mutual respect and understanding between spouses.

In 1 Corinthians 7:3-4, the Bible states that the husband should fulfill his wife's s*xual needs, and the wife should do the same for her husband.

By submitting to each other's needs and desires, both spouses can show respect and love for one another.

Fourth, submission in marriage can help to strengthen the couple's spiritual relationship with God.

In Ephesians 5:21, the Bible instructs all Christians to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ, and this instruction applies to the marriage relationship as well.

By submitting to each other's needs and desires, couples can draw closer to God and strengthen their faith.

Finally, submission in marriage can serve as a positive example for other couples to follow.

In 1 Timothy 4:12, the Bible instructs believers to set an example for others to follow, and by submitting to each other in marriage, couples can serve as a shining example of a godly marriage relationship.

Keep Enjoying God's Grace and Glory!

Cheers!!

14/12/2022

Dear YOU,


7 SIGNS HE IS NOT READY FOR A SERIOUS ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU.


It's not always easy to tell if someone is ready for a relationship or not.



However, here are some signs that a person may not be ready for a relationship:


1. He is not able to commit to plans or make plans in advance to meet with you or take you out. He is loaded with bags of excuses why it's not possible to meet or go out together with you. This can indicate that they are not ready to commit to a relationship.


2. He is not interested in getting to know you on a deeper level. If a person is not interested in learning about your interests, values, and goals, it may be a sign that they are not ready for a relationship.


3. He is not willing to compromise or make sacrifices. In a healthy relationship, both partners need to be willing to compromise and make sacrifices for the other person. If a person is not willing to do this, it may be a sign that they are not ready for a relationship.


4. He is not open and honest with you. Trust is an important part of any relationship, and if a person is not willing to be open and honest with you, it may be a sign that they are not ready for a relationship.


5. He is not able to communicate effectively. Communication is crucial in any relationship, and if a person is not able to effectively communicate with you, it may be a sign that they are not ready for a relationship.


6. He is not over his ex. It's natural to have feelings for an ex, but if a person is still hung up on their ex and not able to move on, it may be a sign that they are not ready for a new relationship.


7. He is not able to handle conflicts or difficult situations. In any relationship, conflicts and difficult situations are bound to arise.


If a person is not able to handle these situations maturely and effectively, it may be a sign that they are not ready for a relationship.


I just say make I share with you!


Cheers!!

13/12/2022

Dear YOU,


The reason many of you are not married is because you are looking for a perfect partner.


For instance, you want a very rich man who is faithful and has good character, that's hard to find, you know.


You are either going to choose a poor man who is faithful and has good character, or a rich cheat. Simple.


It's going to be very difficult to get your perfect match but it's NOT IMPOSSIBLE!


It's important to remember that no one is perfect, and that no one person can fulfill every single one of our expectations or desires.


It's important to find a balance and to focus on what is truly important in a partner, such as their character, values, and compatibility with you.


It's also important to remember that wealth is not the most important factor in a successful and happy relationship.


Instead, it's about finding someone who you can connect with on a deep level and who is willing to work together with you to build a strong and lasting relationship.


I just say make I remind you!


Cheers!!

11/12/2022

Dear YOU,


7 NEGATIVE EFFECTS OF SOCIAL MEDIA ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP


Social media can have several negative effects on relationships, particularly romantic ones.


Here are some potential negative effects of social media on relationships:


Social media can lead to comparison and feelings of inadequacy.


When we see other people's highlight reels on social media, it's easy to compare our own lives to theirs and feel like we're not measuring up.


This can lead to negative feelings and even jealousy in relationships.


Social media can create distance in relationships. When we're constantly scrolling through our social media feeds, we're not fully present with the people we're with in real life.


This can create a sense of distance between us and our partners, even if we're physically in the same space.


Social media can cause misunderstandings and miscommunications. Without the benefit of nonverbal cues and facial expressions, it's easy for messages to be misinterpreted on social media.


This can lead to misunderstandings and arguments in relationships.


Social media can lead to less face-to-face communication. With the rise of social media, we're increasingly communicating with each other online instead of in person.


This can make it harder to develop and maintain strong, healthy relationships.


Social media can be a source of conflict in relationships. When one partner is constantly on their phone or social media, it can lead to feelings of neglect and resentment in the other partner.


Social media can contribute to cheating and infidelity.


The anonymity and accessibility of social media make it easier for people to engage in flirtatious or inappropriate online relationships, which can lead to cheating and infidelity in real-life relationships.


Social media can make it harder to resolve conflicts and communicate effectively.



Because social media can be a source of misunderstandings and miscommunications, it can make it harder to resolve conflicts and communicate effectively in relationships.


In conclusion, while social media can have some positive effects on relationships, it can also have many negative ones.



It's important to be aware of these potential negative effects and to use social media mindfully and responsibly in order to maintain healthy relationships.


I just say make I remind you!


Cheers!!

27/11/2022

One of the challenges facing many people in marriage these days is ineffective communication. Ineffective communication could be low, poor or no communication at all.


There must be reasons why people are afraid to communicate sincerely and frankly with their spouses.


Some of the reasons include but not limited to:

📌 Breach of trust.

📌Built-up resentment.

📌Difficulty with vulnerability.

📌Financial disagreements.

📌Lack of time together.

📌 Parenting conflicts.

📌 Unrealistic expectations.


Any of these above 7 diseases is enough to shut down communication between you and your partner and eventually kill your marriage.


A marriage in a low level of communication has lost its vibes and only exists for enduring instead for enjoying.


If I see a post that addresses the issues my partner has, I simply tag her or copy and send to her WhatsApp and most times, we talk about it later in the evening when we get home.


If there is no longer free flow of information, education and learning in your marriage, then you need to drag you and your spouse to a professional counselor.


There should be no fear in love and in marriage you must all be naked but not ashamed. Shame and fear are enemies of your marriage. Confront your fears by speaking out frankly and sincerely.


Words have the power to establish trust between partners. A pleasant conversation can help two hearts connect.


Instead of shutting down when you are displeased with your partner, find the courage to talk about the issues.


Deal with the root of fear and shame in your marriage and you will be happy again. Wishing you the best of love.


I just say make I share!


Cheers!!

25/11/2022

Dear Spouse, If you're waiting for partner to change so that your happiness can manifest, you might die sorrowful. Nobody is responsible for your happiness except YOU!

25/11/2022

WHY S*X AMONG MARRIED COUPLES SHOULD NOT BEGIN IN THE BEDROOM

You might be wondering why we're starting this conversation with such a bold statement.
Well, the thing is, we believe that s*x shouldn't begin in the bedroom for married couples.


S*x does not have to begin in the bedroom. It should actually start in the everyday acts of truthfulness, consistency, kindness, touching, and talking that build an atmosphere of comfort, peace and love in the home.


In fact, we believe that if you want to have a great s*x life, you should start by having great s*x outside of the bedroom. You might be wondering why s*x outside the bedroom is so important.


Well, the thing is, when you start your s*xual encounters in a place where you're not used to having them, it can lead to all sorts of new and exciting possibilities. You'll be exploring new positions, new forms of stimulation, and new levels of intimacy.


When it comes to s*x, many couples make the mistake of thinking that the bedroom is the only place it should happen. But if you really want to make your s*x life sizzle, you need to start bringing the heat into your everyday life.


That means being truthful with each other, being consistent in your behavior, being kind to one another, and touching each other often.


If you can do all of those things, then you'll create a foundation of intimacy and connection that will carry over into the bedroom—and make s*x even better.


So, the next time you feel the urge to have s*x with your spouse, don't just head to the bedroom.


Try starting in the living room, the kitchen, or even the bathroom. And if you're really feeling frisky, you can even try starting in the car.


Wherever you start, just make sure that you're being respectful, honest, and consistent with your partner.


So what are you waiting for? Start having great s*x outside of the bedroom today.


I just say make I remind you!


Cheers!!

24/11/2022

Someone is asking Women to choose between:


1. Husbands with huge account balance without knacking skills


2. Husbands with Premium knacking skills with small account balance


PS: Premium knacking is quite different from reproductive s*x or procreation s*x.


Everyone can donate spe.rms for pro.creation but premium knacking is the ultimate life enhancer.


What is money without enjoyment?
What is life without premium knacking?

24/11/2022

Courtship Time is Like a Political Campaign Period.
It Should be Issues Based Not Emotions & Feelings Based. Give & Take Hard Knocks.

23/11/2022

5 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER DO FOR YOUR LOVER TILL THEY'RE MARRIED TO YOU.

Relationships are all about give and take. But there are some things you should never do for your lover, because they can end up taking more than they give.


If they are not yet Married to you, you are under no obligation to make such sacrifices.

Below, we've listed five things you should never do for your lover.


If you're not careful, these things can damage your relationship or even end it altogether. Read on to learn more!


1. DISRESPECT YOUR FAMILY FOR THEM

Never disrespect your family for your lover. This is one of the biggest mistakes you can make in a relationship.


You may think that by doing this, you're showing how much you care for your lover. But in reality, you're just causing more tension and conflict.


Your family is always going to be there for you, no matter what. They're your support system, and they will always have your best interests at heart.


So don't betray them by choosing your lover over them. It's never worth it.


If your lover or partner disrespects their family for you, you should be very careful. It's a red flag that they will disrespect you and your family tomorrow.


2. FORGET YOUR DREAMS FOR THEM

Don't ever forget your dreams for your love interest. It's important to have dreams and aspirations, and it's important to share them with the person you love.


They should be your number one fan and support system, cheering you on as you pursue your goals.


But don't forget who you are in the process. Don't forget your dreams, or let them fade into the background.


Keep pursuing them, and keep your lover in the loop as you do. They should be just as excited for you as you are for yourself.


3. COMMIT A CRIME FOR THEM

You should never commit a crime for your lover. That's just asking for trouble. Sure, you may think you're doing something romantic or helpful, but in reality, you're just making things worse.


What if you get caught? What if your partner decides they don't want to be with you anymore because of what you did? What if you go to jail?


Crimes are serious business, and should never be taken lightly. If you really love your partner, show them how much by respecting the law and not putting yourself in danger.


4. PAY THEIR SCHOOL FEES FOR THEM

You might think that paying their school fees is a grand gesture of love, but it can actually do more harm than good.


For one thing, it creates a sense of dependency, which is not healthy in a relationship.


And secondly, it can make your partner feel like you're trying to control them or buy their affection.

So instead of paying their school fees, why not help them come up with a plan to pay it off themselves?

This way, they'll feel more independent and empowered, and you'll be teaching them a valuable life lesson.


5. COMPROMISE YOUR NEEDS FOR THEIR WANTS

You should never have to compromise your needs for their wants. If you're feeling like you're always the one giving and they're always the one taking, it's not a healthy relationship.


You should be able to openly communicate your needs and wants and come to a compromise that works for both of you.


It's okay to do things for your partner that they want, but you shouldn't have to put your own wants on the back burner all the time.


If you're not happy with the way things are going, speak up. A good relationship is built on communication, so if you're not communicating your needs, it's not a good relationship.


PS: If you want your relationship to last, make sure you're not doing any of the things on this list. Disrespecting your family, forgetting your dreams, committing a crime for them, paying their school fees, and compromising your needs for their wants are all red flags.


If your partner is pressuring you to do any of these things, it's time to have a serious talk about what you both want for the future.


I just say make I remind you!


Cheers!!

22/11/2022

22/11/2022

THE ROLE OF DOCTRINE IN CHOOSING WHO TO MARRY


In my few years of pastoring, I can tell you for free that "doctrine" is a very key deciding factor for choosing who to marry. You might think this is not necessary until your wife leaves the house for vigils or even for days, without regards to your permission and approval, because her "father-in-the-Lord" says she needs to.


You may not understand until your spouse donates a substantial part of his/her income or whole salary as a "seed" against your wish.


You may not understand until a "wo/man of God" tells your spouse that you or your mother or one of your relatives is behind the problems he/she is battling with. Then, there is serious rancour in the home. Then you see bitterness erupting in your relationship.


You may not understand until your spouse starts bringing in "prayer objects" to your home and these are objects you feel uncomfortable with. When you tell him/her that you do not feel uncomfortable with the object(s), then he/she sees you as the hindrance to his/her prayers.


When some pastors try to make you see some doctrinal differences and their likely consequences during your premarital counselling session, you think they are just being paranoid over nothing.


You think they are just overstressing what is irrelevant to you. You believe you have discussed these issues and come to an agreement on them.


You believe that your partner is on the same page with you. You believe that whatever challenges that might come as a result of doctrinal differences will be overcome by the love you have for one another.


Few years down the line, you'd realise you were living in a fool's paradise.

May God grant us understanding. Amen!




- Anthony Opeyemi Ibn Fawole

22/11/2022

MISS MAYER

This happened about 7 years ago when I was still a radiology resident.


This good-looking couple came for an ultrasound scan. They have been married for about 4 years and could not conceive.
They had gone for gynaecological evaluation and were referred for an abdominal and pelvic ultrasound scan as a baseline study.


During the procedure, I did a quick scan through the upper abdomen and something caught my attention;
I did not see the right kidney.


In my naïve mind, I wondered where it could have been. Maybe I wasn’t looking hard enough as I was still young in the art of sonography.


I searched and searched.

I even used another ultrasound machine and struggled to no avail looking for the right kidney.


After 20 minutes of futility, I asked the lady if she has had any surgical procedure and she responded in the negative.


I then told them that I haven’t seen one of her kidneys and that was when she casually responded that she has always had one kidney from birth. She was born that way.


Immediately, I heard the husband gasped and I looked at him. His face was that of astonishment and shock.


“We courted for 2 years and have been married for 4 and it never crossed your mind to tell me” The husband asked stupefied.


“Well, there are many people with single kidneys. I’m not the first” she retorted


I continued scanning and got another shocker.

There was no womb!

I looked at her.


And from her countenance, I knew that she knew that also.


"Ma’am, how is your menstrual cycle?" I queried
“Very regular” she answered, looking directly at me daring me to say otherwise


And when was your last menstrual flow” I continued.

“2 weeks ago” she responded


“No dear” He interjected “2 weeks ago, we travelled for my cousin’s wedding. You didn’t say anything about your period”

“Then it must have been last week” She quickly added


I knew beyond reasonable doubt that this lady has never seen any form of menstruation but I couldn't fathom how she had successfully deceived her husband all those years.


I also didnt know how I could help her because she has spun a thick web of lies that will be hard to untangle and may cost so much including the relationship.


So I quietly wrote the scan report and sent them back to thier gynaecologist.
Let him handle the rest of the drama that will ultimately unfold.


That was my first encounter with Mayer-Rokitanski-Kuster-Hauser syndrome.

I have seen 3 more cases afterwards.

© Imaobong Mbre Inyang

21/11/2022

Position Yourself to be found......Ruth positioned herself to be found by Boaz

19/11/2022

Dear Brothers and Sisters in Christ,


I am pained each time a mother dies through childbirth because she refused or was refused the solutions provided by Science.


This is because the woman or her husband was waiting to experience the "Hebrew Women Delivery" as preached and taught from the pulpits.


The story of the Hebrew Women Delivery in Exodus 1:1-21 does not exist. It was not even a reality. It was a fallacy. Know this and know peace.


Don't ever permit your dear wife, sisters and daughters in labour wait to experience the "Hebrew Women Delivery" fallacy.


This is not an attack on the Christian faith. God forbid. We believe in the Wonder and Miracle Working God.


But when your faith is unable to deliver to you your expectations, if Science has the Solution you desired, please, embrace Science with all pleasures.


We have lost so many mothers because of this cocoted Hebrew Women faith story. They only made the story up to save lives.


Faith should not be supported with lies or imaginary stories. Only the leading and conviction of the Holy Spirit is needed to build up our faith.


Some people/preachers shouting "Hebrew Women Delivery" up and down, when child labour gets tough for their wives, sisters and daughters, they quickly book for CS.


But they will never mention Cesarean section in their testimony. They fear that you might judge to be weak in faith, so, they hid the truth


If you have been barren for years and IVF helped you to conceive and you gave birth successfully, in your testimony mention it.


Share the beauty of IVF so that others who can afford it will go for it without waiting 10yrs to conceive by natural means.



If Science has helped you in recovery your health back and you are hiding it when giving testimony in church, you are a liar.


Repent from misleading other brethren especially those whose faith is not strong. The Christian faith is not against Science.


I just say make I remind you!


Cheers!!

17/11/2022

End the culture of shaming people. We body shame. We single shame. We broke shame. We shame people's preferences, decisions and struggles. Shaming demoralized the victim.