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09/04/2024

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*THE FAMILY MEETING*

My mother did something astonishing and unexpected. She sent us a message for an urgent family meeting at the family house. Four of us gathered there, but surprisingly, Mama didn't welcome us with her usual warmth. Though she responded to our greetings, we could all sense the coldness in her voice.

Even my father was surprised to see all his sons, and he questioned Mama about the reason for the meeting. However, she told him to wait patiently and find out why.

Mama thanked us for leaving our busy schedules to respond to her call. "But I want you all to know that I am not a happy woman. You have all offended me. Anyone who offends my husband offends me."

My father tried to say something, but Mama communicated with him through her eyes, and he just smiled without speaking.

"I don't know about my other siblings, but I know I haven't offended you or Papa in any way," my elder brother said.

"Really?" Mama responded.

"I'm sure, Mama."

The rest of us also reassured her in the same way. She sighed and then smiled sadly.

"When was your father's birthday?" she asked.

We all looked at each other with guilt on our faces.

"Yesterday!" I said.

"If I can remember correctly, not a single call or SMS came from any of you to him. But you wouldn't forget mine. If it were my birthday, you would have posted it on your social media handles, including your wives. I would have received calls from all of you, and my account would be overflowing. I have watched this for years, and I won't allow it to continue," she said.

My father shifted in his chair, clearly surprised by the reason Mama called for the meeting.

"Is there any month you fail to send me money? But how many of you remember to do the same for my husband, or is he not your father? Even when I am not asking, you send me money. What about my husband? How can you show care and love for me and look at my husband as a stranger? In fact, stop sending me anything! You have your father's phone number, yet when you call me, you say, 'Send our regards to our father.' What nonsense!

We became uncomfortable because she was speaking the truth. I remembered how we celebrated her birthday. In fact, I personally invited a saxophonist to play for her.

"Who do you think paid your school fees? Are you all not graduates? Who paid the rent before we moved into our own home? My husband ensured that food was always on the table. Should I mention the other bills he handled? I supported him in the way I could. He was always busy making money, and when he was home, he took you out and was part of your lives. You think he didn't try? You think he doesn't deserve your love and attention? Oh! You think it's only the mother that deserves to be pampered, and your dad should be treated like trash? No way! Not my husband."

Mama wiped away the tears that escaped her eyes.

"So you planned to celebrate my husband in death, buying many cows to make people believe that when he was alive, you all cared. Thank God you are all men with children who are growing. Whatever you sow is definitely what you will reap. You think my husband doesn't cry? He doesn't feel pain? Of course, you wouldn't know."

Mama stared intently at all of us before wiping away another tear that slipped down her cheek.

"I'm not going to be among the group of women who make their husbands irrelevant before their children, who tell their children lies about their father, making it seem as if the man didn't play any significant role in the lives of the children. I know there are men who are bad and irresponsible. I'm not talking about such ones. No role played by a father is small, and I won't allow you to take my husband for granted. This man here is a lion, my crown, the king of my heart, and at 75, he still makes my heart flutter and race. None of you will trample on him," she said, raising her voice.

While we were still speechless and trying to absorb all she had said, she stood up abruptly and went to her room. She soon returned with my father's car key and her purse and took my father's hand.

"Let's go," she said without my father objecting. He just stood up and followed her.

"To where?" my siblings asked in unison.

"I'm taking my husband on a date to celebrate his birthday."

"But Mama..."

She silenced us with her eyes. It was obvious she wasn't giving us an opportunity to say anything.

"Lock the door and gate and take the key along with you," she instructed my elder brother. "I have a spare key."

They entered the car, and Mum drove off. We, the children, had our own meeting and agreed that we had made a mistake. We knew we were not returning to our own homes without settling things with our mother. We called our wives and told them we might sleep over at our parents' home because we didn't know when they will return.

It was almost 7:30 pm when Mama drove into the compound. She wasn't surprised that we were still around, but Dad was. One by one, we apologized to our parents and promised to change. Mama went to her bedroom and returned with a bible. She opened the book of Ephesians and read chapter 6:2 which says 'Honour your father and mother,' which is the first commandment with a promise.

"The Bible doesn't say honour only your mother and forget your father. Beautifully, this commandment comes with a promise. In verse 3, it says, 'that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth."

Mama took her time to expand on this Bible verse, opening our eyes to what we had never known. At the end, she asked Papa to pray for us. He was so excited that he prayed a heartfelt prayer.

We couldn't return home but chatted late into the night. I must mention that Mama prepared us a sumptuous meal.

Dear reader, Don't wait until Father's Day or Papa's birthday to celebrate him. Pick up your phone and give him a call. Don't forget him in your life.

*Wives celebrate your husbands.* Don't join those women to incite their children to hate their fathers. *Don't turn your children against your husband.*

Family relationships are precious and should be nurtured and celebrated continuously. Don't wait for a special occasion to show your love and gratitude to your parents; do it every day.

Thanks 🙏🏼

08/04/2024

*FOOD FOR THOUGHT*

Unless you understand your role in society, you can never make any meaningful contribution.

According to the Greeks there are three types of people on earth,
- the *idiots* ,
- the *tribesmen* , and
- the *citizens* .

Studies show only *10%* of Africans are citizens.
The remaining *90%* are either *tribesmen* or *idiots* .

1. When the Greeks used the word *"idiot"*, they did not use it as a curse word.
*Idiots* are people who just don’t care.
If they write exams, they will cheat.
If they are in government they will steal.
*An idiot* does not care at all, if he eats bananas he throws the peels anywhere instead of putting them in a trash bin.

*IDIOTS* *won't attend monthly neighborhood meetings. They won't pay security dues. They won't contribute to community development. Even when they see or know about something that will harm others in the community they won't report it* . When they see/know/have something that will benefit their community they won't share. Infact, *Idiots* don't care to register for or vote in an election yet they complain the most. If they register to vote, *IDIOTS* will sell their votes for peanuts.

According to the Greeks, some societies have more *idiots* than *tribesmen* and *citizens* .

2. The next set of people are *tribesmen* , these are people that look at everything from the point of view of their tribe.

These are people that believe in you only if you are part of their tribe.
It can be terrible to have a tribesman as a leader, he will alienate the rest.

When the Greeks talk about tribes, it’s not just about ethnicity, they also consider religion, gang membership, group membership, *party membership* and even cult membership as a tribe.
A great percentage of Africans are *tribesmen* , because they view everything from the point of view of their tribes.
They trust only their *tribesmen* .

3. The last group are *citizens.*
These are people that like to do things the right way.
They will respect traffic light rules even if no one is watching them.
They drive within speed limits.
They respect the laws, won’t cheat in exams.
In government they won’t steal.
They are compassionate and give to others to promote their wellbeing.

*Citizens* often promote projects that benefit everyone.
The Greeks called this group the *citizens* .

Some countries have more *citizens* than *tribesmen* and *idiots* .
Others have so many *idiots* .

A *tribesman* can become a *citizen* through orientation.
And an *idiot* can become a *citizen* by training and constant enforcement of the law.

But things fall apart if you elect an *idiot* or *tribesman* to lead you if he has not been reformed.

Where do you belong?
Are you an *idiot* , a *tribesman* or a *citizen* ?

Reflect about your life.

*REFLECT ABOUT YOUR IMMEDIATE COMMUNITY, CITY, STATE & NATION.*

God be with us all Amen.

02/04/2024

In this life, there is no such thing as a finish line. Once you accomplish one dream, God will give you another. When you overcome one challenge, there will be another. There is always another mountain to climb. If we make the mistake of living just for the destination, we’ll look up one day and realize we’ve missed out on the biggest part of life. Most of life is routine. Most of us get up every morning, go to work, come home, eat dinner, go to bed and do it again. There are very few mountaintops where you graduate from school, or get married, or have a child or go on vacation. The high times are few and far between. Don’t get stuck living for the mountaintops. Learn to enjoy the path you’re on. Learn to enjoy the people in your life. Learn to enjoy the simple blessings of walking in the path the Lord has prepared for you!(Proverbs 4:18) Good morning, welcome to April where your blessings will be full. Congratulations.

24/03/2024

24/03/2024

A young man attended a Wednesday Night Bible Study and the Pastor preached about listening to GOD and
obeying the Lord's voice. The young man couldn't help but ponder, 'Does GOD still speak to people?'
After service, he went out with some friends for coffee and pie and they discussed the message.
They talked about how GOD had led them in different ways.
It was about ten o'clock when the young man started driving home, and he prayed; ' GOD...If you still speak to people, speak to me. I will listen. I will do my best to obey.' As he drove down the main street of his town, he had the strangest thought to stop and buy a gallon of milk. He shook his head and said out loud, GOD is that you?' He didn't get a reply and started on toward home. But again, the thought, buy a gallon of milk came. The young man thought about Samuel and how he didn't recognize the voice of GOD, and how little Samuel ran to Eli. 'Okay, GOD, in case that is you, I will buy the milk.' It didn't seem like too hard a test of obedience. He could always use the milk. He stopped and purchased the gallon of milk and started off toward home.
As he passed Seventh Street , he again felt the urge, 'Turn Down that street.' This is crazy he thought, and drove on past the intersection. Again, he felt that he should turn down Seventh Street .At the next intersection; he turned back and headed down Seventh. Half jokingly, he said out loud,’ Okay, GOD I will.' He drove several blocks, when suddenly, he felt like he should stop. He pulled over to the curb and looked around. He was in a semi- commercial area of town. It wasn't the best but it wasn't the worst of neighborhoods either. The businesses were closed and most of the houses looked dark like the people were already in bed. Again, he sensed something, 'Go and give the milk to the people in the house across the street' The young man looked at the house. It was dark and it looked like the people were either gone or they were already asleep. He started to open the door and then sat back in the car seat 'Lord, this is insane. Those people are asleep and if I wake them up, they are going to be mad and I will look stupid.' Again, he felt like he should go and give the milk. Finally, he opened the door, 'Okay GOD, if this is you, I will go to the door and I will give them the milk. If you want me to look like a crazy person, okay. I want to be obedient. I guess that will count for something, but if they don't answer right away, I am out of here.' He walked across the street and rang the bell. He could hear some noise inside. A man's voice yelled out, 'Who is it? What do you want?’ Then the door opened before the young man could get away. The man was standing there in his jeans and T-shirt. He looked like he just got out of bed. He had a strange look on his face and he didn't seem too happy to have some stranger standing on his doorstep. 'What is it?' The young man thrust out the gallon of milk, Here, I brought this to you.' The man took the milk and rushed down a hallway. Then from down the hall came a woman carrying the milk towards the kitchen. The man was following her holding a baby. The baby was crying. The man had tears streaming down his face. The man began speaking and half crying, 'We were just praying. We had some big bills this month and we ran out of money. We didn't have any milk for our baby. I was just praying and asking God to show me how to get some milk.
His wife in the kitchen yelled out, 'I ask him to send an Angel with some. Are you an angel?
The young man reached into his wallet and pulled out all the money he had on him and put in the man’s hand. He turned and walked back to his car and the tears were streaming down his face. He knew that GOD still answers prayers.
If you believe that GOD is alive and well, send this to at least ten people. This is an easy test -you score 100 or zero. It's your choice. If you aren’t ashamed to do this, please follow the direction. JESUS said” If you are ashamed of me, I will be ashamed of you before my Father.

Don't share this because you want a miracle.

Share it help a brother believe in prayer. It is a blessing to do God's work.

05/03/2024

BE WISE

Did you also notice that a RABBIT runs, jumps, moves faster and lives for only 15 years, while TORTOISE doesn't even attempt any of such activities, but lives for about 150 years or more.

Life is not about rushing, comparison and doing what others are doing.

Life is about keeping calm and doing what is right and what you are called to do.

Rabbit and tortoise may live in the same forest and play together, they have different life expectancies.
Remember that you have:

Age Mates
Class Mates
School Mates
Office Mates
but you don't have
DESTINY MATE

Be who you are called to be and don't try to be somebody else.

26/02/2024

VALUABLE ADVISORY FOR THOSE ABOVE 40 !

Professor Sarah Al-Mutairi, linguistic auditor: I offer these tips to those who have reached the age of:
*40*
*50*
*60*
And above up to 80
May God bless you with obedience, health and well-being.

▪ *First advice:*
You should practice cupping every year even if you do not feel sick or have any illness.
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▪ *Second advice:*
Always drink water, even if you do not feel thirsty or need it...the biggest and most common health problems are caused by a lack of water in the body.

▪ *Third advice:*
Play sports even when you are very busy... it is necessary to move the body, even if only by walking... or swimming... or any type of sport.
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▪ *Fourth advice:*
Reduce food...
Give up excessive food cravings...because they never bring goodness. Do not deprive yourself, but reduce the quantities.
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▪ *Fifth advice:*
As much as possible, do not use the car except for extreme necessity... Try to reach on your feet what you want (the mosque, the grocery store, visiting someone...) or any goal.
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▪ *Sixth advice:*
Leave the anger...
Leave the anger...
Leave the anger...
Leave the worry...try to ignore things...
Do not involve yourself in annoying situations...they all reduce health and take away the splendor of the soul. Choose to sit with someone you feel comfortable with

▪ *Seventh tip:*
As it is said... Leave your money in the sun... and sit in the shade... Do not limit yourself or those around you... Money was made for us to live with, not for us to live for.
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▪ *Eighth advice:*
Don't let yourself feel sad for anyone.
And for nothing you couldn't achieve,
Nor for anything you couldn't have.
Ignore it, forget it; If it was destined for you, it would reach you in your bed; As long as it is not yours, God has withheld it from you. What he prevented from you was nothing but bad things that he would have brought upon you... You and I know this, but souls forget and we need such a memory to benefit from it...

▪ *Ninth tip:*
Be humble...then be humble...for money, prestige, power and influence...all of these things are corrupted by arrogance and vanity...
Humility is what brings people closer to you out of love...and with it God raises your value and position.
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▪ *Tenth advice:*
If your hair turns grey, this does not mean the end of your life. Rather, it is evidence that a better life has begun. Be optimistic, live in remembrance, travel, and enjoy yourself with what is lawful. .
And another tip:
Don't stay up but sleep as early as possible.

*(((The last and most important piece of advice)))*
Never abandon your prayer, for it is your winning card in this world and on the Day when neither wealth nor children will benefit.

If you like this, be a cause of goodness and spread it. If you do not like it, do not deprive it of someone who may benefit from it.

Good Morning all.

14/02/2024

Parents/ Guardian please take your time to watch this video about the effect of raising an ipad kids.

15/01/2024

*OUR CHILDREN, OUR PRIDE 2024 PARENTAL CLASS*

As we conclude on the first season of development, you may need to read this over and over again and again.

One word you should keep at the back of your mind with children between ages 0-6 is..
...OBSERVATIONAL LEARNING.

Let me ask you a hypothetical question..

If I tell you there is a snake under your leg, what will you do?

How will you feel?

Scared?

Mere words can evoke certain kinds of emotions in you.

Words, real or imagined are powerful, and influences behaviour.

What is your child hearing?

You're not serious, you're careless, you're dirty, you're stupid, etc?

One of the most underrated yet powerful ways to teach children in their first season of development is EXPOSURE.

Allow a child to watch a cartoon, say TOM and JERRY for a few times, that child will start mimicking either TOM or JERRY.

Allow a child to watch wrestling or a movie where there is fighting, that child will start mimicking the behaviour he/she sees on screen.

What children WATCH, HEAR and are EXPOSED to form the fulcrum of their behaviour.

As a parent, you have to be INTENTIONAL with the people, and environment you choose to stay and expose your child/children to.

Again, because of children's underdeveloped brain, their learning is mostly OBSERVATIONAL at this stage.

They do not have the cognitive or moral wherewithal to differentiate appropriate from inappropriate behaviour..

Rather, because of their mirror neurons, they exhibit what they see others do, and say.

Focus on what they see, and hear, other things will fall in place.

From tomorrow, we'll look at the second phase, let's take the journey one step at a time.

What has been the aha moment for you so far?

What is your take-home from the first season?

Share with me.

*CHAPTER 2*

Last week, I promised to speak on the subject of PRINCIPLES OF POSITIVE PARENTING.

In keeping up with that promise, we will start today and it will run through the week.

I will make it very brief for easy reading and digestion.

1. EMPATHETIC CONNECTION

In the words of my pastor, "what you cannot relate with you cannot redeem."

You must always approach your child's feelings and concerns with empathy and understanding.

Know that their emotions are so real to them as yours are to you.

The more you try to push your agenda by opposing their feelings, you'll be pushing them away or getting a PUSH BACK from them.

I hope you got this?

I believe in you strongly.

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13/01/2024

*RULES OF LIVING WITH PEOPLE*

1. When you meet young people - INSPIRE THEM.

2. When you meet children - EDUCATE THEM.

3. When you meet old people - HELP THEM.

4. When you meet wise people - STUDY THEM.

5. When you meet leaders - HONOUR THEM.

6. When you meet foolish people - AVOID THEM.

7. When you meet humble people - TREASURE THEM.

8. When you meet arrogant people - IGNORE THEM.

9. When you meet gracious people - EMULATE THEM.

10. When you meet aspirational people - ELEVATE THEM.

11. When you meet strong people - SUPPORT THEM.

12. When you meet godly people - BLESS THEM.

13. When you meet elderly people - RESPECT THEM.

14. When you meet weak people - STRENGTHEN THEM.

15. When you meet hardworking people - ENCOURAGE THEM.

16. When you meet kind people - ESTEEM THEM.

17. When you meet Honest people -
PROMOTE THEM.

18. When you meet virtuous people - REWARD THEM.

19. When you meet evil people - EVADE THEM.

20. And in all situation “Watch, Pray and wish everyone well.

1. *Dr. Ben Carson said,* "I struggled academically throughout elementary school yet became the best neurosurgeon in the world in 1987."

*LESSON:* Struggling is a sign that you are on a verge of success. Don't quit yet.

2. *Bill Gates said,* "I didn't even complete my university education but became the world's richest man."

*LESSON:* School does not make you rich. School is only supposed to polish what will make you rich, not make you rich.

3. *Christiano Ronaldo said,* "I told my father that we would be very rich but he couldn't believe me. I made it a reality."

*LESSON:* Your words rule your life. If you mean what you have said, each word will come to pass. You get what you say.

4. *Hear Lionel Messi!,* "I used to serve tea at a shop to support my football training and still became one of the world's best footballers."

*LESSON:* Believe in your dream. Don't let your pain tell you how your future will look like...

Happy Weekend 😊

07/01/2024

FACT ABOUT MEN.

1. Every male( including a little boy) has the instinct of detecting disrespect and dishonour from your words and actions towards them .

2. Men feeds on honour and respect. They value it over food. Do all you like to a man but don't touch his respect and honour.

3. Men hate it when he's talking to you and you are talking back at him. He hates it when he is talking and you are walking away.

4. Men hates to be challenged by their wife. Challenging him is stirring up the beast in him. That is unprofitable for you, woman

5. Men can do anything for their peace of mind, even it makes them look like a coward. When a man looses his peace at home, his life is about to relocate to another place to seek it with anyone who can give it him.

6. When a man is complaining about a particular thing, he has reached his breaking points of endurance. Do your best to pay attention to that thing and find a way to help him.

7. When a man is talking to you, he needs you to be silent and pay attention to him by focusing on him. Your calmness can make him reduce the tone of his voice if he was shouting at you.

8. The silence of a woman scares a man naturally, he can do anything just to make sure he finds out what went wrong.

9. A man is never never too busy for the woman he loves.
10. What a man wants from his woman after every day activities is peace of mind. Keep the issues away from him till he has been refreshed with food and warm/cool bath.

11. Whenever a man gets a gift for his woman, it means he has thought about her deeply before doing so.

12. A man is not always far from his investment. He either carries it in his mind or he go with it anywhere he goes.

13. Men love s*x . Women love lo******ng.

14. Men shade the most honest tears after children since they rarely show emotions.

15. Every man you see has a baby side of them that yearn for deep pampering and petting. This is why no man sees himself to be too old to be pampered by their mom.

16. Men are good in flattering, yet in their flattering lies their true intentions towards you, either for value or consumption.

17. Men has the power to crush any female. Only few always chose not to use it against them but to protect their woman. Don't dare a man to touch you as a lady.

18. A man who finds peace at home with his wife, can never sleep outside. He will always be eager to reach home.

19. To bring a man under your control, feed his ego and he will bring the City to your door step.

20. Men are always secondary to accept any religious beliefs in the family while women are easy to conjure into it.

21. Nothing gives man so much courage like the words of appreciation and encouragement from his woman in every little thing he does.

22. No man will joke with the wife, who covers his incapabilities before his children.

04/01/2024

Danger Of Assumption!

*_A few months ago, I was invited to a programme in a school in Jos, Plateau State as a guest speaker._*

*_When I entered the auditorium, I saw some Guests I knew sitting in one corner. I went up to them and started to greet them one after the other._*

*_I shook their hands, even with the ones I didn't know until I got to one guest. I didn't know him and when I extended my hand, he ignored it. After few seconds, I withdrew my hand. All my thought was, "what arrant nonsense?" I kept asking the question from myself. I felt very embarrassed and angry. Embarrassed for myself and angry at the man._*

*_What was he feeling like, I thought. All those other guests accepted my greeting. And to my knowledge, I hadn't done anything wrong. I gave him a very scornful look, greeted the remaining guests and went to take a seat._*

*_Now, even after I sat down, I was still pi**ed. I kept stealing glances at the guest to see how he would react to other people._*

*_Then I saw it... Amazingly he was blind!!!_*

*_His eyes were open, but he couldn't see at all! The other guests who came to greet him had to touch him first, then take his hand if they wanted to shake hands with him._*

*_To my great surprise, he is my hidden protege who really appreciates my lectures. I never knew he came purposely because his wife informed him that I will be the guest speaker for this year's Programme. In fact, he was waiting to hear someone bemoan my name so as to stand and hug me._*

*_When I heard this, my embarrassment level tripled. In addition to that, I felt stupid, very stupid. I was still angry, just angry at myself. In fact, I could not say a word to him until I got to the podium and my speech for that Programme changed from "Recovery" to "DANGER OF ASSUMPTION"._*

_©️ *Assumption kills like poison. Any small thing, we assume, thinking others are doing what we think not what we validate by personal eye witness.*_

_©️ *Someone doesn't pick our calls, we assume he or she is avoiding us or is up to something.*_

_©️ *Someone doesn't give us the money we asked for, we assume he or she is stingy and wicked...*_

_©️ *Someone doesn't call, hangout or visit you as he/she usually does. We assume they are no longer caring or intimate again, then comes the anger and repulsive attitude towards them.*_

_©️ *We never care to know and understand that issues of life can set in to choke them. Also that, the issues of life are diverse in nature, not the same*._

_©️ *Once we are turned or rejected, we start assuming. Power of verification of issues is more important and significant for more connection with healthy people to get to the top.*_

_©️ *We don't put into consideration what the other party might be going through or experiencing. Always have it at the back of your mind that, other people might not be in pleasant mood like you.*_

_©️ *The guy that promised you money might get into a financial situation a day before he's supposed to give you the money.*_

*_✓ The person that didn't pick your call was probably in a meeting or busy at that moment, or even sleeping. He might not be in the mood to take your call._*

*_✓ We just assume instead because it’s easier and it tends to make us the good guys._*

*_✓ Give someone benefit of the doubt, make an excuse for that person. It's not always as it seems in your mind and head._*

*_Maintain relationships with people. What you EXPECT will COME towards you and what you don't EXPECT will RUN away from you._*

*_✓ It is childish and immature to pick offence at every provocation or perceived wrongness and then start keeping grudges as a result. Grow above it._*

*_✓ Someone did not invite you for their wedding, you pick offence with them._*

*_✓ Someone didn't wish you happy birthday, you pick offence with the person._*

*_✓ They didn't like your Facebook post, you pick offence._*

*_✓ They didn't support you in a disagreement you had with someone, you pick offence with them._*

*_✓ They are junior and they have the audacity to talk or oppose your opinion. You pick offence with them._*

*_✓ They said No to your request, you pick offence and malice starts._*

*_✓ You asked them for money, they said they didn't have it, you pick offence with them._*

*_✓ You are even keeping a record of people who brought gifts to your wedding, those who blessed you because you helped them, you have the list of those who give you gifts or money always among your junior colleague, so you can know who to pick offence with._*

*NOTE:*

_@ *Everyone has his/ her battle that someone is not aware of.*_

_@ *Those who you need help from are also looking for help.*_

_@ *Not everything is personal and intentional.*_

_@ *Not everyone hates you.*_

_@ *Sometimes, people are just caught up with their own lives, struggles, human weaknesses, and limitations.*_

_@ *Learn how to manage being disappointed by people and still be on talking terms with them. It will save you a lot of UNNECESSARY grudges and save you some FRIENDSHIPS you may need in the future.*_

*_Grow above offences, grow with offences, grow ignoring offences, and stop hurting yourself._*

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