Godly Relationships

23/12/2023

I'm tired of eating chicken 🍗🍗🐔 every Christmas...
This Christmas I must eat 🦁 LION

18/12/2023

When Something Is For You!

1.. When something is for you, you won't feel the need to beg, convince, or force. Things will feel easeful, grounded, and safe.

2.. When something is for you, it will not make you question or second guess your worth.

3.. Instead, it will remind you how worthy and loved you truly are.

4.. When something is for you, it will feel healthy and supportive-not toxic or destructive.

5.. When something is for you, it will not run or hide or avoid being yours. You do not have to chase after anything or anyone.

6.. When something is for you, it will bring clarity and alignment to your life, not chaos and confusion.
🙏
Class dismissed 🥂

11/12/2023

Have you ever sat alone & cried because you realized that everybody keeps betraying you?

I wonder why some people keep hurting me even when I care for them genuinely. Some things are just really unfair, like how we show kindness & love to some people & they will give us pain in return. I cannot believe that I will face betrayal from the ones I trusted. Is it because I am not enough? Or am I not worthy of them? I wonder what pushes someone to hurt someone who has good intentions. And I really wonder why the ones I always choose to love are also the ones who keep breaking my heart.

Sometimes, I sit alone in my room, feeling like a worthless person. I know that I am loved & valued by some people in my life, but I can't accept that I also feel so unwanted by some of those who mean so much to me. I know that I should focus on those who truly see my worth & that I should just walk away from the ones who treat me poorly, but a part of me will always wish for certain people to stop hurting me & love me wholeheartedly.

05/12/2023

05/12/2023

" ADVICE TO ALL MARRIED MEN...✍✔

1. If you value your health and you want to live long and have a happy home, let your wife always win an argument. Trust me, it's the shortcut I know to peace of mind! Where there is no wood (fuel), the fire goes out!

2. Stop trying to figure out your wife or understand why she does what she does. It's a waste of precious time. Remember that you (Adam) were put to sleep while she (Eve) was being produced? How can you try to understand a piece of equipment that wasn't assembled in your presence?

3. Marriage is about ACCEPTANCE, not tolerance. Make your marriage relationship-driven, not performance-driven. She was NOT created in your image. Stop projecting YOU onto her. Show her the need for change through leadership, not coercion.

4. While a man is rational, the woman is emotional. One (the man) processes via his head, and the other processes things through her heart (emotions). One thinks things through, the other feels her way through things. Facts drive you. Intuition drives her. What she can't FEEL, she doesn't SEE!

5. When s*x becomes a weapon, a duty, or an entitlement, it loses its very essence, LOVE-MAKING. It simply becomes another chore like dishwashing which nobody looks forward to doing! Play with her. Flirt with her. Serenade her. Hug. Cuddle. Hold hands. Surprise her. Blow gently into her ears while she is cooking or while you are watching a movie together. Be spontaneous. Being a king-kong overlord in "ze oza room" and puffing and panting like a worn-out locomotive while she wonders what just happened can only lead to frustration. Remember, it is never about the size of the weapon but the fury of the attack! (Decode that!)

6. Go out often. Make regular, unscheduled date nights. Take a bath together. Make room for movie nights together either at home or at the cinema.

7. Remember that ONLY THE TWO OF YOU started the journey together and when the children have jumped the nest, only the two of you will remain. So, keep the bond ALL THE WAY and never drop the ball

8. Impregnate her with VISION. Allow her to dream too. Every woman loves a man working towards a future in which she can feature. Remember, a woman simply means "womb man". She always wants something to incubate and nourish. You give her a seed, and she incubates it and turns it into a baby for you

9. She is your wife, companion, and confidant, not a washing machine, cook, or slave. You can't wear her out with chores all day and expect to 'ride' a functional "bicycle" all night! Impossible! Partners help partners by giving a helping hand where needed, even without being told.

10. Love is not 50/50. It is 100%. God didn't say to love your wife when she is submissive. It simply says to love her as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her.

11. Be PRESENT. Don't be at home married to your computer, football game, or your phone for that matter. Listen when she wants to talk. Even when you don't know what to contribute to the discourse, you will soon discover that all she wanted was for you to listen. Your opinion may not even count!

12. If both of you are born again children of God, you are SIBLINGS!!! You have the same Father and the same Father-in-law, GOD!!! Ever thought of that? Treat your wife with the dignity you would accord your blood sister. If you are fond of disgracing your wife in public and calling her all sorts of unprintable names, remember, it wasn't God who named EVE. He created a woman, and Adam gave her a name. Whatever you call your wife, that is what she will reflect on you. If you call your wife a Jezebel, we need to check if your middle name isn't Ahab! Call her your Queen and she will make you her crown! It takes one to find one! When you see the glory of your Father in her, you will be a great Son-in-law too! A wife you don't honour cannot bring honour to you too.

MAY YOUR HOMES REFLECT THE MIND OF GOD! "

©

29/11/2023

They may take away everything from you but if they haven't taken your ability to pray, then they have done nothing, because with prayer you will always experience triumph.

They took away Samson's eyes, they took away his hair and strength but they forgot to also take away his ability to pray, when he cried out to God his power was restored.

Jonah in the belly of the fish also cried out to God and the Lord restored his ministry. Peninah laughed at the bareness of Hanah until she prayed.

Prayer changes things no wonder David says I look up to the Hills, from where my help comes from, it comes from God the maker of heaven and earth. I encourage you today to engage God in prayer.

You shall rise again, you shall also testify, your vision will also speak, you shall also be celebrated... if there is a man to pray there is a God to answer.
Shalom.

29/11/2023

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29/11/2023

THE POTENTIAL KILLERS OF MEN

● Children school fees
● house rents
● Electricity bills
● Medical bills
● Generator fuel & repairs
● Car fuel and repairs
● Feeding of family
● Clothes for children
● Sallah or Christmas and New year bills
● Furniture & House maintenance
● In-laws wahala/demand
● His own aged parents
● His siblings most times
● His wife's demands
● Vigilante bills
● Erecting Building
● Religious demands
● Family social bills
● Electronics bills
● Recharge cards
● Extended family bills
● Community demands


On top of the above, he also faces the followings :

● Wife stress
● Boss stress at work
● Police stress on the way
● Area boys stress
● Kidnappers fear
● Friends stress
● Economy stress
● Fear of job loss
● Unemployment pains
● Armed Robbery stress
● Children misbehaviour
● Neighbours stress
● Bank loan payment stress
● Enemies stress
● Demonic attack stress
● S*x stress

..and so on! OMG!!

Are these reasons not enough for all African Wives to understand and give their husbands peace at home ?

Are men not trying ? How can an African man with these kind of loads be romantic like an American man ?

Women, please give your husbands peace at home.

Encourage your husbands.

Stop being sarcastic to them. Except if you like to join the widows club early!
Note:That club is not funny. Ask members. Help your husband. Contribute to the family.

Build your home and marriage. It is not greener outside there. Don't be deceived!!

Help your men to live longer like you.

27/11/2023

Please don’t get tired of reading this because I’m not about to stop posting it😫🙏🏾

Fornication is a sin. Having s*xual in*******se outside marriage is a sin.
Even if you were promised marriage, it isn’t wise to fall for it. That he’s a man of God and you’re anointed enough shouldn’t make you temp the devil by lodging together or cohabiting claiming you trust yourselves.
The word of the Lord command that you flee

My dearest brothers, I’ve received too many messages from our beloved sisters complaining about this issue. I don’t understand how the subject of purity will be considered an old time religion 😰. How did we get here?
How can we shy away from the instructions that are meant to deliver us and present us whole in Christ Jesus.
Do we now modify the word of God to suit our desires?
Let’s go back to the old time religion where we reverence God and His word.
A sin is a sin!
We can’t paint it otherwise….
God will give us the grace to stand for purity🙏🏾
It Is what the Lord say it is!


Victoria Innocent

27/11/2023

You're a miracle magnet, you have the ability to attract amazing things.
Believe in God and your self.

27/11/2023

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27/11/2023

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27/11/2023

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To my fellow men,

Society is placing unnecessary marital pressure on you for a reason, don't fall for that trick! We have so many children roaming the streets today without a father and it hurts my heart to know that these kids didn't fall from heaven, it took the coming together of a man & woman to make this happen!

I know people are asking you when you are getting married, I know deep inside you're even getting pressured to settle down even while you know you're not ready yet both financially and emotionally,

But please,
If you're not ready yet to handle the responsibility of raising a home, to be a father and a husband,

Leave ittttttttttttttttt....

All these,
"You're next"
"Show us our mama"
*Go and marry",
Will end the moment you make a woman your wife!

Some of them won't even bother to send you money for the same marriage they pressured you into! They will ask you if anyone forces you into it! Don't always listen to people on matters as sensitive as marriage! If you're not ready for the relationship or marriage, please take your time and get ready for it!

Raising a family is not easy, forget!!!
You need to be ready for this thing especially emotionally, knowing that you're now living your life shared with your other significant half! Don't jump into marriage cos of trend, don't propose because of pressure,

Cos if you do,
Na you go taya,
All your supporters go deny you!

This is men supporting men!

©Chris Johnvian

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27/11/2023

To my fellow men,

Society is placing unnecessary marital pressure on you for a reason, don't fall for that trick! We have so many children roaming the streets today without a father and it hurts my heart to know that these kids didn't fall from heaven, it took the coming together of a man & woman to make this happen!

I know people are asking you when you are getting married, I know deep inside you're even getting pressured to settle down even while you know you're not ready yet both financially and emotionally,

But please,
If you're not ready yet to handle the responsibility of raising a home, to be a father and a husband,

Leave ittttttttttttttttt....

All these,
"You're next"
"Show us our mama"
*Go and marry",
Will end the moment you make a woman your wife!

Some of them won't even bother to send you money for the same marriage they pressured you into! They will ask you if anyone forces you into it! Don't always listen to people on matters as sensitive as marriage! If you're not ready for the relationship or marriage, please take your time and get ready for it!

Raising a family is not easy, forget!!!
You need to be ready for this thing especially emotionally, knowing that you're now living your life shared with your other significant half! Don't jump into marriage cos of trend, don't propose because of pressure,

Cos if you do,
Na you go taya,
All your supporters go deny you!

This is men supporting men!

©Chris Johnvian

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27/11/2023

27/11/2023

ACTING IN YOUR ANGER WILL DESTROY YOUR RELATIONSHIP...

1. EXPRESS YOUR HURT RATHER THAN YOUR ANGER. Before we become angry, we typically experience some form of hurt.
Instead of expressing your anger or hurt feelings of sadness or disappointment, we more commonly lash out in anger.
The most common message behind a stance of I am angry are "I'M HURTING". If you initially share those hurt feelings with your partner instead of the fact that you are angry, you have a better chance to avoid fight and start the healing process.Remember, it takes an incredible amount of self control to communicate your hurt feelings.

2. IT'S NOT SO MUCH WHAT YOU SAY BUT HOW YOU SAY IT.
A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
The tongue of the wise useth knowledge aright: but the mouth of fools poureth out foolishness (Prov 15;1-2)
Saying things harshly often starts things going in the wrong direction. When we are not able to control the words that come out of our mouths, we can damage our relationship. It is also helpful to reflect on your past and remember how damaging an effect those outburst and unrestrained words might have upon you.

3. BITE YOUR TONGUE. CONTROL WHAT YOU SAY.
It is a key to maintain a successful relationship. You should plan ahead in advance how to deal with the strong emotions that have previously propelled you into dangerous verbal expression.
Whispering to yourself memorized statements. Such as, what my partner is saying to me is hurting me, but I will have a chance to share my thoughts and concerns, when she/he is finished.

4. TAKE TIME-OUT
To take a time out is good bcos it helps you to get control. You take a time out to get yourself under control, thus protecting you from doing any more damage to your marriage relationship.
Say to your partner, I'm feeling the need to take a time out. Could we come back and talk in a half hour? The goal is to let your partner know that you are not trying to withdraw from or hurt her/him

17/11/2023

This lady should try and listen kwanu!!!

17/11/2023

Bob Marley was so right when he said.....💚🌿

“You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again.

But if she loves you now, what else matters? She's not perfect—you aren't either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can.

She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break—her heart.

So don't hurt her, don't change her, don't analyze and don't expect more than she can give.

Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she's not there.”

🙏👏
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17/11/2023

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17/11/2023

Dear Ladies... Specifically for You.

That man you are into because of his effizy or ride may be driving his last car.

How to spot a marriable man. (in the context of great business and career future)

Every woman needs security, financial security to ensure that the future of her seeds(children) are protected.

One of the reasons women grows old quickly is because they shoulder the responsibilities of the household or because the man is not living up to his responsibilities as a man.

Ladies please don't expect heaven from every man because God didn't give all of us the same number of talents. Some 5,some 2 and 1.
To some their fathers failed them or wasn't able to meet up to their dreams.

But be careful so that you won't be motivated or falling for the wrong reasons...

Don't marry Benz, marry Visions.

1. What does he talk about whenever you are together...

Some men are all about you, what will you eat (ever wondered why some men gets poor after they married) they are using their last money to feed you o.

2. If they talk about your passion and dreams more than theirs, it shows they don't have any...
Every man must be consumed with his dreams, you are the help meet not them. So your dreams must come second except you want to be the breadwinner and feed the home.

They may have good jobs, but if they mistakenly loose their jobs, you automatically become the bread winner of the house.

3. Watch their passion and close associates.
They are not far apart... If he falls, who or what will help him get up?

4. What what and how he talks about his siblings...
Is he just dashing cash or raising them? You can't separate a man from his family else you pick up a battle you will fight till your grave.
And if he doesn't raise them, they will pest around and give you headaches all the time.

5. His relationship with colleagues, friends, close associates and everyone.

Every man must fall at one time or the other, is their help built standby? Is their goodwill?

My dear, yes, it's serious business except you just want to be with a man.

6. What time do they leave the house, and what time do they come back...
I know you need him around, but DO YOU WANT TO MARRY A MAN YOU BEG TO COME HOME OR ONE YOU BEG TO GO OUT?

7. How does he do money, savings and investments.
Do you want fish, barbecues,cars or lands, houses, business growth... Make your choices now.
Some men, money doesn't stay 1week with them watch what they spend it on. (for the sake of your children and financial security).

8. Do they have fathers (someone who will say sit and they will sit)
Surely they will be clashes and fight, who will you complain to especially when he is going rogue.

Kindly add yours let's discuss it.

©Aneto Samuel Onyema.

17/11/2023

4 MISTAKES WE SHOULD NEVER MAKE WHEN WE LOVE SOMEONE

When you love someone, you shouldn’t do certain things that would make you lose that person. Losing someone you love can be a painful ordeal because you might never get them back.
When we’re in love with someone, there are certain mistakes that are just too costly, because it might just cost us that relationship; we might forever lose that loved one and some people are just irreplaceable.
People prefer to learn from their own mistakes but I think some mistakes shouldn’t even come close to our relationship.

1. ANGER
Anger is a big relationship killer; we are humans and we get angry, anger is a common emotion. But the mistake people make is letting anger get the better of them; when you let anger becloud your judgment, your relationship would suffer for it and you would end up making so many mistakes that would just be a big minus.

2. PRIDE
Some people are too proud to show their emotions and they end up losing someone they actually do care about. If you love someone, tell that person, show that person, else your relationship might suffer for it. Sometimes these three words “I love you” can make a huge significance in your relationship but people take this for granted.

3. DON’T TAKE THAT PERSON FOR GRANTED
Sometimes people do this, not because they don’t love their partner but because they feel that the person they love would never leave, so they take things for granted till that loving partner gets tired of the relationship and deem it over. When someone you love loves you greatly, never take it for granted because you might end up losing that person, and that would be a great loss.
4. NEVER FAIL TO APOLOGISE

“I am sorry” are three words that can save a relationship. So many relationships have failed because people lack this apologetic manner. People do things and still don’t care; being sorry for your wrong no matter how little would calm the tension surrounding relationships. You would gain a lot of respect.