Isah Ufedo M (2024)

21/03/2024

HOW TO KNOW IF THE LOVE IS REAL

After reading the article I wrote that says 5 SIGNS THAT SOMEONE IS NOT INTO YOU a week ago, a concerned lady sent me a message seeking for counseling.

She told me that her guy loves her, gives her attention, has time for her, cares about her, communicates well with her and gives her lots of gifts and all of that but she's afraid if the love is real.

Consequently, she chatted me up asking me how she would know that the love is real.

I told her that I'm going to write on it so that other people can also benefit from it. In this article, you will learn how to know if the love is real or not.

When someone loves you, you know and you will feel it. There will be evidences to attest to it.

Below are some of the evidences...

✅ ATTENTION

When someone loves you, he or she will give you attention. We give attention to the things that we love.

✅ CARE

When someone loves you, they will care about your well-being. Anyone that doesn't care about your welfare does not love you.

✅ COMMUNICATION

When someone loves you, they will communicate often with you as much as possible. Hearing the voice of whom you love is a delight.

✅ GIVING

The natural outflow of love is giving. When someone loves you, they will give. It doesn't necessarily has to be money but there will be giving.

✅ SPENDING TIME TOGETHER

When someone loves you, they will desire and long to spend time with you. When you love someone, you will desire the presence of the person. Anyone that doesn't like spending time with you, may not love you.

✅ SACRIFICE

The ultimate prove of love is sacrifice. Love is not self-seeking. Love always spends itself at the expense of the beloved. Someone that is not going out of his way once in a while to make you feel good, may not love you. Love is sacrificial.

✅ PATIENCE

When someone loves you, they will patient with you. They will be patient with in your weaknesses, down time, etc.

✅ PROTECTION

When someone loves you, they will try to protect you from harm, they will ensure that you are safe.

✅ KINDNESS

When someone loves you, they will be kind to you. Love is kind. Harshness is a sign of hatred, resentment or anger not a sign of love.

✅ VULNERABILITY

When someone loves you, they will vulnerable to you. They will loose their guard, put down their defence, they will dismantle the barricade and they will show you the weak side of them hoping you don't hurt them.

✅ SUPPORT

When someone loves you, they will support you in whatever capacity they can. They will support your dreams and aspirations, they will support you financially, spiritually, emotionally and otherwise.

✅ INVESTMENT

When someone loves you, they will invest in you to make you better than they met you mentally, emotionally, economically etc. Love builds up.

So these are some of the signs that shows someone loves you.

How Do You Know That The Love Is Real?

✅ Give It Time

I read something from Reno Omokri recently that made a lot of sense to me. In fact, it put what I want to say in perfect perspective for me.

He says, "No mask can be worn forever. Give people time. Their mask will fall. Until then, don't marry or do business with them. Stay loving, but be alert."

You cannot cover pregnancy forever, with time it will be revealed for all to see.

So, give the person time. He says he loves you with all his heart, you are his morning star, sunshine, sugar in the tea, butter in the bread and his one and only woman, there's no problem. Give it time.

When he asks for s*x and you tell him no s*x until marriage, will he still continue to love?

When you find yourself in a very difficult situation, maybe you are critically ill, will he still continue to love?

She says she loves you, you are her world and you mean everything to her. Without you she cannot live nor survive. You are her oxygen and life-force. There is no problem. Give it time.

When you loose your job or suffer a major blow in your business, will she still love?

When you are broke and unable to provide for her financial needs, will she still love or disappear with another guy?

Don't rush things. Give it time. Time is a revealer. Time will reveal if the love is real or not, with time you will come to know if the person is saying the truth or lying. Love perseveres and love is long-suffering. Stay loving, but be alert.

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20/03/2024

HOW TO BE A ROMANTIC WIFE

1. Remember that romance is not the husband's responsibility alone

2. Compliment your husband when he is well-dressed and smells good

3. Touch your husband's thigh when he is driving or seated next to you when you want to tell him something

4. Flirt with him over the phone

5. Play with his fingers when you two are having pillow talks

6. Cuddle with him and place his head on your bosom when you two are in bed

7. Place your hand on his arm as a Queen who knows her position

8. Dress up for his visual stimulation, especially in the bedroom

9. Dance for him and tease him

10. Tell him all the passionate things you want to do to him

11. Praise his s*xual performance and the things he does that give you pleasure. Tell him how how he drives you crazy

12. Take him out on dates, don't always wait for him to plan things

13. Kiss him, not just on the lips but also his cheeks, his forehead, his fingers

14. Offer to serve him with a smile and take care of him

15. Call him special names "My King", "Darling", "Honey"

16. Be confident in being yourself, do great things as an individual. It excites him when he is proud of you

17. Talk highly about him in public, encourage him in private when he is down

18. Find out his favourite s*x position and do it to him often

19. Help him to put on and remove his clothes, his tie, his coat

20. Rally the children in appreciating him, make him feel valued at home regardless of his financial status

21. Buy him gifts that he will like

22. Prepare his favourite meal or ask him what he would like to eat

23. Tell him you love him. Men love to be affirmed too. Tell him also what you love about him

24. Ask him how his day has been. Show care

25. Make s*xual moves on him, don't just lay there waiting for him to do all the work

26. Pray for him to bless him, not because you think he is the devil or the problem in your marriage. Prayerful women are romantic

27. Attend to his needs without him asking such as making him a cup of tea/coffee when he is working

Just because you have spent years together doesn't mean you stop making him feel special. You were attractive and made him feel valued and that is why he pursued you to get you, stay attractive and valuing him to keep him; as you do so, he will long for your presence and give you his best. The woman who loves her husband, builds her home

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19/03/2024

HOW TO CORRECT YOUR SPOUSE

1. Do not correct your spouse in public. It makes him or her feel embarrassed

2. Do not shout at your spouse when correcting

3. Do not use words like "You never...", "You always...". Doing so is an unfair exaggeration. Say "I don't think it was proper what you did yesterday"

4. Do not correct your spouse as if he/she is a child saying "Please act your age", "Grow up", "You're so childish". This doesn't show respect

5. Do not correct your spouse about something serious when you two don't have ample time to talk about it. Do it in a relaxed atmosphere

6. As you correct your spouse speak with a loving tone

7. Do not correct your spouse in front of your children. It shows disrespect

8. Don't compare your spouse with others saying "Why can't you be like other women/men?", "Why can't you be like so and so?". It undermines your spouse and kills self confidence

9. Don't bring up your spouse's mistakes of the past. It only compounds issues

10. Praise your spouse more than you give criticism

11. As you correct your spouse, don't let your spouse doubt your love. You can do this by saying "You know I love you. Sweetheart, I noticed that...."

12. Do not let your feelings get the best of you and say irrational things

13. Expect a push back from your spouse or a justification, most adults don't take correction lightly but if you remain gentle, eventually you're spouse will be receptive

14. Once you've corrected your spouse, don't police him/her; this will only demoralize your spouse's efforts

15. Appreciate your spouse's growth

16. Don't take life too seriously

17. Remember that the purpose of correcting your spouse is not to prove you're right but to inspire your spouse to be better. When you focus on proving you are right, you might win the argument but lose your marriage or make things difficult between you two

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06/03/2024

10 SIGNS OF A TRUE GIRLFRIEND 💯👌❤️😘

1. True girlfriends are very jealous. If you are dating them, don't even flirt with another girl. (It hurts them a lot). ❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘

2. They act like they are very matured on the first outing. But once they are free with you, believe me, they will give you headache. (They do so because they trust you). ❤️😘❤️😘❤️

3. They don't need your money. Your sincerity to them matters a lot (that does not mean you won't buy something for them). ❤️😘❤️😘❤️

4. They get angry for every little reason. They just want to hear that word "I'm sorry "(it means a lot to them). ❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️

5. If they love you, they love you for real. But if they hate you, just forget it (go and download another love elsewhere). ❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️

6. They don't cheat (these ones are wife material, but very rare). ❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️

7. They Slay but they don't smoke, they drink alcohol little, they like clubbing little, once once.❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘

8. They have the heart of an egg, easily broken (so don't hurt them). ❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️

9. They help in planning your future with you because they want the best for you (marry them). ❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘

10. They love when you hug them, kiss them deeply and whisper to their ears "I LOVE YOU ".
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05/03/2024

Doctors of the heart:

Today's Advice, Must read! ❣️

Marry and stay with the person who understands you even things get complicated and give importance even on those smallest stuffs. Who will talk to you even he/she is busy and ask how's your day? Who will solve problems together with you, even they feel tired themselves. 😊❤️ Who will never forget to send you motivations, sweet, good morning and good night messages when you are having a bad day because they value more the other person more than themselves. Find and marry a partner who will love you unconditionally. Who will hold you in their arms, after a fight. Who'll wipe your tears away, and prove not all person are the same. The one who will prove you the word "Love" not just say it. And the one who will never leave, no matter how difficult things get. 💕 Because the truth is Efforts and Trust counts and they are very important to a relationship. Doesn't matter how big or small it is. The important thing is you know how to appreciate. 💛

Find someone who knows your flaws, imperfections and still chooses to love you. Help you throughout your problems, supports you in your hardest moments and ultimately help you win in life, and someone who will be proud for your achievements. ❤️ When sometimes you feel sad, they will find a way to make you happy and give you reason to continue when you feel down, hopeless or anxious. Get a person who will completely understands you. Without any judgement. Who will not argue with you, with no reason. They only argue with you, because they wanted to fix something and will fight for your relationship to make things right and to make it strong. 💪❤️

Love is a two-way street. You need communication. You both should be consistently giving efforts and working together as a team, like partners. Get a person who can accept your past, without regret believes in your future and will embrace you, for who you are today. Get someone who's willing to go through the very hardest to keep your relationship alive, who's not afraid to take necessary risks to be with you and will never ever take you for granted and no matter what happens, he/she will never leave you because they care about you so much.

To be honest. You really deserve the best things in life, you deserve the person who will not give up on you. You deserve someone who knows how to actually make up with you after making you feel bad. Not just saying sorry, but actually being matured enough and doing better the next time and fix the wrong things in the relationship. 💙

Get a person who will solve the existing problem right away, the one who won't waste time thinking a second thought because they don't want to lose you in a single argument because they really loved you.

"I must say, A woman can't change a man because she loves him. A man change himself because he loves her." Reality is there are no perfect relationships. All have imperfections, flaws and mistakes along the way. It's up to you, to make it a perfect one. Great relationships aren't great because they have no problems. They're great, because both persons care enough about the other person, to find a way to make it work. ❤️

So if you already found Him/Her now. Tag them if you want, and say, I love you and send them a short and quick message. Or just simply tell them. No need to flex you, God knows how much I love you. ❤️💕

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04/03/2024

HOW TO SURVIVE IN A LONG-DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE

The word survive is used because everyone's desire is to live within reach of their partner. But sometimes life gives you a good partner yet circumstance separates you physically. How do you cope?

1. TRUST EACH OTHER
Trust is the reason that will keep the fire burning. Trust is not just blindly given, show you are trustworthy by being open, having a record of dependability and honesty, keep your partner on the know, share details. Do things that make you your partner secure. Let your partner know of your schedules over there. Be predictable

2. DATE ALOT ON THE PHONE OR ONLINE
Unlike other more fortunate partners who get to meet each other so often to go on dates; make up for the lack or minimal frequency of physical connection by chatting and opening up with each other on the phone. This way, your fantasies and desire will remain directed towards your partner even though far apart. Let your cheeky and talkative ways come alive on the phone and online.

3. TALK ABOUT HOW IT HURTS
Share your feelings, say it when you feel low, pour your frustrations on each other brought about by the distance and walk together towards making it bearable.

4. HAVE A COMMON VISION
Define the future, where you two are heading to, talk alot about the future, the goal of why you are together, why you need each other; give each other a hope to hold on to.

5. COME UP WITH A TIME TABLE
You are distant from each other now but come up with a plan that will bring about a permanent solution where you two will finally be together for good. When there is no end in sight the heart gets tired of waiting for love to be within reach; but when a time frame is put, when the heart knows that the distance is only for 3 months, 6 months, a year, two years, that gives motivation to develop the love.

6. COMMUNICATE OFTEN
Use every available communication technology to warmly keep in touch as often as possible. Facebook, Twitter, Skype, Watsapp, Email, Text, Phonecall; don't let it be out of sight, out of mind, out in the cold.

7. PRAY TOGETHER
Loving someone far away from you is tough. Pray together, commit your love to God, it will make the pain easy to bear. You are not physically where your partner is but God is.

8. MAKE AMAZING MEMORIES
The few times you get to be together, make those moments so amazing that when you part, you will have good memories to keep you going as you look forward to meeting physically again to make new memories.

9. KEEP OFF TEMPTATIONS
In as much as you love that person, a vacuum is left by that person not being physically present. Guard yourself so that you don't turn to another to meet your emotional and physical needs. No one wants a partner far away, we all want our needs met here and now but long-distance relationships call for discipline, loyalty and commitment. Hang in there, your partner wishes to be near you, but for now just be patient, soon your needs in love will be adequately met.

10. GROW YOURSELF
Even as you wait for each other, life should not stall or stagnate. Don't feel bad and lonely to the point you forget you need to grow as an individual, before you grow as a couple. Take this time you are apart to build you just as your partner is far away advancing himself/ herself at work or study so that you two can have the best future.

Remember, love is not about how near or far you are to each other but having each other. Someone can be sleeping next to their spouse every night yet be unfaithful, another can be miles away and be faithful to their spouse. Each couple has their own journey, walk it together.

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02/03/2024

STRICTLY FOR LADIES
7 WAYS TO SPOT A WRONG GUY

1) Any guy who cannot delay gratification but wants everything from you even before marriage needs to be watched. He wants early s*x, undivided attention and adoration, he is all over you all the time and is extremely jealous, he disrespects your values in life and you opinion does not really count; he wants you to disconnect from your friends and family members and focus only on him. Such guy is a wrong guy!

2) Any guy who finds it difficult to be open or transparent to you and avoid talking about his past relationships, failures, financial challenges, emotional problems and is very good at concealing negative things about himself to make a good impression, must be re-assessed before you commit. Relationships cannot grow without transparency.

3) Any man who cannot take responsibility for his life but blames everyone for his challenges except himself is not worth your hand in marriage! He may also not take responsibility for his marriage!

4) A man who is a fault-finder and a perfectionist is difficult to please. In his world, there is no room for mistakes of any magnitude and if you make a mistake, be ready for harsh criticism. On the other hand, if he is good at messing up everything around him, unfortunately he could mess up your life too!

5) Never consider getting married to a lazy man who does not have a realistic vision for his life! A man who is going nowhere will lead his wife nowhere! A man's responsibility is to provide leadership and direction to his family! On the other hand, when a woman with vision marries a man without vision, she naturally becomes the leader of the home which will eventually lead to conflict or disorder! Believe me; it does not work out well in marriage!

6) Never marry a man who does not have a relationship with God unless you too do not have one. A man who loves and respect the Lord will love and respect you in obedience to the Lord!

7) Be mindful of a man who is hot tempered

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01/03/2024

To whom it may concern:
Before dating someone, please kindly verify if they are single or angry with their partners.

29/02/2024

WHEN DATING A WOMAN WHO IS AN ASSET, YOU GET TEXTS SUCH AS THESE!!

1. Morning Dear, hope you had a wonderful night. How are you today? Wake up and get ready for work. Don't forget to send your application for the job I told you about yesterday.

2. Yes Darling, I miss you so much, I hope you are enjoying your day, I am heading out for lunch. Talk later. Take care of yourself. Love you !

3.Yes dear I am at the shop doing grocery for the house, next time I am coming with you.

4. Don't put yourself under pressure my love, I know you will achieve your goal. You have my full support.

5. Don't forget to say your prayers by 9am, 12noon and 3pm. Remember our strength is in God. Call me when you are ready for the prayers so we pray together online.
6. Hello dear, are you back from work. How was your day. .. Hope it was not stressful?
7. Good evening dear, i just wanted to call to find out how your weekend is going.

WHEN DATING A WOMAN WHO IS A LIABILITY…

1. Morning babe, send me some airtime,
please bae.

2. Hello sweetheart, I am coming over for some
pizza over lunch? And someone is selling nice perfumes can I take one please. Love you xoxoxo much.

3. Hey handsome, buy me data please. Also wanted to tell you my neighbor is selling skinny jeans, nice shoes from USA and Brazilian hair. You will let me know when you are ready to get me these. Loving you lots.

4. My friends are doing their birthdays this weekend at Life power at two lane this Friday, We must attend all. Cancel all your appointments.

5. Baby, I don't feel like talking , can we chat please....

A reasonable guy will marry a lady that is an asset to him and not a liability. Guys are not stupid.

NOTE:
So, if you are wondering why guys are dumping you, please check yourself, You might be the reasons for your own misfortune.

No hard feelings…..

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29/02/2024

WHAT KIND OF A WOMAN ARE YOU TO YOUR MAN?

1. THE COMPLAINING TYPE
Are you constantly whinning and discontent? Do you make it so hard for your man to please you? Lady relax, you will never be happy in life if you pay more attention to what you lack than what you have

2. THE JEALOUS TYPE
Are you insecure, unsettled when your man works or even talks with female friends? Lady relax, your man is a good man that's why you chose him. He is your man. No other woman will take your place. Be secure as his queen

3. THE MOTHER TYPE
Are you treating your man like he is a boy? Telling him what to do, how to do it, and when to do it? Do you correct him as if you are disciplining a child? Do you touch him like a man or handle him like a boy? Lady, men love to be treated like grown men. Be a mother to your child but treat your man like a capable king

4. THE NEEDY TYPE
Are you too dependent and clingy? Do you choke your man with you demands, demanding your man to talk to you every 10 minutes despite you knowing he is genuinely busy? Do you suffocate your man in need of abnormal attention? Lady relax, don't push him to the edge

5. THE PUSHY TYPE
Are you living in tomorrow? Forcing your man to go to the next step when today is fresh. Are you the type to meet a new man and you are already pushing for love, then as soon as you start dating you push him to propose, then you quickly want marriage? Lady relax, you will miss out on the proper growth of love because of your haste. Love is a process not a race

6. THE TOUCHY TYPE
Are you the type who loves to touch, to hold hands, to have your hand on your man? If your man doesn't understand you he might find your touchiness too much. Hopefully the man you choose loves to be touched alot

7. THE VICTIM TYPE
Are you the lady who loves attention by dwelling on your problems, so that your man feels sorry for you? Do you find comfort in presenting yourself as the victim and how unfair the world is to you? Lady, this self-pity to gain attention is not healthy. You can't do this for long without your man feeling drained. Work on yourself

8. THE BOSSY TYPE
Do you give orders and commands, you never listen to your man, it always has to be your way? Lady, tame yourself; your man reads this as you being disrespectful

9. THE CHILDISH TYPE
It's wonderful to be fun and silly at times. But lady, look at your man's reaction to tell whether there are things you do that he finds too childish

10. THE SU***DE TYPE
Are you manipulative, daring that you will do something life threatening so that you armtwist your man? This is the quickest way to make your man want as little as possible to do with you. You have inner problems, deal with them

11. THE IRRATIONAL TYPE
Do you rush into making regrettable decisions. Is your tongue lose to speak words that you haven't thought through? Do you do things that you will not be proud of? Do you keep changing your mind making you look unstable? Lady, a man who loves you will love you despite this weakness. But work on being an emotionally stable woman who is patient and thinks things through. This will help you in love and in life

12. THE OVER-THINKING TYPE
Do you worry too much? Are you not at peace because of over-thinking? When your husband is making love to you, do your many thoughts keep you from enjoying your husband? When enjoying qualilty time with your man, does your mind wander going all over the place? Lady relax, over-thinking robs you the beauty of precious real-time moments

13. THE SUSPICIOUS TYPE
Are you treating your man like a criminal, quick to assume your man is cheating or doing wrong? Do you snoop on him, put him on the spot for no reason? Does your tone suggest you don't trust him. It hurts a man when his woman doesn't believe him

14. THE LOST TYPE
Do you lose yourself in the relationship/marriage, you have no drive, no vision? Are you es**rting your man in life and have nothing to live for on your own? Lady, find you. Your man doesn't want an es**rt or a rubber stamp, he wants an equal partner

15. THE PERFECT LOVER BUT PATHETIC FRIEND TYPE
You are good at doing things lovers do. You say romantic things, go out on dates, kiss; but you two are not true friends. You are not free with him, you would rather share your challenges and issues with another person. Lady, be not only lovers, be the best of friends

16. THE WAR-MONGERER TYPE
Are you combative, constantly looking for a fight? Lady relax, simmer down. Your man wants to be loved, not attacked

17. THE SECRETIVE TYPE
Do you keep things from your man because you think your man can't handle it or because you fear your man won't love you if he knows? Trust your man, open up

18. THE EXTREME FEMINIST TYPE
Feminism is a good thing, but have you abused it? Have you concluded in your heart that men are the enemy, that this a gender war? This negative attitude will cause you to want to prove ponts and drive your man away. Lady relax, allow yourself to receive some masculine love as you give your feminine love

19. THE I AM ALWAYS RIGHT TYPE
Do you always have to win? Do you stop at nothing to show how your way is best? Lady relax, love is about talking things out, listening, compromising and making joint decisions

20. THE LOVING TYPE
This is the type every man needs. A woman who is dependable, caring, secure, thoughtful, mature, giving, nurturing, challenging. She brings out the best in her man. Lady, keep loving him like you do.
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28/02/2024

5 REASONS A WOMAN GETS ATTACHED TO A MAN AFTER S*X.

1. Women naively believe what they hear.

The way to a woman is through her ears. For a man to sleep with a woman, he says what the woman wants to hear:

“You are the most beautiful woman I’ve ever met. You are so smart, focused and intelligent.”
This way, she doesn’t feel like he’s taking her for a fool. And whoops, she falls to his trap!

2. Women believe in love.

Outside marriage, men are just cheaters (irresponsible men). For men, there’s no love gained or lost. After s*x, a man walks away with zero feelings. The game is over. She’s left confused and wounded. Women don’t easily slow down after intimacy.

3. Women are more emotional by nature.

The woman’s body releases volumes of oxytocin during intimacy. This is the hormone responsible for bonding. She naturally gets emotionally attached to the man she slept with. And the more time he takes with her, the more attached she becomes.

4. Women are nurturers by nature.

Women unconsciously nurture relationships the same way they nurture babies. Women foster and nourish whatever comes their way including grownup men.

5. S*x for women is an act of submission.

When a woman sleeps with a man, she totally trusts him. In s*x, a woman surrenders her life, will and body to the man to do with her as he wishes. That’s why women get broken to pieces when relationships break down.

Remember: Pre-marital s*x is rampant anywhere especially in the younger generation, S*x is a part of their exploration of happiness with the opposite s*x..Many single mothers who experience of s*x without Love. Then later on they will realize the bad effects and result being pregnant. I hope and pray to all our young generation to put S*x as a Sacred Acts of Marriage..And not in a way of amusement. God bless us all.

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