Communication IN Marriage

05/10/2023

ADVICE TO ALL MARRIED MEN...✍✔

1. If you value your health and you want to live long and have a happy home, let your wife always win an argument. Trust me, it's the shortcut I know to peace of mind! Where there is no wood (fuel), the fire goes out!

2. Stop trying to figure out your wife or understand why she does what she does. It's a waste of precious time. Remember that you (Adam) were put to sleep while she (Eve) was being produced? How can you try to understand an equipment that wasn't assembled in your presence?

3. Marriage is about ACCEPTANCE, not tolerance. Make your marriage relationship-driven, not performance-driven. She was NOT created in your image. Stop projecting YOU into her. Show her the need for change through leadership, not coercion.

4. While a man is rational, the woman is emotional. One (the man) processes via his head, the other processes things through her heart (emotions). One thinks things through, the other feels her way through things. Facts drive you. Intuition drives her. What she can't FEEL, she doesn't SEE!

5. When s*x becomes a weapon, a duty or an entitlement, it loses its very essence, LOVE-MAKING. It simply becomes another chore like dish-washing which nobody looks forward to doing! Play with her. Flirt with her. Serenade her. Hug. Cuddle. Hold hands. Surprise her. Blow gently into her ears while she is cooking or while you are watching a movie together. Be spontaneous. Being a king-kong overlord in "ze oza room" and puffing and panting like a worn-out locomotive while she wonders what just happened can only lead to frustration. Remember, it is never about the size of the weapon but the fury of the attack! (Decode that!)

6. Go out often. Make regular, unscheduled date nights. Take a bath together. Make room for movie nights together either at home or at the cinema.

7. Remember that ONLY THE TWO OF YOU started the journey together and when the children have jumped the nest, only the two of you will remain. So, keep the bond ALL THE WAY and never drop the ball

8. Impregnate her with VISION. Allow her to dream too. Every woman loves a man working towards a future in which she can feature. Remember, woman simply means "womb man". She always wants something to incubate and nourish. You give her a seed, she incubates it and turns it to a baby for you

9. She is your wife, a companion and confidant, not a washing machine, cook or slave. You can't wear her out with chores all day and expect to 'ride' a functional "bicycle" all night! Impossible! Partners help partners by giving a helping hand where needed, even without being told.

10. Love is not 50/50. It is 100%. God didn't say to love your wife when she is submissive. It simply says love her as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her.

11. Be PRESENT. Don't be at home married to your computer, football game or your phone for that matter. Listen when she wants to talk. Even when you don't know what to contribute to the discourse, you will soon discover that all she wanted was for you to listen. Your opinion may not even count!

12. If both of you are born again children of God, you are actually SIBLINGS!!! You have the same Father and the same Father-in-law, GOD!!! Ever thought of that? Treat your wife with the dignity you would accord your blood sister. If you are fond of disgracing your wife in public and calling her all sorts of unprintable names, remember, it wasn't God who named EVE. He created a woman, Adam gave her a name. Whatever you call your wife, that is what she will reflect to you. If you call your wife a Jezebel, we need to check if your middle name isn't Ahab! Call her your Queen and she will make you her crown! It takes one to find one! When you see the glory of your Father in her, you will be a great Son-in-law too! A wife you don't honour cannot bring honour to you too.

MAY YOUR HOMES REFLECT THE MIND OF GOD

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The presence of God will journey with us through the year 2023 in Jesus name. HNY

17/12/2022

BIG SECRETS IN MARRIAGE!

Secret 1

Everyone you marry has a weakness. Only God does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of his strength.

Secret 2

Everyone has a dark history. No one is an angel. When you get married or you want to get married stop digging into someone's past. What matters most is the present life of your partner. Old things have passed away. Forgive and forget. Focus on the present and the future.

Secret 3

Every marriage has its own challenges. Marriage is not a bed of roses. Every good marriage has gone through its own test of blazing fire. True love proves in times of challenges. Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow For better for worse. In sickness and in health be there.

Secret 4

Every marriage has different levels of success. Don't compare your marriage with any one else. We can never be equal. Some will be far, some behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time your marriage dreams shall come true.

Secret 5

To get married is declaring war. When you get married you must declare war against enemies of marriage. Some enemies of marriage are:
Ignorance
Prayerlessness
Unforgiveness
Third party influence
Stinginess
Stubbornness
Lack of love
Rudeness
Laziness
Disrespect
Cheating
Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone.

Secret 6

There is no perfect marriage. There is no ready made marriage. Marriage is hard work. Volunteer yourself to work daily on it. Marriage is like a car that needs proper maintenance and proper service. If this is not done it will break down somewhere exposing the owner to danger or some unhealthy circumstances. Let us not be careless about our marriages.

Secret 7

God cannot give you a complete person you desire. He gives you the person in the form of raw materials in order for you to mould the person that you desire. This can only be achieved through prayer, love and Patience

Secret 8

Getting married is taking a huge risk. You can not predict what will happen in the future. Situations may change so leave room for adjustments. Husband can lose his good job or you may fail to have babies. All these require you to be prayerful otherwise you might divorce.

Secret 9

Marriage is not a contract. It is permanent. It needs total commitment. Love is the glue that sticks the couple together. Divorce start in the mind and the devil feeds the mind. Never ever entertain thoughts of getting a divorce. Never threaten your spouse with divorce. Choose to remain married. God hates divorce.

Secret 10

Every marriage has a price to pay. Marriage is like a bank account. It is the money that you deposit that you withdraw. If you don't deposit love, peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate for a blissful home.

So today let us pray for our marriages. Send to those you care about because you never know who you may be helping.
May God bless you all.

26/09/2022

FOR ALL MARRIED COUPLES ~

I told my wife to follow me to somewhere and I drove off to SPAR on azikiwe road. I did not even tell her that we are going to SPAR When we got there, she exploded

"Do you have money? What are we doing here? I said "just follow me and pick anything you want."

Right inside SPAR, I picked a cart and wheeled it behind her. "Pick anything you want baby."

See women o! Na so she dey pick, pick, pick.
The cart was full. Then she picked her own cart too, and in minutes, her cart was full too. I picked the bill, almost N86,000. As we were going out of the mall, something struck her ... "You did not buy yourself anything! she wondered" "Ah, I have no cash left i said. Let us go home ..."

"No, I have some money she said. Let's go back and pick what you want. So we went back. My wife picked a bill of N42k for me alone.

Now, you know I never knew my wife had money on her? But she brought it out and spent it on me because I had impressed her. My man, Impress your wife, she will spring surprises on you.

Now look at this again: when I scrutinised all we bought with my N86k, hardly was there anything strictly for her. Almost everything we bought were things we used at home and for the children. But when it was her turn to buy for me, I bought things for MYSELF! Shaving cream, boxers, stockings, slippers, DVDs, singlets, my kind of wine, (understand?) etc. Things me alone use!

It taught me a great lesson:

Most women are good. Most women are not greedy when they are in love. All they want is show them you love them, and they will surprise you.

May the Lord bless your family

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