19/02/2022
*CHARACTER ASSASSINATION.*
One mistake you should never make in life, is to allow yourself to be recruited by someone, to hate another person who hasn't wronged you.
Hear this: We must avoid taking hasty conclusion because of what others are saying about someone else.
What people say about others, says a lot about them. I am repeating this more directly: The things you say about others, says a lot about you. I can tell a lot about a person by what they choose to see in others. Character assassination is a pervasive and destructive phenomenon that is found everywhere. You find it in families, places of worship, organizations or work places, etc.
Character assassination is the deliberate, malicious, unjustified and sustained effort to damage the reputation or credibility of an individual or group. Character assassination is the slandering of a person or group usually with the intention of destroying public confidence in that person or group.
âCharacter Assassinationâ is the act of lowering oneâs character in a bid to ruin the character of others. There are people that take maximum delight in ruining other's reputation.These set of people have what I will like to call *âDestructive Tendenciesâ.* They oil their own ego by pulling other people down. PhD (pull him down).
False allegations are the most chronic form of mental abuse, When people canât kill your dreams and purpose, they will try to assassinate your character.There are some people that your spirit will always irritate their demons! Once they realize hating isnât working they start telling and spreading lies about you. *People are assassinated once but âCharacter Assassinationâ kills daily!* Character assassination is a form of emotional violence against others.
Someone once said, âA friend of my enemy is my enemy.â One of the things that hinders us from living a fulfilling and inclusive life is bringing past bias and sentiments into present relationships. A friend of your enemy is not necessarily your enemy; it all depends on intentions and contributions. God can use your enemyâs friend to bless you.
The 7 critical *âDONâTs* you really need to guard yourself against. Refusing to getting trapped in them will help you live an unbiased, productive and a fulfilled life and they are;
1.*Donât draw conclusions about people for reasons others say of them:* Never draw up conclusions based on what others tell you about someone. It is a lack of social intelligence that makes people draw conclusions on others based on what other people say about them. I know youâve heard about emotional and financial intelligence, but there is something called social intelligence.This is the kind of intelligence that keeps you sane even when others are trying to pollute your mind against someone else until you have thoroughly confirmed the veracity of the claims before you. Judges are trained to have this kind of intelligence in order to avoid biased judgments.
2.*Donât inherit other peopleâs enemy.* It is total lack of education and enlightenment when you automatically make your friendâs enemies your own.Donât make people your enemies just because they are not in good terms with your friends.
3.*Donât use your children as weapons of war: (especially against ur spouse and family members).*
God can use your enemies to bless your children Stop using them to fight those you donât like. Your children will need to discern their enemies for themselves; never use your parental influence to make your children hate others. You may often need to guard them with their choice of friends but never plant the seed of discord in the heart of your children against someone else.
4. *Donât gang up with others to hate someone:* Donât join the majority to hate someone, you may realize that the person has no offence. Someone said, âIf you donât see it with your own eyes, or hear it with your own ears. Donât invent it with your small mind and share it with your big mouthâ. Never join the multitude to hate someone else.
5. *Donât be used as weapon in other peopleâs battle:* It is not every battle that you must involve yourself in. Refuse to be used as weapons in other peopleâs battle.When people fight dirty,refuse to take sides.Observe deeply before concluding finally.
6.*Donât hate people just because they donât behave like you.* That someone is not your tribe doesnât make them your enemy. It is a waste of education if the only people you like are those that are like you. The greatest proof of our education is in how we respond to people whose opinions are different from ours. People who think their opinions are superior to others are most prone to overestimating their relevant knowledge and ignoring chances to learn more.
The people who donât think like you are your greatest source of enlightenment. It is normally people that are not like us that help us grow the most. Companies that had maximized growth are really those that value diversity and inclusion.
7. *Donât judge people until you know the whole story:* Someone once said, âBeware of the half-truth. You may have gotten hold of the wrong halfâ. Donât judge other peopleâs choices without understanding their reasons.
If people say something bad about you or judge you as if they know you, donât easily get affected. Remember this, dogs bark if they donât know the person. People who are intimidated by you talk about you with hopes that others wonât find you so appealing.
Stay away from people who talk bad about others daily; these kind of people carry a negative spirit, and a negative spirit is contagious.The real problem is not that they are unhappy about others, but they are unhappy with themselves.
*Stop the destructive habit of talking about people behind their back.* Talking badly about someone else while they arenât there to defend themselves says more about you than the person youâre talking about. When you have issues with people, try and discuss it with them. Stop discussing it with others. Someone once said, âDonât talk about me until you have talked to meâ. Stop spreading false information and rumours about others.
*Rumours are carried by haters, spread by fools and accepted by idiots!* Stop creating walls of contention, rather help build bridges of understanding among people.
You will get there.
*WISDOM FOR A LIFE OF LEADERSHIP!!!*
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