05/10/2023
How To Make Your Wife Happy: A Talk!, (2)
(Continued)
"Have it in mind, simple domestic habits make a woman happy!"
Express your love for her! Don’t just love her and believe that she knows! Say the magic words as often as possible. Say it and mean it! Surprise her with this statement most especially when she least expects it. The sentence, ‘I love you’ makes every woman blush with joy and happiness. Say it and you’ll see her face glow!
Build your wife give her wings to fly. Build her so she can earn her own money her own integrity. Add value to her. Encourage her to be a better version of herself. She will love you for it. Don’t use, on her, sarcasms that will bring her spirits down. Don’t talk her down in public. Hey, she is your wife! The way you treat her in public, will determine the level of respect people accord her. This will in turn determine the way people you you. Happiness cannot exist when you belittle your wife.
Go on holidays with her. If you can afford taking her on trips do it. Find opportunities to be alone with her. Send the children to neighbors and relatives, so you both both can have some privacy moments both at home and outdoors. Be creative with what you do with the time. Make it memorable for her. If you can afford, it take her to a five star resort. Give her the treatment that some men think is only deserving of a ‘side chic.’ Your wife is more than a ‘side chic!’ She is the one you come back to always!
Give her some space! Yeah, you read it correctly! Being with her always may sound romantic and attractive, but then , there are moments that your wife will want to be alone and think about life about you and the children. She may want to meditate on how to improve the home front! She may even be stressed out! Encourage her to go on lone walks spend lone moment or leave house chores and do other things. Believe me, your wife is a busy woman. She combines office or outside work with ensuring that the home front does not suffer! Even if she is a full ‘house wife,’ trust me, it is not less hectic! Encourage her to visit the salon, groom herself, be with ‘the girls’. She’ll love you for that concern. When she is away endeavor to fill the gap. Do the chores. Cover for her. When she comes back you’ll see how happy and relax she’ll be with you. Being with you always, may become suffocating, she is human, let her have her moments of personal meditation and rumination.
Look good for her. This relate to personal grooming. If your wife has a trend that catches her fancy, indulge her. Do it for her. If she has something for ‘body-hugs,’ wear it for her sake. Don’t tell her you don’t like it . It is is your wife’s happiness we are talking about here. If you noticed that she fancies a particular celebrity. Don’t be jealous. Instead, study what she fancies about him . Replicate it and you’ll see how the effort will make her happy.
Don’t let your wife go hungry. Even when she is not hungry prepare special meals for her. If you can’t prepare it buy it and warm it for her take your time to serve her feed her and you’ll have yourself a happy wife. Don’t underestimate the importance of food in marriage. When food is lacking there can not be peace in the home. The wife would not be happy. Many a women go through mood swings, and, they don’t know why! Some would even tell you that at particular periods of the month (every month, for that matter,) they develop food cravings! Don’t quarrel with yours for this. Indulge your wife. Get her favorite meals or snacks for her. You’ll hear her voice sing as she nibbles on the food! Nothing balances mood swings like food!
Men, ensure your barns are never empty. If you can’t afford a barn, no problem. Have box of chocolates, packets of biscuits, sachet of sweets, candies, whatever you can afford handy! Pop one into her mouth on occasions as you kiss her. Your wife will be happy for it!
Food is essential, broh! Be romantic and caring. Serve your wife on bed you’ll see the sincere smile that will greet you. Broh, when next she is angry, be creative introduce a sumptuous meal. In no time, you two will be a happy couple again! Funny! This does not have to be every time. Come to think of it who is in charge of the kitchen. Surely going there once in a while will not burn you, brother!
Be faithful to your. Don’t let her feel unloved or unappreciated. Don’t let her feel there is a better woman outside for you. Extol her in words and actions both online and offline. Keep your chats online clean and not implicative. I always wonder at some men referring to their wives as ‘my woman?’ Any stranger can be your woman but it takes a lot more for a woman to be your wife. Respect that ‘a lot more!’ Let her be proud of you! Be genuine! Don’t go looking at other women or ogling other women, even if you don’t have lust for them. Don’t even try it at her presence. It is a slight on her. It will make people disrespect her. Whichever way it happened, it will kill her joy when she knows. If she confronts you with such allegations, apologize and intentionally flee from such fantasies. She will be happy with you for the effort. Even in your thoughts be true to her. Your faithfulness will manifest outwardly. Doing this will make her not to feel threatened, even, when you’re flocked by girls or ladies, (may in the line of your job.)
A man should know his wife’s desires and wants to the minutest detail! This is a person that you share maximum intimacy with! You should know the temperature at which, she likes her coffee! Does she like groundnuts crisp or she likes them slightly soggy? What can easily change her mood!
Don’t wait for her to request deliver at the appropriate time. Study her to know her detail desires. That depth of knowledge will enthrall her and make her happy.
Think about her as often as possible let her know she is on your mind. Call her send her messages send people to her. By all means possible, ensure you make her know she is on your mind. Send her messages on Facebook Tick Tock, and whatever. Ask for her photograph at the moment. Request for dates. Send her video messages sing for her. Be romantic. Women love romance. Your wife is of them! Continue toasting her after ten years, or even, twenty years in marriage! Let her know that she is the only option of a lover for you. Not one in a million (whatever that means.) Invite her to your office. Pay visits to her. Don’t be shy let people know she is your ‘girlfriend!’ Don’t allow other men ‘toast’ her more than you do. That could be dangerous! If you fall into forgetfulness, set alarm for this routine. change the timing weekly, so to have a feel of spontaneity!
Make her your priority! Don’t make her the last option in your affairs. Consider her opinion seek her advice on matters. After all, you deemed her best for you. That is why you married her, Innit? Seek her counsel, before, you seek counselling from another. When you are with her put your phones aside. If need be request permission from her to resume with your phones! This will make her feel she is your priority and that you respect her! Making her your priority will make it obvious to the world that you cherish and respect her. She will be respected, or even, envied by other women. Of course she’ll be happy for it!
Provide for your wife. The more you provide for your wife, the happier she is. Don’t let her lack anything. Let her know that it is from the little you have that you provide for her. Even if she earns her money or she earns more than you. Look for means of providing for her. I assure you her money may be sweet but yours is, always, sweeter and magical! Don’t default, that is the mind of a woman. Your money makes her happier. This is reason why some women hand over their paycheck to their husbands for disposal. Such wives want the husband to be the man of the house and even outside! If you don’t earn much and she earns nothing hand over all your pay to her. She is designed by nature to be a better manager of the home. Respect that arrangement and you’ll have a happy life with a happy wife!
To be continued…!
©Umoru Haruna.
05. 10. 2023.
Auchi.
