08/02/2024
There is this thing that is prevalent among some people in this particular geographic region. Most mothers from that side will always frown at the idea of their son getting married to a lady that is not from their state. No matter how good the lady is, no matter her excellent human qualities, they always cringe whenever they hear that their son wants to marry outside their state of origin.
The young men who go on to marry the women of their choice, despite their mother's insistence are often seen as betrayers. This attitude has ruined a lot of happy relationships. It's not as if the lady has done anything bad to them, but simply because she hails from a state different from theirs. I usually hear of such things, but I have never seen someone that it happened to untill this lady I met recently shared her experience with me.
She said that her elder brother was dating a girl in their street. Their mum knows the girl and her parents, but she never took their relationship serious. Months turned into years, and her brother's business began to flourish. Her brother paid her fees in the university where she studied nursing, with a promise to send her out of the country for further studies.
The brother's girlfriend also graduated and went for her youth service. It was during her service year that he made his intentions known to their mum that he wants to marry his long time girlfriend. To his surprise, their mother refused, insisting that he must marry from their village or their state. All efforts to get their mother to give her consent did not yield any result.
Their mother succeeded in getting her to her own side, and they began to fight the innocent girl. Same girl that they have known for over eight years. The brother warned her never to join their mother in fighting her girlfriend, but she refused. They are just two siblings in the family, their father diéd several years ago. The brother talked, begged and even pleaded with their relatives and some church members to talk to their mum, but the woman kept insisting that she will never accept that girl in their family.
The girl decided to break up with the guy since the family doesn't want her, but the guy refused. Instead, he went with a few family members and paid the girl's bride price, did a low-key traditional marriage and took his wife home.
When their mother heard of it, she said that over her deåd body will she bring that girl to her house, but the guy had other plans. He quietly bought a house in another city and moved his family there.
He sent food items and clothing materials via a friend to their mum, but she rejected it, telling their friend to take it back to whomever that sent him. The worse was that she blindly joined her mother to fight his wife.
When his wife gave birth to a set of twins, he bought her a Lexus jeep. His brother has equally cut her off, but she gets to see their progress from the Whatsapp status of some of their mutual friends.
Now, the brother's wife is in the UK for her Masters, and that was when the pain hit her the most. She would have been abroad now for her Masters too, but because she joined her mother to fight a useless war, her brother has left her behind.
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It has been over six years now, and her brother has not even visited them. Their mother is getting older, but that stubbornness is still in her. Life is no longer as rosy as it used to be when her brother was funding their home. She has tried several times to reach out to his brother, but he gave her a condition which he said that the way their mum convinced her to hate on his wife, she should go back and convince their mum to accept his wife. She has tried several times to beg their mum to bury the hatchet so that their lives can get better again, but their mother has become an adamant principality. She can not even reach the girl's family because they've long moved out of that neighborhood.
I told her to find a way to get their relatives to beg her brother on her behalf since Mama said that over her deåd body will she accept his son's wife, but she said that he doesn't even know where his brother currently lives.
I told her to act fast because if anything happens to their mother today, she will be all alone in this world. Her mother has lived her life, and is trying so hard to frustrate their own lives.
Imagine having a wealthy and generous brother who is ready to support you in life, but you are letting all that to slip away because your mother does not like his wife.
Tueh!
Even if you know book, try add sense and wisdom to your knowledge. No be everything you go dey fight.
Ladies, no matter how you love a man and his family does not want you, do not enter the marriage blindly. Everyone may not be as lucky as the wife of this man who chose his wife over and over again.
A word is enough for the wise!
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8th February 2024
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