09/09/2024
Dear Bachelor
4 ASPECTS OF A LADY YOU SHOULD NOT TRY TO FORCEFULLY CHANGE.
1) HER NATURE
There are different type of ladies out there, chatty ones, quiet ones, extroverts, introverts, fashinoistas, etc.
Each unique and beautiful in her own way.
Your Job isn't to pick any lady and then change her into the type of person you like, your job is to pick a lady that is already the way you like them to be, or even if she isn't, you can accept her that way, that's the first Test of Love and compatibility..
Accepting someone the way they are, not the way they can be. Relationship isn't a Project.
2) HER PASSION
The things that give her Satisfaction and Fulfillment. Her passions and hobbies.
Maybe she loves Art, or Music, or Writing, Outings, you are not to come into her life and shut that aspect of her down. You'll take away things that give her Joy.
In fact you are to encourage her to pursue her dreams and passions..
Not the other way round.
3) HER DRESSING
Any lady you like, look at the way she dresses currently, if you are not okay with it, let her be.
If you really must date her, and you think her dressing needs to change, take it slow and steady.
You saw her wearing trousers with makeup before you proposed didn't you?
Let her change in dressing come from her..
Don't just come and start barking orders, that's not going to go down well with her, you'll end up calling her stubborn and proud, when she's not..
Let it be Her decision, and till that happens, love her laidat, or leave her alone laidat.
4) HER LOOKS
Sir, don't force a lady into ulcer because you like them slim, were you blind before you proposed?
You saw her slim, you now came, and you keep shouting on her to eat seven times a day to gain weight, because you like them chubby, continue oh, is like your village people are playing with your settings.
You saw her shape, breasts, stomach, and all, the way it is, you came and you are complaining, that why can't she be b***y like Jane, curvy like Amara, have flat stomach like Ruth, my fren, is like you have spiritual problem.
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Dear Bachelor
Your Job isn't to Change Her.
Your Job is to Love her.
Your love for her will inspire the change where necessary and where possible.
Trying to forcefully change a lady may cause you the relationship completely, or cause problems in it, or push her into losing her self esteem, and getting into depression.
(c) Musa Gift
