Just love

28/06/2024

31/05/2024

People do not necessarily change much after Marriage, they only just begin to reveal much.

Most of that "new behavior" was either;

✔️ Intentionally hidden from us before,
or

✔️ Shown/Revealed to us but we chose to ignore based on silly mantras like "love Is blind." and "they will change"
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So
1) PRAY WELL

For hidden things to be exposed by He that sees beyond just actions and mere smiles,
Pray so He that searches the motives and content of the hearts of Men can guide you.

2)WATCH WELL.

So you don't overlook what you shouldn't

Don't just be licking ice-cream and be buying rose flower, boxers and singlet for each other.

Open your eyes, don't allow pressure from family and friends, and your desperation to be MARRIED make you blind.

Don't make unnecessary excuses for visible red flags, and clear character defects.

Don't ignore the anger issues you see

Don't laugh over the display of immaturity

Marriage Is not a hundred meter race,

You can afford to carry someone heavier then you for say 5 minutes, but after 50 minutes you will understand why you were being told to carry your size, for the journey is far and great.

WATCH N' PRAY BEFORE YOU SAY I DO.

A great Marriage is Possible.

The very first and most important Step,

Make the Right Choice.

17/05/2024

Dear Husband/Husband-to-be.

She may not know everything, but one thing you should never take for granted is her counsel concerning Women.

She's a Woman..

She knows Women better than you.

A Woman knows when another Woman likes a Man.

She's telling you about your secretary and the way your secretary looks at you, calls your name, runs around you, don't be in a hurry to call her a jealous girlfriend, fiance or wife.

Before you even discern it, she has smelt it from a mile away.

She sees how a particular lady likes to draw close to you, is offering you voluntary assistance and financial support, to you its just a kind gesture, but her Woman intuition and senses tell her more.

Your Boss is suddenly promoting you, increasing your salary, asking you to spend hours with her after the close of work, go on business trips with her.

A Neighbors Wife Is becoming extra nice to you and always visiting.

Her intuition tells her there's more.

For your own good, if you love and respect her and value your Relationship/Marriage, don't just trash her warning.

LISTEN TO HER

At least, take some steps to show to her and to the other lady where you stand and where your loyalty dwells just to be on the safe side.

"I don't know how it happened" will be unnecessary when you were warned in advance. Not all damages easily get repaired by "I'm Sorry"

03/05/2024

EMOTIONAL DISTANCING

DON'T BE HIS/HER BESTIE IF:

1) THEY ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP/MARRIED

You call them, check on them, go on outings and dates with them in the absence of their partner, somebody that is in a Relationship/Married oh, You've simply being employed as side chic/guy without your knowledge

He or she is using you to kill boredom, and satisfy their emotions when the main person is acting up, or not around, that's an emotional affair on their part.

They have turned you into their Comforter, when you're not the Holy Spirit. Run oh.

2) THEY HAVE SHOWN THEY HAVE NO FEELINGS FOR YOU.

So they have shown they have no interest in you as a lover, even said so, yet they are still calling you their bestie, enjoying it as you carry out best friend duties, whereas you are dying inside from your desire for them, ignoring suitors all because their calling you their bestie is giving you hope,

OR you are the one gunning for the bestie position, hoping that by the time they see your capabilities as bestie, they will change their mind, oshei, you are simply writing a Letter of Application for Admission into the University of Heartbreak.

Respect yourself, carry your heart and emotions and go, maintain the friendship, but do so with BOUNDARIES to protect your heart.

3) YOU BOTH HAVE FEELINGS FOR EACH OTHER BUT THEY ARE WITH SOMEONE ELSE.

You will end up with "it was the devil"

"I don't know what came over me"

"We didn't mean to"

Don't keep yam and goat in the same room..

You will end up with a well fed goat and a missing yam.
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Protect your Heart from emotional misuse and abuse.

Because if you don't, who will?

02/05/2024

It will soon be ur potion🙏

01/05/2024

I come back this evening

A look at my Wife's face and I know this one needs rescuing.

She's been home all day with Jason and I can tell he has worn her out completely, physically and mentally. Nothing is remaining.

Her face and her voice say it all.

She soon baths him and hands him over to me to get him dressed. It's now my shift.

I get him dried up, into his pampers, in bed and ready for sleep.

I switch on his solar fan, hoping he falls asleep so I can get back to other things I have to do tonight.

Let mummy rest, her voice has even improved since I separated Jason from her.

She's in the kitchen now making jokes at me. Imagine. (Na why dem no dey help person be dis.)

The problem now is that the boy has refused to sleep.

He's dragging my phone with me.

He's using charger head to knock me on the head.

Now he's dragging the wire of the solar fan and my power bank cord, happily shouting gibberish that I can't interpret at me, oga sleep na.

Kai.

Parenthood is not for the faint hearted..

Laidis so, I too need rescuing...

28/04/2024

WHAT WOMEN NEED TO KNOW ABOUT MEN:

1. Men don't read minds. If you want him to know you and what's on your mind, tell him

2. A man loves it when his woman brags about him

3. A man hates it when things he shares with his woman are told to her girlfriends as juicy gossip

4. The number one thing a man finds s*xy is her heart, the man serious about love might look at a woman with a gorgeous body but he only chases after and keeps the one with a good heart

5. Men don't think about s*x all the time. It means alot to him to have a woman he can talk to deep and intelligent stuff. His need for s*xual stimulation is high and scattered, but his need for mental stimulation is constant

6. The easiest way to keep him from spending too much time with his friends at the expense of you, is to make sure being with you is more fun, more intelligently stimulating, more stress-free than being with his friends

7. Every good man loves his woman more than his friends, but if he spends more time with his friends it's to escape the stress he gets when with her

8. The more you nag, the more he will avoid you

9. Men want to express their feelings, but will only do so when they feel safe. How much he lets you be there for him depends on how much he thinks you can handle his issues

10. Don't fight his favourite past time, embrace it. If he loves football, watch matches with him or buy him a jersey. If he loves to swim, swim with him or just check him out as you chill by the pool. If he loves to dance, dance with him even if you are not a pro. The more you do things with him, the more he will value your company, the more he will in return learn to like or accommodate what you like

11. No matter what happens in your marriage, make sure your s*x-life doesn't suffer. Don't ever use s*x as a weapon to attack him or punish him

12. If he truly loves you, he will still find you s*xy whether you gain or lose weight. The thing is always know how to dress and look s*xy no matter your size;

28/04/2024

"A real woman will never be ashamed of her husband job" is what I stole from Triple As timeline

However my question and concern has always been..

Why are Nigerians abroad always hiding their job?

Or maybe why don't they talk about how they do 2 or 3 Jobs for survival and how it's tedious to do so.

Maybe if our people at home understand that the abroadians are not just picking and scrapping money on the street of London and US.

Maybe the craze for travelling by crook and hook will reduce

Maybe we will be contented with taking up the job offer here and doing it diligently instead of crossing the Jordan through Libya

Maybe we will get to understand that the land is greener on the other side because someone is watering it

Maybe we will stop calling you stingy abroadians when we understand the stress involve in earning your pay

Maybe we will understand we can build a better society by installing and having a system

27/04/2024

IN A RELATIONSHIP/ MARRIED?
DO THESE TO AVOID STORIES THAT TOUCH

1) GIVE YOUR EX HOLY SPACE

Especially the Ex that still loves You.

To Avoid "I don't know how it happened?"

Thw ex that keeps sending you flirty messages, showing up where you are, when your partner is not around.

He or she will tell you different things.

"I just want us to hang out, nothing will happen". Lori Iro

"I won't bite, just a peck, for old times sake". Lori Iro

Run oh....

Before your X becomes Y your Relationship or Marriage crashed.

2) AVOID "BESTIE" OF THE OPPOSITE GENDER OTHER THAN YOUR PARTNER

Your Partner is alive, breathing and kicking, you're doing bestie with somebody else from the opposite gender, your Fiance/fiancee/Husband/Wife is not bestie material?

You are looking for trouble.

"He's just my Prayer Partner." Oshei oh,

Prayer Partner kor, Black Panther ni

"She's just my Confidant".

"We are just hangout buddies."

Egungun be kaiful.. Express is not far oh.

3) DON'T ALLOW YOUR HEART CATCH FEELINGS.

The moment you notice that you are getting attracted physically/S*xually/emotionally to someone else other than your partner,

You can't wait to see them, hear them, hang out with them, touch them and vice versa, Withdraw from such an individual.. Before your Relationship/Marriage will withdraw from you.

24/04/2024

4 REASONS WHY MEN FIND IT HARD TO FORGIVE CHEATING.

1. A man understands that $ex for women is never physical, but emotional. Cheating to them it's a sign they are no longer in love.

2. A man instinctively understands that a cheating partner is a murder weapon. And when instigated, could kill him to elope with her new lover.

3. A woman becomes disrespectful once she starts cheating on her man. The disrespect eventually pushes the maan away.

4. A man understands that a cheating wife could compromise his children by giving him kids belonging to another man.
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22/04/2024

As a lady with high and mighty visions like me, don't marry 'anyhow' man.

Don't marry a man with a poor or local mindset.

Don't marry a man that is happy with one level.

Don't marry a man who believes that women don't know anything.

Don't marry an insecure man who feels threatened by your success.

More so, if you are a choleric, action oriented and fireful lady like me, get a man who can handle your fire.

Such men are not many.

If you make mistake in this area, you'll end up frustrated.

There are men who can live in one room with eight kids, but they're not moved. They are very comfortable.

Let me not go there.

Whatever you see me do, a good man is backing me behind the scenes.

A good man that speaks words of encouragement to me when I feel like giving up.

A good man that is happy to see me shine, and he doesn't feel threatened.

God bless all the good men that support their wives dreams and ambitions

22/04/2024

. 3 SURPRISES THAT CAN HAPPEN IN TIME AFTER MARRIAGE THAT YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT.

1) CHANGE IN APPEARANCE

This is why it is advised to marry a Person not primarily for their looks.

Marry for a Person's Soul too, not only for their Body.

Because looks can become SLIGHTLY altered along the way

6 packs can become 60

Lepka can become Orobo after child birth

Orobo can lose weight and become lepka..

Smooth skin can suddenly develop stretch marks.

That High and Mighty standing Body Part you so cherish about that person can become Low and Humble

Come what may, come determined and prepared to love him/her Forever. It's a decision.

2) CHANGE IN CAREER

"I must marry Nurse"

"I must marry Lawyer"

I'm sure you know that a person can wake up one day, feel depressed/unfulfilled by their current career path, resign and decide to change career paths.

If this happens, be willing to support your Partner in their new pursuit, as long as it's not armed robbery.. Be a supportive Partner.

Don't marry someone primarily because of their occupation.

3) A CALL TO MINISTRY

"I will never marry a Pastor"

You now marry Usher, God now calls him into ministry after 4 years of Marriage, Aunty, what will you do?
Life after Marriage is like a box full of surprises, you can never tell all you'll find in it as you unwrap it.

Go in with GOD, plenty PRAYERS, a DETERMINATION to make it work no matter what and a FLEXIBLE Heart to accommodate certain changes in your Partner, this will make a whole lot of difference.

22/04/2024

NEVER JUDGE THE LOVE OF A WOMAN 👩

1-She may catch you in bed with another woman 👩 and storm out 💃 of the bedroom and leave.

2-Then you call 📞 her several times but no answer.

3-A few days later, you will receive her call back 🔙.

4-My brother never think that she can't live without you, that lady really loves you, it is not some kind of stupidity.

5-Ladies get hurt, but sometimes they choose to believe you and think that you might change to become a better person.

6-Flowers 💐 and expensive gifts won't make her forget the bad things you once did to her. That smile she gives you doesn't mean that everything is now okay, it still hurt inside her.

7-Pain is something that ladies can live with; no matter how much you break her heart, she always find a way to keep on loving you.

8-Never take her for granted; she might be the last one to give you that much love in your life.

9-Loving you doesn't make her stupid but having you to laugh at her does.

10-My fellow brothers let us love and respect our women. They only need real love and care from us.

GENTLEMEN ARE WE TOGETHER??

LADIES, DO YOU SUPPORT ME??

21/04/2024

You can never truly know a man’s character till wen u two get married and take in🎤
Forget relationship stage and those sweet first months of marriage
Na scam
Get pregnant honey and watch out.
Pregnancy is an eye opener
It’s a period u need love and support.
During pregnancy everything in ur body adjusts to the creation of a new human being
U don’t even know urself anymore
Hormones play around with u.
I remember always waking up in the middle of the night to cry, better cry o
I will be.at my husband to wake up and ask him to remove his baby the way he put it.
Sometimes he calls my mom in the middle of the night to cry and tell her that am complaining about everything 😂.
Chai, I will either feel pains or feel abnormal.
My happy mood no Dey last.
Every night my husband is with rubbing my stomach or begging me to stop crying
Sometimes he will call me at work to promise him peace in exchange for suya😂😂
He will wake up in the middle of the night to make tea or fast food for me.
I will demand for food that even me myself I know it’s hard to find😂😂
At some point he gave me his card so that I won’t disturb him
For where, imagine calling him on phone to come home now now now and I will be crying too
He will rush home for fear that I might hurt myself
Pregnancy will show u shege😂😂
My problem was too numerous to mention
He will beg my gynecologist to predict wen I will give birth so he can rest 😂😂.
Dear singles in wat ever u do
Marry a patient man
A man who loves u in and out
A man who values and care for u
Because a time will come wen u will test his patience
Most men fail at this point
Not because they are not kind but because the shege can’t be endured.

17/04/2024

Dear Lady

THINGS THAT WILL NOT CHASE MR RIGHT AWAY IF HE TRULY LOVES YOU.

1) YOUR OCCUPATION/BACKGROUND

Nurse, or Teacher,

A lawyer or you sell fish in the Market

Your father may not be Dangote or Adeleke, but trust me, maritally you go dey okay,

Men who INTENTIONALLY insist on marrying only ladies that studied "hot cake" courses like Nursing or Pharmacy or only ladies who come from privileged backgrounds hardly marry for love, that you didn't read such courses or you do some jobs that don't seem reputable is nothing to a Man who loves You..

No need to lie or be ashamed about something you do that puts food on your table that doesn't involve you selling your body or the humble family/background you come from.

2) YOUR VIRGINITY STATUS

Virgin or Non-Virgin, a Man who loves you will stay.

PS: if you are a Virgin please keep your virginity, by all means there are ADVANTAGES to keeping your virginity, but if you are no longer a Virgin, that doesn't mean you are without favor.

Sis,
You don't need to lie about your virginity status, or buy fake virginity blood and fake h***n as is now currently available in the market.

Don't start your marriage on a foundation of deception and lies.

3) YOUR SIZE OR SHAPE

Different strokes for different folks.

Some Men like ladies that are plumpy, others like 'lekpa' ladies, whichever you are, be confident and happy.

Some Men fancy ladies with big chest, others don't. So be at rest.

Aunty, don't fret, even if you don't have figure 8, haters gonna hate, and potatoes will potate, e no matter, God has for you a mate.

4) YOUR REFUSAL TO GIVE HIM S*X.

A godly Man who truly loves you and understands what makes a marriage work will not walk out on you because you insisted on abstinence, in fact a godly Man would personally suggest such.

Only ungodly Men leave ladies because of s*x.

Stay rooted to your conviction, at the right time he who will accept to wait for you will come.

Don't give in just to win his love,

17/04/2024

MARRIAGE ADVICES

1. Marriage is not for quitters

2. You will feel proud of yourself looking back knowing that you honoured your vows

3. If you do marriage right, it will bring out the best in you and in your spouse

4. S*x is important but not the only thing in marriage

5. When younger, make love as much as you can, enjoy it. A time is coming when all you have are memories

6. Friends will come and go, you will know so many people as a married person, but keep your spouse your priority

7. Don't stay together for children, eventually they will leave you two. What will you have to hold?

8. Growing old doesn't mean you cannot make your spouse feel special, keep making his/her heart beat

9. Do not harden your heart, otherwise marriage will be too great a burden

10. Do not hold grudges, otherwise stress will kill you

11. Eventhough you two are married, don't forget to build yourself, and work on your goals as an individual. Don't lose you

12. Not every advice is good advice. Discern

13. Love your spouse the best way you can, not as a reward to your spouse for treating you right, but because you have personally chosen to

14. It is not for you to say you are a good husband/wife but for your spouse to say I have a good husband/wife

15. Don't work too hard chasing after money for your family that you lose your family

16. Praying for your spouse is your personal responsibility that you cannot delegate to another person

17. Start each day with warm words and the tone of the day will be good

18. Don't be scared of aging, be scared of aging without a purpose or a legacy in mind

19. As you work, think about retirement. Save, invest, plan. You will not always have the energy you have

20. Fathers, don't disconnect from your children as they grown up. If you do, you will want them near you in your old age but they will struggle to bond with you

21. Mothers, don't hurt your children with words. Mummy wounds are difficult to heal from

15/04/2024

Real men don't wait for centuries before going to the alter with you....MAY THE LORD SEND YOU A perfect match in Jesus name Amen