Chisom Tina

09/12/2023

How I went to the gym vs me at the gym. Them no Dey do aesthetic outside for winter.😂😂😭

First time going to the gym and the only thing shyness and awkwardness allowed me to do was treadmill.😂😂🤌🏽

03/12/2023

Sprinkle sprinkle, sparkle sparkle. Red is the new black, or whatever they say…😍🌺

10/11/2023

If you let what you see people post about themselves, pressure you, you really need to do better.

Everyday, we come on social media to see people post only the positive parts of their lives. We see them only post about how they got a job with a top company, how they bought their first house at 16 and so on.

And you, in your house, would be going through the posts and be shedding tears, asking yourself if it's life that you're living, asking yourself if you've been doing anything wrong all your life.

In your mind, these people have everything going well for them. They have no bad stuff to worry them at all. Only beautiful things happening in their lives.

That's what you think.

But then, you don't know what happens when they turn off their data and go back to reality.
You don't know how they're battling with a health issue that has proven unready to leave them for years.

You're not aware of the fact that they come from a broken home, so once they drop their phones, it's them settling one fight between their parents or the other.

You think they all have it perfect because it's what they choose to show you.
If you see the backstory, you'd only but thank God for your own life.

You're hating yourself because a girl you're older than is already buying her own house and car, while you're still struggling in school.

But I guess she'd never tell you about how she's been sleeping with people to get that kind of success.

You're hating yourself because a guy your age is living large on social media.

Meanwhile, he has fraud and ritualism sponsoring his lifestyle and you're there k!lling yourself because you think everything is working out well for him.

See, don't let social media pressure you o.

Nobody has it all perfect in their lives.

They'd only show you what they want you to see.

08/11/2023

Once you come to the realization that not everybody on social media would like you or what you do, you won't be living life here to impress them.

You might be staying on your own, Doing your Own stuff online and someone somewhere would just conclude you're proud because you chose to stay low-key.

Okay, you now decide to open your arms of friendship to people and you start hearing things like "That girl too dey do".

You just can't catch a break from them.

Even when you post something that's logically and politically correct, someone somewhere would still find a fault.
One might be like, "Why did you use girls instead of women in your post?" or "Must you talk about this?"

You might even be thinking everyone likes you. You might be doing good to anyone you come across here. But then, when a certain issue about you is tabled, you'd see those same persons that swore you were the best thing since sliced bread come to the comments with "I said it. Everytime she'll be carrying herself as if it's only her that knows everything".

See, just do your thing as long as you're not hurting anyone.
Because if you do good, there are people that'd fault you for it.
If you do bad, they'd also persecute you.

No breaks at all.

06/11/2023

Some Reasons you go broke after starting up your business.

I might not have much knowledge on business, but from my observations, I can say these are some of the reasons people go broke after setting up their businesses:

- Irrelevant Competition: Some person start their brands today and in two days time, they're already comparing their progress with someone that started Years ago. They don't even consider how much effort the person has put into making their business big. In trying to keep up with the person's level, they don't just lose money, but also lose the chances of growing a promising business.

- Borrowed Capital (Without a clear cut plan): Some businesses flourish on borrowed capital and loans, but let's not deny the fact that a whole lot of business owners are in debt because they couldn't keep up with the lender's terms. If you don't have a clear cut way of regaining the capital when your business kicks off, your business is better off non-existent.

- Location: This is not subtle, but overlooked most times. Some persons have the best products to offer, but they aren't having any sales, because they took their iPhone selling business to a village dominated by Old people that are only conversant with Nokia torch.

- Poor Marketing Strategy: You might have the best services or products, but if your marketing strategy is mid, nothing for you. If you fail to change your strategy to adapt to what's in vogue, you'd keep running in circles.

You can add yours for potential business owners.🤗

03/11/2023

Few things you should consider before taking that online course:

- "Am I an Online or Offline Class person?": As much as everyone keeps talking about online classes, you should know that it's not for everyone. Some persons cope better with the traditional method of learning, where they can see the tutor physically and have people around them learning with them too.

- "Do I really need this skill/course?": The course is good, yes. But are you taking the course because you need it or just because you heard that everyone is taking it, so you want to follow the crowd and answer "Certified Digital Marketer"?

- "Has the tutor proven himself in this field?": Someone might attend a 3 day Graphic design class and boom! Add "Professional Graphic designer" to his Bio even without having the relevant experience. Is that who you want to teach you a skill?

- "How relevant is this skill today?": How sought after is the skill? You can't go after a skill that lost relevance 20 years ago and expect to make a living out of it. Except you just want to do it for the fun.

- "Would I have the time for it?": A very important question. You have paid for the class. The main job is to actually have time for it. If you're usually occupied, you have to find a way to manage your time.

01/11/2023

Happy New Month, people of God!

How una dey?

We've got two months to the end of the year.

Before I continue, let me say something.

Please ehh, those of you that are always sending broadcast messages on Whatsapp every New Month, how is it doing you people?

No, talk to me. This is a safe space. Is everything okay?

You won't talk to me for the whole month, you don't even view my status. But you turn up in my DM on the 1st day of every month with some copied message that I don't even know where it was generated from.

After that, it's till the next month.

Period no do reach like this o.

It even gets more annoying when I see young people doing it.
It's understandable when it's the elderly ones doing it, but you, a young guy? No nau.

That's by the way Sha.

So, to what I was about saying before the Interruption...

It's almost the end of the year.

Yeah, you might not have gotten all that you planned on getting this year. But then, I believe there are still some progress you made this year, even the ones you overlook.

Kindly do something.

Write down your list of wins this year. No matter how small it might seem.

You might think you did nothing, but by the time you're done with the list, you'd see this year didn't really go completely bad for you.

Trust me.

Happy New Month, once again.😊

30/10/2023

I don't know about the rest of you, but I honestly feel a man should attain some level of financial stability before thinking about marriage.
Many persons often advise, "Don't wait until you're financially secure to get married."

However, it's important to be cautious when motivational speakers advocate this talk.

Funny enough, those who advocate this viewpoint may not permit you to marry their daughters if they perceive you're not financially stable.

They may tell you, "A spouse can bring blessings." While there may be truth in this, it's advisable not to take unnecessary risks.

The world is now too hard to rely on miracles only.

If you cannot comfortably support yourself, I strongly believe it's unwise to bring someone's daughter from her family's home and subject her to hardship under the guise of "Stand by me."

I'm not saying the ladies can't hustle too oo. Don't get me wrong. But let's face reality here.

Love alone is insufficient to sustain a marriage. It has never been adequate.

You might wonder, "So, is marriage exclusively for financially stable persons?" To an extent, yes.

Avoid the mistake of having children you cannot provide for based on the advice of some motivational speaker. Check the streets and you'd see the number of underprivileged kids wandering without care.

No woman desires to marry a man who lacks a certain degree of financial stability. Disregard the notion that they claim, "I'm not really interested in money". Lies, most of time.

Real life isn't Nollywood where a woman falls in love with you solely for your character.

27/10/2023

Whenever a case of domestic violence resulting to death about a woman comes up, most of the time, the woman in question would be blamed.

Most of the time, people forget the criminal and focus their blame on the victim and at the end of the day, it turns to gender war and from there, the victim gets no justice, because instead of fighting for one cause, which is making sure the criminal rots in jail, everyone is interested in making their gender look righteous and the other the devil.

A girl is r@ped and k!lled on the spot. Instead of Social Media people to come together and stand with one voice, you'd see one faction blaming the victim, asking her why she was there, why she was wearing a revealing dress and so on.

They won't bother to persecute the criminal oo. It's the dead victim that they have the muscle for.

Imagine going to the police to report that you were robbed and they start asking you why you were walking. They start asking you why didn't you stay at home.

That's how dumb a lot of persons sound when they try to shift blames on victims of stuff.

People have been saying stuff like "Why did she follow a Yah00 boy? It's her fault that she's dead. Next time, she should endure with a broke guy".

And I'm asking, Late Osinachi that sang "Ekwueme", was her husband a Yah00 boy too? Was he a ritualist??
If I'm not mistaken, he used to hold a position in church, so you can't say she brought it upon herself by following him.

My point is, anyone can do evil. The most innocent looking person can do evil. The one with the most suspicious face can also do evil.

We've seen innocent girls go for interviews and get k!lled from there.
People out to seek a better life for themselves.

Was it their faults?

Abeg abeg, let's stop this whole issue of victim blaming, else we'd keep sweeping a lot of issues under the carpet.

Thank you.

25/10/2023

Those of you that say you can stay days without talking to the person you're dating, really scare me.

Because, why would you say you love someone and out of 24 hours, you can't squeeze out at least 1 hour to get in touch with them?

You'd say "Some of us are too busy to be checking up everyday", but would you be too busy for someone you say you love?

She sends you a Good morning text in the morning, you'd wake up, see it and not reply.

At night, she'd also send you Goodnight and Sweet dreams messages and once the message notification comes up, you'd swipe it away.

When she gets fed up and complains about it and how it's been affecting communication in the relationship, you come with "Are you the only thing in my life?"

So you didn't know she wasn't the only thing in your life when you asked her out, abi?

Now, she's in your life and you've remembered you have life problems you need to sort out.

Suddenly, you remembered she's a disturbance to your life and goals.

Una go dey alright Sha.

Or not.

24/10/2023

"This one thinks it's by getting 1st Class. He has not seen the real world"

I've heard the above statement countless times both from people that did well in school and the ones that graduated with "Pass" and all I want to tell you is that you shouldn't let anybody sabotage your efforts with it.

People are always quick to tell you that you're wasting your time making good grades in school. Telling you that you'd be useless with your good grades after graduating.

Trying to make it look like everyone that came out with good grades would suffer in the "real world".

They make it look as if the ones that failed in school would make it in the "real world", while the ones that succeeded in school would fail in the "real world".

Akuko ndi mgbu!

Don't let anyone make you feel you're wasting your time.
You can fail in school and also fail woefully in the real world.
You can succeed in school and also make it in the real world.

They say "School na sc ", but don't forget that people are still cashing out with their degrees.

There are graduates making it big in their various fields.

There are still fresh Graduates that have been favoured with automatic employments just weeks after graduation, because of their excellent results.

In 2-3 year times, if they play their cards well, do you think they won't be doing well for themselves?

I know Engineers, doctors, lawyers, Professors, that are living a fulfilled life now, so if you let anyone make you feel you're not doing enough by being serious with your studies, It's your fault.

Have a nice week ahead and put in more effort in studying. It pays.

20/10/2023

I Don't know whatever situation you're in, so I won't conclude for you.

But I don't think I'd ever Carry myself to a competition online again.

I've done so in the past, but it'd never repeat itself again.

Don't get me wrong o. Contests are okay to an extent, but when the winner would be decided based on popularity and not creativity, I remove myself from it.

I mean, imagine entering a "Creative" writing contest and the criteria for winning is that you must have the most likes on your story.

Then what's Creative about the contest?

You might rack your brain to create a badass story and someone else would just drop an "Obi is a boy" story and because he has more popularity than you, he'd win the stuff.

Your creativity in the mud.

Well, I hope I'd never be in such situation again, because it's not even funny.

The crazier thing is that most times, the organizers already have their winners on ground, just like INEC.

They just need your participation and the clout it'd bring them, meanwhile they've picked the winner on a low-key.

Sha, what do I know?

18/10/2023

I can say one of the Nigerian habits that annoy me the most is this issue of African Time.

I don't even find it funny at all or take it lightly.

I don't know about you, but I'm big on Keeping to time.

I'm not in for all the African time stuff.

No.

If we have somewhere to be at by 3pm, I expect that by 2:30pm, you should be in your bathroom or even done with bathing.

When I say we're meeting by 3pm, I don't mean "Start taking your bath by 3" or "Start thinking of the dress to wear by 3".

I mean, "By 3, we should be seeing each other face to face".

I've tried so hard and I don't think I can ever get used to the African time of a thing.

It's really annoying when we have somewhere to be at and while I'm running Helter skelter trying to prepare, so I can be there on time, you're still on your bed pressing your phone or even sleeping.

Now, when I complain to you, you'd be like "Why you dey rush? Na you dey go open gate for them?"

We have really normalized late coming and it's quite crazy.

16/10/2023

Before you get into that relationship, I think you should ask yourself these questions:

- "Why am I getting into this relationship?": Could it be that it's your loneliness that made you settle for this person? Could it be you just want to date them because they like you? Because they're the only ones available? Or because you truly need a relationship at that point in your life?

- "Would this relationship get into the way of my personal goals?": Sometimes, we end up dating people that won't be in support of our life ambitions. There are some relationships that you'd get into and they'd divert you from your goals to something else. Would it interrupt your First Class ambition? Would it make you lose focus from making your first Million? These are the questions.

- "Is my mental health well enough?": You have a lot of life issues. You know you have these issues that leave you depressed everyday of your life. But you still go ahead to get into a relationship with someone's child.
And that's how you'd turn them to therapists. Turning the relationship to a therapy session. Everyday, from one "Babe, it'd be fine" to another.

- "Am I mature enough to swallow pride and take corrections?": Some of you have developed this dirty attitude of taking pride into your relationships. Where you'd offend your partner and instead of you to apologize, you'd rather watch the relationship fade away slowly. If you're still too immature to keep aside grudges, better stay Single.

- "Are we compatible in Genotype?": THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT.
A lot of relationships have ended midway because one of the parties found out the other had a genotype not compatible with theirs.
I know it's hard to let go of the person you so dearly love, but please, for the sake of your kids, ask this question before getting involved.

You can add yours too.☺️

13/10/2023

As a Nigerian, If you haven't told any of these lies, you might actually make heaven:

- "I'm on the bus/I'm on my way": You see eh, it seems when we were born as Nigerians, the doctors injected us with some sort of thing that makes us always say we're on our way, meanwhile we're still on the bed.

You have an appointment with someone, but as the person is too serious, he gets there 2 hours before the time and calls you to start coming out.
You that's still on your bed, moving from one gossip blog to another, would reply "I just entered bus now o. Hold up dey here. You go see me soon".

May God forgive us.

- "I Didn't read oo": This one is specially for students.
You spent the night reading the whole of Modern Biology and cramming everything word for word, but when you get to the hall and your friend asks you if you read, you'd be like "I never open book since last week o. I don't even know what I'm going to write in this Exam. Which course we dey even write sef?

Liar ooo. Onye ashiii.

Someone that is prepared to take nothing less than 100 marks home.
Once the Exam starts, you'd see him asking for extra sheet.

You will pay for your sins o.

- "My phone got spoilt, so I lost your contact":

You see this one? First Class ticket to hell fire.
When they've deleted your number a long time ago and you finally realize you've not been seeing their status for a while, so you chat them up.

Their excuse usually goes:

"Good evening. Who's this, please?"
"Ohhhh. Na you, Tina? Omo, My mother swallowed my SIM Card, so I lost all my contacts oo. I've been trying to get your number sef. Ask XYZ".

All of you, hellfaya!

Add yours.

Meanwhile, I and the Love of my life went on a jungle date yesterday.🥰

12/10/2023

11/10/2023

One of the worst things that can happen to you in a relationship, is dating someone that hardly apologizes.

There's cheating, lying and so on o. But you see this one, it'd k!ll you before your time.
And to be honest, it's mostly my fellow women that are guilty of this.

I've seen a lot of my male friends complain to me that their girlfriends did something bad to them and they were still made to apologize to the girls.

Imagine am nau. You beat person, the person still come dey tell you sorry say you beat am.

That's how most relationships are now. Your babe does something you don't like, you complain to her, instead of apologizing, she says you're being too serious and when you react to what she said, she'd turn everything against you and boom! You're now the bad person.😭

That's how you'd spend the rest of the day apologizing for being offended oo.

And this would keep going on.

You won't even be able to express displeasure at some things, because it'd bring problems.

"Babe, why did you s**t without flushing?"

"So, you're calling me a dirty girl?? After all the love I've shown you?"

And just like that, you're the victim.

E for just better make you shut up oo.

So, you see, it's really frustrating being with a partner that doesn't apologize.

You'd hardly experience happy times in that relationship, because everytime, you'd be the one compromising. You'd be the victim and the prisoner at the same time.

For your mental health, kindly leave if it gets too much.

09/10/2023

In my opinion, there are a lot of things wrong with the Nigerian system of parenting.

Maybe it was the way our parents were brought up.

Could it be an adverse effect of the war?

I don't know why exactly, but I'm certain there's something wrong with it.

I may not know much about being a parent. I've never had a child or partook in the upbringing of a child, but common human knowledge has made me know that as a parent, there are several ways to decline your daughter's request than reminding her that she's a failure that would amount to nothing and Telling her how her mates are now taking care of their parents at 16 years of age.

For those that might not know the reason for this my long talk, a video surfaced between last night and this morning, of a young girl that asked her dad to get her an iPhone 8 for her birthday.

The father started giving her a thousand reasons she doesn't deserve an iPhone. How she couldn't raise the dead, change water to wine and all that.

I wish I could put them into words, but what he told the girl could break anyone. I mean, anyone of her age.

Fine, she may have been over demanding or misplacing priorities, but she's your child.

It's even better you flogged her than scar her with those words.

Instead of telling her she's a failure and she's dulling on her admission, What happened to doing stuff like, promising to get her the phone if she gains admission?

In my opinion, that's a much better alternative than outrightly rubbishing her.

A lot of young people go around with traumas from their homes, from their parents to be precise.

Because what most of these parents mistake for discipline, is abuse.

It's really sad sha.

06/10/2023

If you're going to see someone, whether as a visitor or a guest, I think you should read these:

- Never show up unannounced: See, no matter how close you are to the hosts, never show up without first informing them. Not everyone is a fan of surprise visits. What if they're going through a hard time that moment and aren't in a good state to entertain people? What if they're occupied and won't have your time? Would you be glad to be an extra burden?

- Never Overstay your welcome: If you stay in a place till the host starts asking you "When would you be going?", just know you've overstayed your welcome there. If you planned on staying for 3 days, let it be 3 days. Anytime longer than that would lead to See finish.

- Bring a gift: Mustn't necessarily be the whole world, but something as "little" as bread, means a lot. Don't just show up empty handed, else, you'd turn to "That uncle/aunty that always comes here to finish our milk and Milo".

- Make yourself useful: The hosts won't directly tell you to get involved in the house chores and co, because that's what courtesy demands. But, I believe that same courtesy also demands you help out in one or two ways, no matter how small and not just staying in your room and waiting for your own share of food.

Most importantly, if you'd be spending night(s), make sure you leave things even cleaner than you met them.

Some persons are fond of messing up the rooms and toilets whenever they visit.

Please, don't turn the house to a pig sty.

04/10/2023

Going through that Tweet yesterday about the "That phase in life when you hate your girlfriend*, all I can say is that the dating pool is really messed up.

If you hold good man or good woman now, abeg, hold am tight.
There's nothing in the streets again.

Most of the time, you'd end up with someone worse.

Went through the Tweets and quotes and all I could see was gaslighting, emotional manipulation and outright wickedness.

You no longer find a her attractive, you no longer have that feelings for her again. Why not just open up and tell her as adults you both are and let everything end?

Why making her worried thinking something serious might be wrong with you, meanwhile, it's just you giving her signals that you no longer want her?

It's simple, in my opinion - "Hey, can we talk? Can we take a break? Can we end this relationship?" . Simple!

All these beating around the bush isn't necessary. It reeks of wickedness and emotional unintelligence.

The sad thing now is that a lot of ladies are now in doubt.
"Am I actually making him happy like he says?"

"What if my presence disgusts him?"

"I want to cook for him. What if the mere look at me in the kitchen changes his mood from good to worse?"

These questions and more have started creeping in and I don't even blame them at all.

The crazier part are the guys supporting this, just to win some silly gender war that won't even get us anywhere.

Call out what's bad. This whole idea of supporting something bad because of your gender is sick and we need to do better, biko.

02/10/2023

Iron Condemned Appreciation.

Another thing I miss is the fact that whenever I was broke, I'd always have something to sell and survive for that moment.

You know that moment when it seems you're going to die of brokeness if 50 naira doesn't enter your hand?

That period where you can't even find shishi in your pocket.

You've searched all your trousers to see if you mistakenly forgot any random 10 naira inside.

You'll now be thinking about everything you bought that week and if any of the women are owing you change.

But nothing come out. Because you don't use to forget your change with anybody. You're very stingy, the only thing you forget in your pocket is POS receipt.

Yes! That moment in particular.

When you'd be like "God, if you give me 100 naira laidis, I will serve you till eternity and buy you Imo state when I have plenty money".

Then, all of a sudden, you hear the sound of bottles being hit against each other outside.

You look outside and it's our local messiah, the underrated Saviours of our time- Iron Condemned.

Luckily for you, there's an old fan you've been planning to throw away that night.
Change of plans.

"Aboki. Zo!".

"How much you go give me for this fan?"

"Na just plastic dey here o. You go collect 250?"

"Yes, abeg. Bring am. Even if na 200, I go collect".

He pays you, while thinking he has "Guy-ed" you, meanwhile, you just did what you did to survive.

You look up to the sky and give thanks to God for provision.

Thank God for iron Condemned. Afternoon food don show. We shut down the city!

02/10/2023

A smile a day.
One step a time, whatever they say.
I came to slay!🥹🥰😍

29/09/2023

About this Mohbad's wife's DNA test stuff, I've been reading a lot of takes on it. Some reasonable, some annoying. Just as it should be.

There's a reason women (And I mean every woman) would get angry at the mention of DNA tests.

No! I'm not speaking from a woman's point of view now. I'm talking as a human.

I won't also deny the fact that there's been high cases of paternity fraud, so there's need for these tests once in a while.

Now, back to my reason.

Have you ever given your all to a company and one a certain day, when something goes missing, they all start suspecting you?

You have?

The example may not completely make sense, but in my opinion, that's how it is to some of these women (The Innocent ones) when you bring up talks of DNA tests.

I love you. I trust you with my life. I've been with you for years. I've made a lot of sacrifices for you.

Never welcomed any thoughts of being with another man. I spent 9 months of my life carrying your baby and all of a sudden, you just develop the urge to question my loyalty to you?

Suddenly, you conclude your first son looks more like your pastor, so it's DNA or nothing.

It reeks of lack of trust and such stuff breaks the innocent women.

And one problem about this kind of thing is that, at the end of the day, if it's ascertained that the man is the true father, things can never go back to normal.

The woman would bear that hurt and betrayal for a long time.

I mean, I can't be fully comfortable with a man that doesn't trust me as much as I do.

I just hope you guys understand the angle I'm coming from Sha.

27/09/2023

In whatever you do, make sure you're not in a situation where you'd be helpless and ready to subject yourself to humiliating things, just to get the help.

Why am I saying this?

Since yesterday, a post has been trending on this side of Facebook. Happened that a certain lady was doing a giveaway with her used foam of two years or so, if I'm not mistaken.

But that's not the issue. The problem is with the kind of requirements she stated for whoever the potential winner would be.

Some persons saw it as normal, others saw it as humiliating, just like I did.

See eh, giving is good o. I'm all for charity and helping people in need of something, no matter how small it is.

But then, a lot of persons have learnt to hide their clout-chasing under philantropy. You want to give out a used foam and you're dropping requirements as if it's admission process where you must have at least 5 credits and above 180 cutoff mark.

If you want to help, do it without sounding humiliating or condescending, because you know the people in need are desperate to do anything.

25/09/2023

"If you want me to help you, you have to give me something in return"

So, a screenshot has been flying around since morning on the streets of Facebook.
A certain guy trying to embarrass a girl who "respectfully"(I honestly don't see anything wrong or rude in her message) came to his DM to ask him for 50MB so she could access her school portal.

Unfortunately for the guy, the comments didn't go as he planned.
He wanted embarrassment for the girl and round of applause for himself, but let's say God had something different planned out for the girl.

Since then, the girl has gotten pledges of phones, jobs, gadgets, data, airtime, cash and so on.

No whine Grace.

But that's by the way.

My major concern is with this issue where some guys can't help out a lady if they're not receiving s*x in return.

A lady is desperately in need of help. She comes to you in her vulnerable state and all you could do is go "If you need my help, you'd send me your nhhudes or have s*x with me".

Aren't you even ashamed of yourself?

So, you can't get a woman if you don't take advantage of someone in distress?

Doesn't it bother you that the only time you can get a woman to do your bidding is when she's at your mercy? Not because she loves you, but because she needs the help??

Don't worry.

One Day, you'll meet the one that will cut that thing off and you'll finally rest.😒