23/04/2023
SPICE UP YOUR MARRIAGE
UNDERSTANDING GENDER DIFFERENCES IN MARRIAGE AND HELPING EACH OTHER WITH OUR DIFFERENCES
(HMCG #5) Most women feel that they have no priority in their husbands life because of HIS DISPOSITION TO THEIR PERSONAL NEEDS
sometime she wonders why is he totally oblivious of this fact, and never talks about it. she also wonders if he is pretending not to see or he is deliberately doing it.
Sometimes she'll say "I can't believe he doesn't know what my needs are...... And the men will often say" Do they think we can read minds?," we are no mind readers.... This simply mean you need to communicate. Tell him what you need and DO NOT ASSUME HE KNOWS.
Do not take offence if he doesn't talk about your needs either, this might not be an intentional act to hurt you or that you're not a priority. in his life, And as we have mentioned earlier in (HMCG #2) that men operate in boxes i.e their brain is wired to deal with one issue at a time. A good understanding of this concept is vital to our dealings with one another as married couples
TO AVOID CONFLICT IN THIS TYPE OF SITUATIONS
As a man, If you sense a mood issue, or perceive that your wife is upset for reasons you can't explain, this might just be it!
An incredible gift you can give to her is:
1.to simply ask what might be bothering her and also allow her to speak. Give few moment of your time to brainstorm together ,ask, what you can do to help solve the problem This will go along way to ease her stress
2.Be gentle with your words and Reassuring in your Response.
With your arms wrapped around her say to her "it'll be okay" and even if you're afraid or not even sure yourself that everything will be fine, be rest assured that God got you
3.Go to the Lord in prayer and ask for His help. Hand over the burden of your family needs to Him.
4. Make a conscious effort to give close attention to her personal needs and once in a while talk about them. Then within your ability, do what you can to make her happy
5. Finally, Be open and transparent with your wife in the aspect of finance.
Sometimes minute issues such as this could escalate to a major conflict in marriages this could make a wife question her husband's love for her and cultivate the ground for resentment, bitterness, and unnecessary quarrels which could easily be avoided.