21/07/2021
5 REASONS WHY PEOPLE COHABIT
Today we are going to be talking on a very interesting topic. We shall be looking at
Reasons why people cohabit &
Effects of cohabitation
I understand that cohabitation is the act of living together and having erotic relationship- especially without being married. I can also say that cohabitation is when two people who are not legally married to each other but are living together while involved in intimate relationship with each other.
That is my own understanding of cohabitation you can define it your own perspective.
Couples who cohabit before marriage (and especially before an engagement or an otherwise clear commitment) tend to be less satisfied with their marriages — and more likely to divorce — than couples who do not. These negative outcomes are called the cohabitation effect.
People may live together for a number of reasons. Cohabitants could live together in order to save money, because of the convenience of living with another, or a need to find housing. Lower income individuals facing financial uncertainty may delay or avoid marriage, not only because of the difficulty of paying for a wedding but also because of fear of financial hardship if a marriage were to end in divorce.
When given a survey of the reasons why they cohabit, most couples listed reasons such as spending more time together, convenience based reasons, and testing their relationships, while few gave the reason that they do not believe in marriage. The extremely high costs of housing and tight budgets of today's economy are also factors that can lead a couple to cohabitation.
5 Reasons why people cohabit:
1. Afraid of divorce:
People cohabit because the think they have easy access to opt in and out of the relationship unlike marriage which will require divorce proceedure before opting out.
2. Afraid of marriage tying knot: Especially men who wouldn't want anything that will rip them off their cruise.
3. Financial problem: lack of financial backup. So it serves as a shortcut to living together with someone even when unmarried, they want to marry but lack of finance, they keep living together and sometimes will start making babies, procrastinating in legally marrying them.
4. Lack of courage and zeal for commitment:
5. Testing tool: Men always want to be sure the girl is actually a woman or if she is a man. Therefore men see it as a testing tool to their relationship to also see how compactible they are for marriage.
Is cohabitation really good?
As a testing tool for God knows how long they will be in that relationship...
If she is a woman or man? Isn't that despicable and repugnant? Are you God?
Don't you know there is possibility of you getting her pregnant during courtship, then you confirm your doubt of her womanhood before marriage, she gave birth, the baby dies, her womb closed? How about that? That sounds rhetorical.
Next we shall table out and explain briefly,
Effects of Cohabitation
1. Unwanted pregnancy, unwanted pregnancy is common in cohabitation. When they decide to be intimate without contraceptives it leads to pregnancy which is unwanted and at times may resort to put to bed out of wedlock which is morally bankrupt.
2. S*xually transmitted diseases, this is common and very rampant in cohabitation. There is every tendency and possibility of contracting STDs during cohabitation because you don’t know your partner too well about his health status, remember it is as if you were in a relationship with him or her and ended courting and cohabiting.
3. Psychological trauma, most times the would- be husband disappointment when the profound love slowly disappears the would-be wife surely undergo psychological trauma. The fact that she is traumatized may result to losing her sanity, becoming confused and fed up, rejection and resentment which at times may lead to su***de this is not a good omen at all.
4. Crime, the would-be husband budget increases, and this may lead him to involve himself in acts that are misconduct and some criminal offenses. He may engage himself in cyber crime etc.
5. Lack of concentration this is common when the partners in this act are full involved, they engage in coupling affairs and couples conversations are in the ends. They think of themselves and how to fare for each other as if they were couple already. They foot each other’s bills leaving their supposed priorities on hold just to satisfy their partners.
6. Experience of married life while single, they budget large and cook in ample quantities. Spending more than they should have if they were staying single. The would-be wife doing all house chores as if she was a wife already. Washing dishes and washing the clothes of the would-be husband, very funny. They begin to face hard times couples face when they are not yet.
7. Abuse of womanhood/abortion just like what happened in one of the hostels close by, a student put to bed in her boyfriend’s house the would-be husband and threw the baby over the fence it hanged, it was one of the students who saw her doing it that rescued the baby and took it to the hospital. Most times abortion in the end and they may end up damaging their womb. At times the would-be wife medically turns her womb just to prevent pregnancy intending to be changed when married. Isn’t that repugnant, harsh and abuse of womanhood? Yeah it is. It is against the principle guiding morality.
8. Abuse of sexuality in cohabitation, premarital sexuality the act involving in sexuality by two opposite sexes who are not legally married. This act is forbidden and during cohabitation this act is involved. Generally modern societies don’t appreciate premarital love making for various reasons. Unfortunately, lo******ng is no more considered an outflow of the natural sexual instincts among human beings we see it as a necessary obligation to share the romance between the married couples and also as a medium to fulfil the social responsibility of giving birth to the next generation.
It will be good our young people understand that sexuality is not an instrument of enjoying lustful pleasure for human beings at least, yes sexuality is sexuality for all other animals but for humans sexuality should be practiced with respect and the appropriate time is for married couple. But cohabitation breaks this standard principle set for sexuality morally.
To be continued.
Thank you for reading.
