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18/10/2024

8 lessons from The Art of Being Alone by Renuka Gavrani:

1. Embrace Solitude as Self-Care
Gavrani emphasizes that solitude should be viewed as an essential form of self-care. Being alone allows for emotional and mental recharge, leading to a deeper understanding of oneself and fostering personal growth.

2. Build a Strong Relationship with Yourself
Learning to enjoy your own company is vital. The book encourages readers to cultivate a strong, compassionate relationship with themselves, which lays the foundation for healthier relationships with others.

3. Silence as a Tool for Reflection
Silence is powerful in helping us listen to our inner voice. Gavrani suggests that by embracing silence, we open ourselves up to introspection and a clearer understanding of our thoughts and emotions.

4. Aloneness vs. Loneliness
Gavrani distinguishes between being alone and feeling lonely. Aloneness is a conscious choice for self-discovery and peace, while loneliness stems from a lack of connection. By appreciating time alone, we can reduce feelings of loneliness.

5. Use Alone Time for Creativity and Productivity
Solitude can be a productive space for creativity. Without distractions, you can focus on creative pursuits, hobbies, or self-improvement, finding inspiration in stillness.

6. Set Boundaries for Social Interactions
The book emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries in relationships to protect your energy. Gavrani encourages readers to balance social engagements with moments of solitude to maintain emotional well-being.

7. Find Joy in Simple Activities
Gavrani highlights the importance of finding joy in small, simple activities when alone, such as reading, walking, or journaling. These activities can bring peace and contentment without the need for external validation.

8. Develop Emotional Independence
One of the key lessons is to cultivate emotional independence. The book stresses that you don’t need to rely on others for happiness. By being emotionally self-rel

08/10/2024

15 lessons from How To Deal With Idiots: (and stop being one yourself) by Robert I. Sutton:

1. Identify idiots early. The sooner you can identify an idiot, the sooner you can start to protect yourself from them.

2. Don't try to change idiots. Idiots are not going to change, so don't waste your time and energy trying to do so.

3. Don't take idiots personally. Idiots are not attacking you personally, they are just being idiots.

4. Set boundaries with idiots. Don't let idiots into your life if you don't have to.

5. Don't argue with idiots. It's a pointless exercise.

6. Don't try to explain yourself to idiots. They won't understand.

7. Don't try to reason with idiots. They are not reasonable people.

8. Don't try to please idiots. They are impossible to please.

9. Don't expect idiots to appreciate you. They don't have the capacity to do so.

10. Don't let idiots ruin your day. They are not worth it.

11. Don't become an idiot yourself. It's easy to do, but it's important to remember that there is no excuse for bad behavior.

12. Learn to laugh at idiots. It's the best way to cope with them.

13. Don't take yourself too seriously. Idiots will try to make you feel bad about yourself, but don't let them.

14. Remember that you are not alone. Everyone has to deal with idiots at some point in their lives.

15. Be kind to yourself. Dealing with idiots can be stressful, so make sure to take care of yourself.

Sutton's book is a humorous and insightful guide to dealing with idiots. It is a must-read for anyone who has ever had to deal with a difficult person.

I hope these lessons help you to deal with idiots effectively and to protect yourself from their negative influence.

02/10/2024

May we never make sacrifices for people who are undeserving of it.

May we never encounter heartless people in the guise of living their truth.

May we never build fruitless foundations

18/09/2024

In this hard times, Bro, don't stress yourself. Let her talk to who she wants, do what she wants, text who she wants, spend her time with who she wants and crush whomever she feels attracted to.

What you should do is, just keep respecting her space and if she decides to mess it all up, then it can never be your making. At the end, she'll have to live with losing the best person to ever understand her personality, respect her decisions and to walk in her life harmlessly.

Be the Man and don't bother what she does.

Truly, your silence will definitely be enough reason to make her rethink, but if she doesn't, move on bro and find peace elsewhere. She ain't gonna deserve your decorum.

And, don't bother looking back if she comes begging for a reunion, she isn't just sorry, instead she's coming from the point of pity after being rejected and abused somewhere she left you to.

I tell you this, she's not repented rather she's begging to coerce you to forgiveness, which leads you to pitying her and being emotionally hurting.

Be the Man and take decisive decision.

What is in Amaka is also in Nkechi.

Don't compare, rather appreciate the package. That's your demon, deal with it.

It's hard time. Everyone is struggling.

Don't simp. Don't be Solomonuishly deceived by their attractions.

You've heard.
🤔😎

09/12/2022