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10/01/2023

#1 problem of distant relationship
Not having what to say.

Since communication is one of the keys to keeping the relationship going. At this point you feel, there is nothing to talk about after you have given him/her all the gist you know in this world. Yes, it happens sometimes and you feel like you are stuck, like you have gotten to the end of the road.

This is what you can do.
Get a notepad and write out questions about the future of the two of you or questions to know the perception of the other party about things related to life.

Example: babe how did you see couples having a pet like a dog or a cat in the house?

Note: You need to understand the state of your partner, people go through stuff. Imagine someone who had a very bad day, boring him with questions can set the house on fire. So just take things easy.

10/01/2023

Lets tackle some of the major problems in distant Relationship.

09/01/2023

Ingredients for distant Relationship
• strong commitment
• patient
• Trust
• frequent communication
• no secrecy
• Respect for each other
• willingness to sacrifice

Distance relationship is good but very few people can survive it.

09/01/2023

Hello famz!
I am fully online again...

The center focus for this month will be on distant Relationship...

28/12/2022

15 reasons why you are not with the Mr/Mrs Right

1. You Don't see people for who they are.
2. You are making decisions because you want someone to fill your loneliness.
3. You are not sure of what you want in relationship.
4. You don't have self esteem and you don't know it.
5. You want to change everything about your partner by all means
6. You focus more on your words rather than acting it.
7. You forget that you can take yourself out and have fun.
8. You Don't know how to communicate your feelings and your perceptive without hurting anyone.
9. Too much of fake life... Be real!!!
10. You allowed fear to hold you down with the wrong person.
11. You are trying too hard to change who you are to keep a person. Be yourself.
12. You are Rushing! This is not sugar rush. Good things happens sometimes slow and steady. First of all be friends of each other.
13. You don't seek for advice or counsel.
14. You still want you still want your "ex"
15. You keep crushing on people that are engaged or married.

Conclusion
Once you find that you are habitually falling in love with the wrong person, this doesn’t have to be the end of it. Note that you are doing wrongly and do otherwise.

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28/12/2022

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27/12/2022

THE SIX QUALITIES YOU SHOULD NOTE BEFORE YOU MAKE DECSION TO MARRY HIM/HER

1. MARRY YOUR SPEAKING MATE: Marry someone with whom you can communicate and understand each other. Communication is extremely important in marriage. Don't marry someone who, when you say 'A,' responds with 'Z.' You can't enjoy a marriage if there is a schism between your speaking and understanding levels. Because their wives can't engage in any meaningful intellectual discussion, many men go to bars to hang out with friends and gist until 11 p.m. Many women prefer to spend time with their friends because they know their husband's mentality on important issues and discussions is very low. Marry your talking partner.
2. MARRY YOUR 'SCHOOL' MATE: By this, I mean marry someone with whom you can learn and grow together. Don't marry a 'Mr Know All' or a 'Miss Know All'. Marry someone who is closed to new ideas, new ways of doing things, or new innovations. Marriage is a wonderful institution. You will continue to learn from day one until the day you die. Marry your ‘schoolmate,' someone who is eager to learn alongside you.
3. MARRY YOUR SPIRITUAL MATE: Marriage is more than a social contract. It also represents a spiritual union. Marry someone who believes in the same God you do. Don't marry someone who believes in God differently than you do. Two cannot work together unless they agree ( Amos 3:3, Joshua 23: 11-15, 2 Corinthians 6:14-18). Even in marriage, the spiritual governs the physical. Examine the person you want to marry for spiritual compatibility.
4. MARRY YOUR SPENDING MATE: Do not marry a stingy person. There are numerous expenses to consider when planning a wedding. A stingy guy in courtship will not become a generous husband after marriage. Don't marry a lady that has the financial philosophy of ' My husband's money is our money, but my money is my money'. Marry someone who believes in the dignity of labor and is willing to work, not a slacker who only wants to be a consumer and not a contributor. Marry someone who is willing to spend and be spent for the family's growth and success.
5. MARRY YOUR S*X MATE: Marry someone with whom you share s*xual feelings. S*xual attraction is not a sin. It's a natural instinct that God gave to everyone. S*x is crucial to the success of any marriage. If you don't have any emotional feelings for a man, don't marry him. Leave her alone if you don't have any feelings for her. A s*xual being is also a spiritual being. No matter how spiritual you are in your marriage, you will not be praying 24 hours a day. You won't be reading the Bible or worshiping God all the time. There will be s*x! You will fall in love! You'll be flirting with each other! You will have children. So, marry someone with whom you can connect s*xually. It will make your marriage so much more enjoyable!
6. MARRY YOUR SOCIAL MATE: Do not marry someone with whom you will not be proud to go out. Don't marry someone you'll be embarrassed to introduce to others. Marry someone with whom you feel at ease. Marry someone with whom you are socially compatible. Don't marry someone who is anti-social.

27/12/2022

SEVEN (7) WRONG THINGS SINGLE LADIES DOES WHILE IN RELATIONSHIP.

1. When you visit a man's house, don't take things without his consent or permission, no matter how small it is, or how close you are to him. take it or leave it, it's amount to stealing and trust men are very sensitive and it will surely end the whole thing...

2. If you have a date with a man, don't go there with your girlfriend(s) without his consent or the permission of the man. Or start making orders of things without his consent, he may not be prepared for the two of you and besides some ladies have lost their man to their friends owing to this attitude...

3. Stop telling a man a particular amount of money he is going to give you when you come around no matter your financial difficulties, such attitudes is for prostitutes and can even make you loose your future husband, because the man will think that's how you go about striking deals with different men...

4. Ladies, please stop asking your man if his mother is dead or alive, that question is very embarrassing and raises a red flag alert. Remember one day you will also be a mother too.

5. Don't come into a man's life and start creating problems between the man's family and his friends, apply wisdom, use your discretion and be wise. once his friends hates you. I don't think you are safe no matter how beautiful you are.

6. Please STOP visiting a man empty handed. Aunty, even if it's a loaf of bread, buy and go visiting, it shows you are reasonable and responsible. You can't come empty hand only to collect and go, use your brain.

7. Sit down with your man and discuss business or future plans and agendas with him. listen to him and observe him, look at him from 20 years ahead. Stop thinking that only tatatata or wotowoto is what you can afford or bring to the table. Be more resourceful... Most ladies don't care about this, they only say am catching cruise and vibes by eating pepper soup and transport fare that's why you end up marrying useless men..

26/12/2022

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16/12/2022

Starting from January, i will start doing live video session and as well i will drop my personal number here so people can reach out to me for counseling and advice.

The spirit of Christmas...

03/12/2022

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23/11/2022

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16/11/2022

Many people don't know that you can get the best out of your partner when you help them to have a good sleep.

You are wondering if you or your partner Increase Your Sleep will make your relationship better?

Being the best version of yourself can be achieved by getting to bed and rising early.

It is real.

Research shows that those who go to bed around 10 p.m. and wake up at 6 a.m.

possess improved critical thinking abilities
are funnier
less likely to binge consume
Increase your positive energy and improve your memory and focus
possess a lower risk of developing depression
Look more handsome and rested.
Scientists believe that because early risers operate with their circadian rhythm, they may perform better. Early risers receive higher solar exposure, which affects general wellbeing.

Additionally, early risers have more time in the mornings to relax while getting ready for the day. How does that function?

Well, take into account that a different study discovered that individuals who develop the practice of showing up at work 15 minutes early tend to experience fewer migraine headaches on average. You don't tens up when you're delayed by a train or a string of red lights. Still arrive on time.

Therefore, think about modifying your schedule if you are prone to stress, seasonal depression, or just a lack of mental structure. Your capacity to operate can much improve by going to bed an hour or two earlier and establishing a regular wake-up time.

15/11/2022

3 Ways to Decrease Frustration



If your monitor decides that you’re putting in too much effort for too little progress, frustration kicks in. You get angry. Why isn’t this working?

If the situation continues, you might get so frustrated that you give up completely. What’s the point?

Now you know—and I know—that love is always worth it. Just because it’s unpredictable doesn’t mean we should give up on the goal of lasting lifelong love.

So you need to find some way to deal with this “love frustration.”

There are 3 different things you can try:

Change your goal.
Change the amount and/or type of effort you’re putting in.
Change your expectations about how much effort you need to put in to see progress.
If your goal is to meet your soulmate and live happily ever after, it’s no wonder you feel frustrated. Can you set a goal that you know you can achieve with reasonable effort?

For example, you could set a goal of going out on one first date every month, or spending a certain amount of time each week on an online dating site or app.

Next, is the effort you’re putting in towards your goal the right kind of effort?

For example, you might believe that the way you look needs to change if you’re going to get more male attention. So you spend a lot of time in the gym. But all those gym hours mean that you’re spending less time putting yourself out there and meeting people. Changing how you look isn’t actually resulting in more dates.

Finally, are you being realistic about what it’s going to take to achieve your goal?

Sometimes we think that things should be easier than they really are. We want to meet someone and instantly fall in love. We don’t want to keep going out on date after date, getting to know this person better and figuring out whether we have a promising connection.

So whenever you get frustrated in love, ask yourself those 3 questions:

Is my goal the best goal for this situation?
Am I putting in the right kind and right amount of effort?
Am I being realistic about how much work it will be to achieve my goal?
And watch that frustration dissolve into determination!

04/11/2022

6 things that kill relationships over and over. Avoid it!!!

While some people are fiercely dedicated to the single life, human nature and evolutionary biology mean that the vast majority of people crave an intimate relationship.
Yet sustaining those relationships is not easy. Roughly 40 percent of first marriages fail, while subsequent marriages are even less likely to succeed.
The reasons are as varied as the individuals, but here are 6 of the most common relationship problems that lead to a breakup.

1. Trust issues
Trust is absolutely essential to the companionship and intimacy that hold relationships together. Yet it is also one of the hardest things to earn and keep. Trust issues run the gamut from financial choices to emotional dependability.
Often, there is an underlying issue that was never fully discussed and resolved, such as one partner’s betting or an inability to agree on whether to relocate to a new place. Over time, these unresolved issues can carry over into your day-to-day relationship, casting a cloud of suspicion and doubt over even the most mundane situations.

2. Infidelity and jealousy
While trust can break down in many facets of a relationship, suspected or confirmed infidelity can be the hardest to overcome. From emotional affairs to physical dalliances, infidelity tends to destroy nearly half of the relationships that it impacts. Even if you decide to stay together, learning to rebuild what you had before is an arduous and emotionally draining experience.

This is equally true in cases where no affair actually occurred, but accusations were made. Because infidelity is such a devastating experience, being falsely accused can feel like an intensely personal attack, destroying trust and intimacy. It is absolutely critical that you avoid making accusations without proof, and talk out any fears or doubts you have in a non-threatening and open way.

3. Communication difficulties
Many couples struggle with communication, often claiming that they speak different languages. Yet failure to communicate can also lead a once-close couple to begin operating in completely different spheres, living more like roommates than partners.

Over time, you will begin to feel isolated and lonely and might seek emotional intimacy elsewhere. Lack of communication can lead to contempt, or the tendency for every meaningful conversation to devolve into sarcasm and belittling rather than healthy resolution.

4. Lack of balance
Unbalanced relationships are particularly common among young couples and those with new children or aging parents, but they can happen to anyone. Imbalance occurs when one or both partners fail to prioritize the relationship, instead of placing unusual importance on other people or other situations.
It is normal for relationships to ebb and flow, and in times of crisis, it is only natural for the relationship to take a backseat. When it becomes a problem, though, is when one partner begins to feel consistently taken for granted, unheard, or devalued.

Examples of a lack of balance that can destroy a relationship include: always spending more time with friends after work, or one partner making all decisions. Even when you are coping with issues outside your relationship, be sure to check in frequently with your partner and let him or her call some of the shots.

5. Compatibility problems
Opposites may attract, but it is extremely tough to keep a relationship of opposites together. Basic compatibility on such things as values and worldview is essential to a comfortable, long-term relationship. If you are radically different, respect and compromise are absolutely critical.
Everything from whether to relocate, whether to attend the same church could be a sticking point for couples without basic compatibility. Over time, only the most stubbornly dedicated couples are able to overcome major compatibility problems.

6. Abusive behavior
Abuse should never be tolerated in any relationship, but abusive behaviors tend to fall along a continuum. Rage, disrespect, and emotional stonewalling may not be relationship-ending in and of themselves, but continuing patterns can wear people down. An inability or unwillingness to respect your partner’s thoughts, beliefs, and feelings can destroy the trust and intimacy in any relationship.

While these common relationship problems can destroy relationships, they can also be opportunities to get your relationship back on track. If you and your partner face difficulties, consider seeking advice from a professional counselor. If both people are willing and able to face their own responsibilities in the situation, with a lot of hard work, the relationship can often be saved.

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31/10/2022

6 things that kills relationship over and over. Avoid it!!!

While some people are fiercely dedicated to the single life, human nature and evolutionary biology mean that the vast majority of people crave an intimate relationship.
Yet sustaining those relationships is not easy. Roughly 40 percent of first marriages fail, while subsequent marriages are even less likely to succeed.
The reasons are as varied as the individuals, but here are 6 of the most common relationship problems that lead to a breakup.

1. Trust issues
Trust is absolutely essential to the companionship and intimacy that hold relationships together. Yet it is also one of the hardest things to earn and keep. Trust issues run the gamut from financial choices to emotional dependability.
Often, there is an underlying issue that was never fully discussed and resolved, such as one partner’s betting or an inability to agree on whether to relocate to a new place. Over time, these unresolved issues can carry over into your day-to-day relationship, casting a cloud of suspicion and doubt over even the most mundane situations.

2. Infidelity and jealousy
While trust can break down in many facets of a relationship, suspected or confirmed infidelity can be the hardest to overcome. From emotional affairs to physical dalliances, infidelity tends to destroy nearly half of the relationships that it impacts. Even if you decide to stay together, learning to rebuild what you had before is an arduous and emotionally draining experience.

This is equally true in cases where no affair actually occurred, but accusations were made. Because infidelity is such a devastating experience, being falsely accused can feel like an intensely personal attack, destroying trust and intimacy. It is absolutely critical that you avoid making accusations without proof, and talk out any fears or doubts you have in a non-threatening and open way.

3. Communication difficulties
Many couples struggle with communication, often claiming that they speak different languages. Yet failure to communicate can also lead a once-close couple to begin operating in completely different spheres, living more like roommates than partners.

Over time, you will begin to feel isolated and lonely and might seek emotional intimacy elsewhere. Lack of communication can lead to contempt, or the tendency for every meaningful conversation to devolve into sarcasm and belittling rather than healthy resolution.

4. Lack of balance
Unbalanced relationships are particularly common among young couples and those with new children or aging parents, but they can happen to anyone. Imbalance occurs when one or both partners fail to prioritize the relationship, instead of placing unusual importance on other people or other situations.
It is normal for relationships to ebb and flow, and in times of crisis, it is only natural for the relationship to take a backseat. When it becomes a problem, though, is when one partner begins to feel consistently taken for granted, unheard, or devalued.

Examples of a lack of balance that can destroy a relationship include: always spending more time with friends after work, or one partner making all decisions. Even when you are coping with issues outside your relationship, be sure to check in frequently with your partner and let him or her call some of the shots.

5. Compatibility problems
Opposites may attract, but it is extremely tough to keep a relationship of opposites together. Basic compatibility on such things as values and worldview is essential to a comfortable, long-term relationship. If you are radically different, respect and compromise are absolutely critical.
Everything from whether to relocate, whether to attend the same church could be a sticking point for couples without basic compatibility. Over time, only the most stubbornly dedicated couples are able to overcome major compatibility problems.

6. Abusive behavior
Abuse should never be tolerated in any relationship, but abusive behaviors tend to fall along a continuum. Rage, disrespect, and emotional stonewalling may not be relationship-ending in and of themselves, but continuing patterns can wear people down. An inability or unwillingness to respect your partner’s thoughts, beliefs, and feelings can destroy the trust and intimacy in any relationship.

While these common relationship problems can destroy relationships, they can also be opportunities to get your relationship back on track. If you and your partner face difficulties, consider seeking advice from a professional counselor. If both people are willing and able to face their own responsibilities in the situation, with a lot of hard work, the relationship can often be saved.

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