07/03/2024
How I Rejected Bribe at 24
By Adedara Oduguwa, Ph.D
Immediately after I finished my Bachelor of Science degree, I was interjected by family home demands. Father would graciously ask his undergraduate kids to take over his business dealings and give you some adult responsibilities (in politics and traditional affairs). My case was not exceptional.
On this particular occasion, I was to meet with one of my uncles, who recently got #85,000,000 for one of the family lands. I will henceforth refer to him as ‘the man with the money’. The entire family were angry with him and I intervened being the family secretary at the time.
I have my uncles who were King, Baale, Otunba and my dad in the meeting. I asked for permission to talk to the ‘man with the money’. We are family and we don't have to take ourselves to court or the police.
As a young boy at the time, everyone trusted me even more than they could trust any of my uncles. I have chosen a simple life from my childhood. And never would anyone doubt me. As a child, I have never stolen from my dad/mum or taken meat from the pot without permission. I don't smoke, drink or womanize. I was a gentle teetotal.
So, one of my uncles who lived in Lagos was to accompany me to the man with the 85m. He's not rich and in need of money like most people. Of course, who does not need money?
We moved to ‘the man with the money’. He was a blind but very intelligent man. When we got there, he said ‘ Dara omo mi (Dara my son). How is your mum? She's a very good woman. Dara, you know you are my favourite of all my brother’s children. You resemble me with intelligence and my brother with wisdom. You are doing very well and keep it up.’
I thanked him for the kind remark and told him why we were there. He said ‘ I know your reason for coming here. You are a formidable person they could send. But you see, there is so much to share. You will have to come to my side of the divide. Today, I will start with with you. Your uncle that came with you will also go home with something. Then, we have to strategize. I have the brain, you have the leg. How old are you now?’ _the man with the money asked.
“I am 24 years old Sir. I was born April 10th, 1985.”_I responded.
“Wow! No wonder. I was born April too some 70 years ago. April born are very clever people. I am blind, but my brain is still working. I will make you very rich before you are 25. You know my brother (he was referring to my dad) built his first house at 23. He was working in Lagos. In your case, you won't have to work. Our ancestors have provided all you will eat.”_He submitted.
My Lagos uncle who accompanied me was very happy with his facial expressions. He looked at me and signalled we should take the money. I signalled ‘no problem’ but I need to urinate.
I stood up when I realised he was not ready to release the money to the family. But he was ready to give me a cut if I was ready to betray those who sent me. I didn't think twice. I was not enticed. The looks like - debt to me. As I moved towards the car. My Lagos uncle came.
“Dara, this is a great opportunity for us. Baba (referring to my dad) already has his money. This is the best time to have your own. Let's take this money. It's our share. Or what are you thinking of doing?”
“Well, I don't need his money. If you want to take it you can go back to him. I won't tell anyone what transpired here. How can I betray those who sent us? For me, this is more than money. Unfortunately, I don't have any money in my account, but if I take the money from him, what will I use it to do?” _I asked.
“You could build a house, and keep the remaining.”_He said.
At the time, #2.5m would complete a 3-bedroom flat. So, he was right. The ‘man with the money’ had already bought two different jeeps and renovated his house. I don't know if he built other houses. The money with him was enough to buy a street at Ogere. He had some members of the families with him, who he must have cut part of the cake with.
I entered the car and asked if my Lagos uncle was going or not. He followed me reluctantly and disappointedly. I pushed Ebenezer Obey’s song button. From Ogere to Sagamu, I didn't say a word to him. For this act, my Lagos uncle refused to talk to me again. Even to this day.
I didn't build a house until I was 27. But throughout my father's and all my uncle's days, I was well respected, trusted and loved. Everyone, even my uncles who were kings, could quickly trust me with their lives. Today, everything ‘the man with the money’ enticed me with, I have them and much more.
A few years later, my dad entrusted me with the responsibility I didn't believe any father would entrust to a child. He asked me to write his ‘Will’. Something, I was a beneficiary of. I delivered it and the same Will was read after his funeral.
It was funny how my dad told everyone that the Will was written in South Africa. His lawyers were shocked they didn't know how he wrote it. They were only given to read and make amendments where necessary.
When I had politicians stealing billions, I knew it was not because of hunger but the insatiable desire to either impress, oppress or suppress others’ will. Perhaps, it could also be the inferiority of the mind, that makes many think until they have the universe (through stealing) they cannot control human minds.
But for me, at almost 4 decades here, I have not stolen nor lied to achieve anything. I have worked hard but meticulously and I have been blessed with contentment and lots of happiness. Looking back, I am thankful to my Creator for choosing me to live by the truth.
I know you need money, but don't steal to be in means and lie to be on the through and when you acquire wealth, don't oppress, impress or suppress the will of others.
Thank you for reading.