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28/01/2025
The 2face and Annie Idibia saga has reinforced these thoughts I have had and I hope it is a lesson for the singles who are yet to marry.
1. The power is in your hands: dear single ladies, the way God designed marriage requires the woman to submit to whoever she is married to; no matter who the man is. Now the power in your hands is the ability to choose that man you want to submit to. It is up to you to do a thorough assessment of the man so you can decide if he is worth your submission. The dating stage before saying yes to a proposal should be used to consider not things like his wealth but his character. Wealth can always come but character hardly changes. Assess deeply his character and ask yourself, is this the man I want to be submissive to all my life? If the answer is no, do not go into it.
Many may argue, that the man may change along the line, but you see, even though that is a rare occurrence you would at least be comforted in the fact that you didn’t see those negative threats before you said I do.
2. Allow the man to love you more: Let the man do the chasing, do not offer yourself so cheaply to the man. Men are natural hunters, they love chasing. Anything given to them on a platter of gold is not often valued. Experience from many marriages have shown that it is better for the man to love you more, that way he will protect you no matter how he strays. It is not easy for men to love but when they do, it sticks for a long time.
3. Don’t portray yourself as one that accepts anything. No! Anything should not be condoned by you. Clearly state your boundries from the onset. Do not manage the relationship and do not understand things that you should talk about, discuss and possibly determine if it is a deal breaker. For instance, the man is a chronic womanizer, you have all the evidence that he is but you still go ahead to think that him marrying you will put a stop to that! No way! When it comes to men, I have realised that it is only God in heaven that can influence or change them. It is often difficult for them to leave how they function. So set your boundaries from the beginning so everyone will know where they stand.
4. Do not be carried away by money, wealth, riches. These factors may make marriage interesting, yes, but then when it comes packaged with a spouse with a bad character, a spouse you have to defend all the time, a spouse that makes you live in your shadows, a spouse that makes you thread carefully, a spouse that does not give you peace of mind etc, then don’t go for it. Wealth is sweeter when it comes with positive vibes. Abi you be one of those people wey say them prefer to cry for Range Rover? Dey play! Just Dey play.