11/06/2025
My husband has never respected me because I only have HND, while he has a master's degree even though I’ve done other courses to build myself up.
My husband keeps saying we're married because I was pregnant and his mother f0rced him. He always talks about how smart he is and how I wouldn't understand certain topics.
When he decided to start a business, he chose to do it with his ex-girlfriend, saying she had a BSc and her parents were rich so it made more sense. I felt really in$ult£d, not just because she was his ex, but because he kept acting like I wasn't good enough to be his business partner in anything serious.
I was upset, so I did something I normally wouldn't do, I messaged the husband of the ex-girlfriend and told him what was going on. l asked him to speak to his wife and tell her to leave my husband alone. Not long after that, things got m£ssy between them.
My husband came home fuming, saying l had ruined a great opportunity for him and made him look unprofessional.
He said I was jealous and b@d belle. I didn't say much at the time, but I felt very húřț that he still couldn't see how wrong he was.
A few months later, I started a catering business with my friend (female) . We started small, just weekend orders for birthday parties and baby showers, but it grew fast because our food was good and our customer service was excellent. We were getting regular bookings, and people started recommending us on social media.
We eventually got a small space and began doing lunch deliveries to offices. By word of mouth a radio station invited us to talk about women in small business. I felt proud for the first time in my life.
Now my husband says he wants to come on board as a partner to my business. He says I owe him, since I spoiled his own business with his ex. He said he can bring structure and contacts, but I told him we're doing just fine. He keeps insisting that I wouldn't have thought of the business idea if I hadn't seen him trying to do something with his ex, which is not true.
I'm confused between keeping him far away from what l've built or trying to find a way to work together without losing control.
What do you advise? This business is affecting my marriage.
