25/01/2024
10 Lessons from Unwinding Anxiety by Judson Brewer:
1. Anxiety as a Habit Loop: Brewer reframes anxiety not as a mental illness, but as a learned habit fueled by a reward-based feedback loop in the brain. Triggers (stress, negativity) prompt anxious behaviors (scrolling, overthinking), which provide temporary relief, reinforcing the loop.
2. Mapping Your Anxiety: To break the loop, Brewer suggests charting your triggers, behaviors, and rewards using the "TBR Model." By becoming aware of the cycle, you can start to interrupt it.
3. Curiosity as the Antidote: Instead of fighting or judging your anxiety, Brewer encourages cultivating curiosity. Ask yourself, "What's happening in my body right now?" and observe sensations without judgment. This disrupts the negative feedback loop.
4. The POWER Model: To further weaken the loop, Brewer proposes the "POWER Model": Pause, Observe, Wonder, Explore, and Reframe. This mindful approach helps you step outside the automatic reaction and explore new possibilities.
5. Mindfulness Hacks: Brewer suggests small, accessible mindfulness practices to build awareness and interrupt anxiety. These include mindful breathing, body scans, and short nature walks. Consistency is key to rewiring your brain.
6. Acceptance is Key: Don't fight the wave of anxiety; learn to ride it. Accepting the presence of anxiety without judgment weakens its power and reduces avoidance behaviors.
7. Compassion as Fuel: Self-compassion is crucial in breaking free from the anxiety loop. Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, recognizing that setbacks are part of the learning process.
8. Beyond Medication: While acknowledging the role of medication for some, Brewer emphasizes the importance of self-directed practices like mindfulness and curiosity for long-term anxiety management.
9. The "Bigger Better Offer": Instead of replacing your anxious behavior with another unhealthy one, find a "bigger better offer" that truly nourishes you. This could be exercise, connecting with loved ones, or engaging in a creative pursuit.
10. Practice, Not Perfection: Remember, rewiring your brain takes time and practice. Don't get discouraged by setbacks; view them as learning opportunities. Celebrate small victories and keep showing up for yourself.
Remember, you're not alone. Brewer encourages building a support system of people who understand and accept your journey with anxiety. Sharing your experiences can be a powerful tool for healing and growth.
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