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05/08/2020

What is a ‘normal’ s*x drive?

In lieu of concrete determiners, we often gauge our personal s*x drives by comparing ourselves to those of the people we sleep with, discuss s*x with or choose to read about. But s*xual desire is on a spectrum, which means there is no 'normal' when it comes to your s*x drive and how often you might want to have s*x.

When is a high s*x drive a problem?

A high s*x drive usually isn’t a problem if you do not feel ruled by your s*xual urges or thoughts. If you have a high s*x drive and are having all the satisfying s*x you crave, then you might actually be rather pleased with it!

But you may struggle with your high s*x drive if you experience any of the following:

✔️ You are not able to achieve satisfaction, no matter how much s*x or ma********on you have.

✔️ You are not able to get the amount or type of s*x you desire.

✔️ You are troubled or shamed by persistent fantasises.

✔️ You regularly sacrifice work, social or sleep time for your s*xual exploits.

✔️ You have sore ge****ls from excessive s*x or ma********on.

✔️ You habitually seek out unsatisfactory or risky s*xual exploits.

✔️ You feel bad that your pursuit of s*xual satisfaction prevents you from having a relationship.

An out of control s*xuality can also be hard for those around you. You may think you are fine, but your boss, your partner or your mates might fear that you are spending too much time in the pursuit or s*x. Either these people don’t understand you, or you are in denial about your problematic relationship with s*x.

A high s*x drive can be a symptom of something medical – either a condition or the medication you take. This can include the results of Parkinson’s medication, some brain injuries, mania, hormonal imbalances and an overactive thyroid. If you do experience an unexplained change in your libido, it’s wise to get checked out by your doctor.

Other possible psychological and social causes can include:

Grief.
Stress, anxiety and depression.
Unresolved trauma – s*xual or otherwise.
Shame surrounding one’s s*xual preferences, experiences or body image.
A lack of fulfilment and/or control over one’s life.
Distorted beliefs around love, s*x and intimacy.
A lack of self-esteem and/or social anxiety.
An all or nothing approach to life which can make downtime or boredom hard to cope with.
An inability to properly process one’s emotions.
Feeling stuck in relationship with someone who wants to have less s*x.

How can I lower my high s*x drive?
If you are concerned that you have an overly high s*x drive, try the following tips:

1. Talk about it
Whatever the cause, if you are not happy with your s*x life, talking therapy can help you offload, explore thoughts, feelings, experiences and desires around s*x, love, relationships and beyond. Establishing what you want from your life in general and then working out realistic ways to get it can help you feel more in control and less at the mercy of your urges.

2. Interrupt your urges
When I ask s*xually compulsive clients if they have ever not acted on a s*xual urge – whether it’s ma********ng in the office loos or booking an appointment with a s*x worker — they often say no. Understanding that s*xual urges - much like cravings for ci******es or cake - do pass if un-fuelled by yearning thoughts or actions, can be a revelation.

If you become aroused and you don't want to act on your urges, here are few things you can do:

✔️ Try mental gymnastics, for example practice your 26 times table.

✔️ Focus on something else; search your surroundings for squares or anything blue.

✔️ Refer to a list you’ve made about how great your partner is, or what you will gain from not acting out.

✔️ Download a CBT help sheet like this and work out what may have exacerbated your urge. Are you bored? Hungover? Hungry? Tired? Stressed? Had a row with someone? This can help you to see patterns and then gain control.

3. Channel your energy
Some people derive great relief, pleasure and pride from channelling their s*xual energy into other things. This could mean doing something creative, physical, thrilling or spiritual. Popular pursuits include long distance running, dancing, learning the guitar, abseiling, DIY, cooking, yoga and Ta**ra.

4. Work on finding satisfying s*x
High s*x drives can be particularly tormenting for those who struggle to find s*xual partners. Be free to express your s*x life with your partner.

5. Work through relationship issues
Some high s*x drive people in monogamous relationships frequently beg their partner for s*x. It's important you get a partner with the same urge as u do to avoid one suffering in the relationship.

6. Take something to lower your s*xual urges
If your s*xual urges are occupying your every waking thought and becoming problematic, there are a few things you can take to decrease your s*x drive:

Anaphrodisiacs: Just as aphrodisiacs such as oysters or chocolate are said to enhance the libido, anaphrodisiacs are said to dull it. There are a number of food ingredients, herbs and supplements that fall into this category including soy, liquorice, chasteberry, hops and wild lettuce.

Antidepressants: much has been written about antidepressants, particularly SSRIs, dulling the libido. Antipsychotics can also have this side affect. While they are not specifically designed to lower the s*x drive, some doctors do prescribe them for this reason.

Reversible chemical castration: hormone drug therapy can often be seen as a last resort. While women can have problematic s*x drives, at present these drugs are only being prescribed to men. Cyproterone and Triptorelin both lower the production of testosterone. This treatment is basically a reversible chemical castration.

Change your medication: if your medication is causing you to feel more aroused than usual, it may be possible to change your medication or lower the dosage - enough to take the edge of the urges but still to help whatever it is you are taking it for. Always seek medical advice before changing your medication.

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